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Finally had enough.

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

My roommate is getting her car on the road this week, so I am going to be out of here and even if it is sitting by the lake, doing nothing, I'm not making meals any more. I pay all the bills, buy most of the food, which I am going to stop, and with my van on the road, I am going to be mobile again, I'm going to enjoy life, and when I leave here, I am going alone. I spoke to my son today and I will be visiting them more, even if I have to sit on the bottom step and scooch my way up to them. I hate and at the same time, I like having them here, but it is just more than I can stand. I am also having a very large motor home made so I can travel with my jewelry any go where I am needed to help with fund raisers all over the states. I hope to meet a lot of my friends here finally in person and to be able to thank you all for being here with me. Today what set me off was, my roommate and her mom and that woman that hurt me are off to the casino for lunch and gaming, John and his mom are also there. So as I sit here I get angrier and angrier and finally I blew. So now Cathy knows how I am feeling, so maybe they will all understand when I get going I'm not looking back. It will be nice to spend time with my daughter in law and grandson's, and not hurry home to feed anyone. I will get home and go to my room and watch tv, and post on here to let you all know what a great day I had.

I love you, and can't wait to actually give you all a hug. emoticon
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JLPEASE 3/3/2013 2:12PM

    I hope you enjoy your day!!
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SAPNA. 3/3/2013 7:16AM

    If you are making things again can I have a mauve necklace? My sister took the one you made me.
Myrna.

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SEAWILLOW 2/28/2013 11:02AM

    Great plans! You can do it!

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SPARKLEMAMMY 2/28/2013 10:51AM

    Moon I fully agree with KOSHIE1's post here she is a wise woman. I also have been following your blogs for a long time. It is now time for you to get rid of them all even the room mate.

You have to start living for your self now and only looking after YOU.

Get rid of all the hangers on as a first step and do not open your doors to any more hard luck stories. You have been there for all these users and yet what have they ever done for you. NOTHING, they only bring you heartache and fleece you of your money. When the money runs out they are nowhere to be seen. Keep strong and safe emoticon

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NEWKATHYNOW 2/27/2013 9:32PM

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GEORGIAGIRL26 2/27/2013 7:37PM

    Sorry you had a rough time.
Hope that you are doing much better.
Sending lots of hugs your way! Holly emoticon

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GLC2009 2/27/2013 6:08PM

    koshie1 is a smart cookie. listen to her. and i lean toward not sharing this with the roommate. tell roommate the 3 month thing. but, the roommate is not part of the ownership, not your life partner or anything. so leave it at that. then when the moochers are gone, you can just say you changed your mind about selling or then explain that you did what you felt you needed to do to get rid of the moochers. cuz you don't want to risk the roommate discussing the truth with the moochers.
although, i would hope that if the roommate is paying her full share of expenses she would be dying to get rid of the moochers, too.
good luck.

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ITSREALLYONLYME 2/27/2013 4:32PM

    I agree with Koshie1, except I would include the room mate in the equation. Room mate implies someone who is paying half of the expenses. I hope they did not use YOUR van to go to the casino. Have you tried going to any churches to meet people? I know my church has a very active woman's group, most are very welcoming. It seems that you need to find friends NOT where you live. Your life will be much brighter if you take control of it and stop being a doormat. Your friends here support you and want what is best for you and nothing more. I hope you stick to your guns this time.

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KOSHIE1 2/27/2013 3:14PM

    Dear Lady...,
when I first joined SP 3 years ago, yours were blogs I read frequently. I had to stop after awhile because your problems were truly overwhelming your ability to handle them and I could not help. You were SO lonely and stuck in a cycle of depression...

Today, I read a number of your past blogs randomly. It seems that you combated your loneliness by gathering a circle of moochers about you. Fairly recently you felt suicidal. But yesterday was WONDERFUL NEWS! You finally found the strength to be ANGRY!

All of us here know that you have to get rid of the moochers as a first step (It would be very unwise to leave them in your home while you simply leave....). If you truly are ready to, as this blog seems to indicate, may I suggest that you inform *everyone* that you "MUST" put the place up for sale and therefore they *all* MUST leave? Go ahead and talk to the realtors. Actually put it on the market. (You don't actually have to accept any offers....)

Real friends will help you fix up the place and maybe even put a bit of their own money in it to help you out with the sudden expenses. And it would be nice to have real help and a nicer place for awhile, yes? Real moochers will simply disappear. Once they are gone, you will be free to go on your travels without worries...

And for heaven's sake, don't think that ANY of them are going to "understand" your hurt feelings. The only thing they will understand is that their gravy train (you) is drying up and they will attempt to make you feel guilty! Hang onto your anger! It IS righteous! Honey, you offered them YOUR help and companionship in EXCHANGE for THEIR help and companionship. You don't owe them food and shelter and other services for their little companionship and big hurts!

So DON'T explain (explanations weaken your position and allow them to exploit weaknesses in your arguments). Your position must be very simple and very clear: "I have had ENOUGH! I can do it no longer. I am no longer in any position to continue providing for you and consequently you MUST leave." Provide a "get out" date and demand the return of any keys immediately (or change/add locks!). Let them know that any stuff will be picked up by charity after the deadline has passed. Never EVER say any more than that!

Let them see you talking to realtors. Let them see you working on wording for the advertisement you "intend" to place in the newspaper. Get out that "for sale by owner" sign. Be SURE someone overhears you arranging a packing and pick-up date with a charitable organization.

All these actions should be very convincing to your moochers. The only complication to this plan is your roommate who will be understandably concerned. But I wouldn't tell even her of the ruse until ALL the moochers are gone -- just reassure her that there is no way you will be kicking her out without 3 months notice. And good luck with moving on with your life...

Comment edited on: 2/27/2013 3:29:41 PM

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PATTYKLAVER 2/27/2013 8:20AM

    Relax and enjoy your day.

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SPARKLEMAMMY 2/27/2013 6:34AM

    Will they all be staying in your place while you are away traveling? I do hope not as it is time for you to ditch them all now from your life

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MORTICIAADDAMS 2/26/2013 5:34PM

    I think you are on the right track. You can't support all of these people and if they have the money to gamble they can support themselves.

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SHERRYGAYL 2/26/2013 3:09PM

    Whatever happens, sweetie, I truly hope you can get rid of the freeloaders. You deserve people who pull you up, not drag you down.

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