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Boy Child and Weight Gain

Monday, February 25, 2013

Well, boy child is being suspended for the rest of the week. He will be allowed to return to school on Monday. Any more offences before the end of the year, he will be expelled. We need to get through 15 weeks. This is going to be - tough!!! He made the first three years at this school without a problem. Now, everyday is a struggle.

I wish I knew how to get through to him. I just can’t. I know that is just part of autism. I know and understand that I’m lucky he functions as well as he does. I know the fact that he shows any social bonding should make me want to celebrate. I just so need to get through to him how important this is.

On the Kitty front, I'm up a ton of weight. I'm keeping to my promise to stay away from the scale until after my race on 3/9 but my jeans are a bit snug. I’m eating until I feel sick, which I haven’t done in over a year. I also try to get up and exercise – but I just start working around the house. I need to get it together.

I had my first real run in a while on Saturday and I did just under 2 miles in 22 minutes. So that’s an 11 minute mile, I don’t seem to have lost pace. What I have lost is endurance. Just 2 miles and I feel like I’m going to drop. I’m getting tired really fast. I don’t think the re-gained cushion I’m carrying is helping my endurance. Nor is my lack of regular cardio for the last month +. Not certain the candy and chips are really helping all that much either.

I know what to do and how to do it. I just need to get past the stress. I have so much stress right now. Walking/running became my stress relief. I can’t do that right now. So I’ve returned to my prior “bad” way of dealing with stress – food. I can’t allow that so I have to find OTHER stress relievers. I’ll get there. I know it.

Well, back to work tomorrow and hopefully back to my healthier life.
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    You have a lot on your plate, honey, but you can do this. You're a survivor.. you have survived before; you will get through this. PLUS I'm praying for you and yours...that's always a good thing! Love you!
    1778 days ago
    I'm catching up with your blogs so I'm reading them from the last one I haven't read, till the most recent one.

    I can tell it's a very very stressful period... I'm glad to read that your son will be back to school!

    Do what it takes to make you feel better, especially for your son. But for your own sake, try to stay true to yourself and your efforts. You have done an amazing job and we all have setbacks. Try to get back on track soon and see this as a break from reality.

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    1788 days ago
    You got this! emoticon
    1790 days ago
    You can do it. emoticon
    1792 days ago
    My boy is gonna be 18 come June....all thru the years....he's been a total muck up at school....Stay strong and try to get across that some day, he'll have to pay tha piper!
    1792 days ago
  • LIBRA73
    Wow, you have a lot on your plate!

    I know what it's like to have a child with special needs. My oldest was always in trouble, always looking for a new school. Luckily his probs weren't severe and he grew out of most things. Therapy has really helped with others. It's so hard!

    I know what you mean by eating too much. Sounds like nerves to me! I do that myself!

    Hugs girl! You will get thru this!
    1792 days ago
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    1792 days ago
    He only got suspended for a week. In the scheme of things, that's better than kicked out for the rest of the year. Do rewards motivate him? Maybe you could tell him that for every day he stays out of trouble, you'll do "x" for him or with him or give him some type of other reward.

    As for the stress eating, can you increase your water & veggies for a bit to keep from getting too many calories?

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    1792 days ago
    Wouldn't it be GREAT if there was some nice easy stress reliever that worked besides FOOD????? I've been stressed too, although obviously not over anything as significant as what you are dealing with (stressing over vacation and being gone a month pales in comparison to having a child be on the verge of getting expelled), and I've been eating poorly. It is just SO EASY to fall back in those bad habits :-(.

    I know that you will figure out what you need to do and make it happen - don't look back just look forwards!

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  • NEEDBU66
    Praying for you.
    1792 days ago
    Just catching up on your blogs. (((Kitty))) Just know I think you are an awesome lady.
    1792 days ago
    Sorry to hear about the outcome but what a relief it wasn't worse. I wish I had some words of wisdom that could help snap you out of the funk you are in. Maybe it's that time of the year? It's not just you. I have been struggling too. But I am really hoping you are not feeling as though you owe anything to anyone other than yourself. You are the only one you have to prove anything to. You are only accountable to yourself. We love you for who you are regardless if you are having a bad time or not. But I do know that you are going to be even more upset with yourself if you don't get a handle on it now. Start with one small change and work up from there. You will get there. I have faith in you.
    1792 days ago
    I am sorry to hear of the troubles with your son. I do not have any children, so try as I might, I cannot completely understand the stress you are experiencing.

    I am happy to see that you are aware of the problem and are willing to take steps to correct it. Be easy on yourself. Loving yourself works much better than beating yourself up, besides, there are SO many people who will gladly beat you up why do the work yourself!

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    1792 days ago
    Well I'm glad your son didn't get expelled. I wish I had some advice to give you in regards to his behavior and getting into trouble but I don't. You must take care of you though! You aren't doing your son any favors by not taking care of you and your stress. You know you feel better and can think more clearly when you exercise so you must make that a priority. I think you are also over-thinking things for your race. Your pace is the same and even if you have to take small walking breaks then you can. MJREIMERS and BESTMEPOSSIBLE had some good advice it seems. I hope that what they said can / will help with your son.

    Take care of YOU!

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    1792 days ago
  • CIPHER1971
    I am glad it worked out not too bad with your son at school, and I hope you find the way to explain to him.
    1792 days ago
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    1792 days ago
    sorry I missed the other blog so I had no idea what was happening. I'm so sorry you have to go through this . one of my best friends has an autistic child and I know how difficult it can be. I'm glad he wasn't expelled. I hope he can graduate with no problems. try to be good to yourself emoticon
    1792 days ago
    Glad it's just a suspension... not great, but it's another chance, at least. I would like to point out that housework IS exercise, just probably not what you consider exercise. But it's getting up and doing something, which is better than the alternative (sitting around and doing nothing), right? (Long sentence there, oops.)

    Hugs! Just take it one day at a time.
    1792 days ago
    Hi Kitty, i didn't know your son was Autistic. Mine has SID. I assume your son has been assessed by the school and they have a list of Special Ed accomodations for him. If they don't - you need to request one ASAP. The request and the assessment kind of "stop the behavioral issue clock" until the assessment / reassessment is complete. Then you can have accomodations made for his issues now and a reassessment and new accomodations as he ages. Good luck. I am home schooling mine right now to avoid the behavior issues at school until we get his physical issues stabilized.
    1792 days ago
    Kitty, you first! If you feel like you can't get up and exercise, then tell yourself that you need to walk around the block before you do anything around the house. This may help "jump start" your need to exercise. I'm in the stage that when I do get a day off, according to my schedule, I feel like I should be exercising. (I think may of us are kind of OCD. If I do something I do it really well! This includes poor choices, too!)

    As for your son, the school should be making some accomodations for him. If he's having trouble relating to others/socially then sit down with him and see if the two of you can make a plan to avoid problems. Write some "social stories" that basically tells him what to do in certain situations so he can follow them when he returns to school. Maybe set up a reward system. Everyday he getst through school with no problems he can pick dinner, have a special snack, etc. Maybe even go exercise with Mom or walk the dogs with you? I hope things work out. Start crossing the days off the calendar until schools out. This will be good for you both!!!

    1792 days ago
    Glad things worked out with your son!
    1792 days ago
    Soo glad he wasn't expelled! I hope the best for both of you!!!
    1792 days ago
    You're putting way too much on yourself right now. Don't overthink your 5K--you can run 2 miles, and endorphins will get you the rest of the way. If not, you can take some short walk breaks to catch your breath. You've got this--like you said, your pace is the same.

    I wish I knew how to help you with your son. First, you have to recognize that exercise will help you see things more clearly to help him. Please put down the food, and move your body. Cleaning the house is better than sitting and eating. So that counts as exercise. Get the girls out and take a long "thinking" walk or run. That almost always helps me.

    You can do this, and I want to help. Let's bust through our stress together, okay? Let me know if I can help with the team at all.

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    1792 days ago
    (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))) Well, I am glad it is a suspension vs. expulsion. **SIGH** I can only surmise that has a LOT to do with weight gain. **SIGH**

    One things for sure . . . you know you can vent in this forum and at least get things off your chest.

    Hugs and all good thoughts.
    1792 days ago
  • 1EMMA2011
    Glad to hear he has a second chance. I hope the school is being supportive. Praying for you!

    1792 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    Stress is death on well-laid plans. Plain and simple. I hope that your son "gets it" before he goes back to school next week, but I know there's nothing I can do to help you there either. Hopefully you'll have a couple warmer days this week that will give you a chance to get out walking/running and start beating back the stress.
    1792 days ago
    Oh Kitty, I wish there was something I could do to help. I really don't even know what to do for you on the team, except check for new members.
    You do need your running or other exercise for stress relief so that you don't get sick.
    We can all tell you what to do to help, but I know that you have to find what works for you.
    Grab your "girls", and have a nice laid-back snuggle day with them, and no one else. Even if it means sitting in front of the TV with a big bowl of popcorn (they make lowfat), with one dog on each side of you.
    If there is anything I can do, let me know. emoticon emoticon
    1792 days ago
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