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SIMPLY AN UPDATE on MIL

Monday, February 25, 2013

Well, my MIL is now permanently at the nursing home as a paid patient. It won't take long to go through her money that she has left and then we have to apply for medicaid. It is scary to think of the costs involved. She is not eating well and has lost 20 lbs in the last couple of months. Yesterday, we had a luncheon at our church and we managed to get her out to go to it. All of her friends came up to speak to her so it was a good outing. I'm sure she was exhausted when we took her back to the home. She asked us how long she was going to be there and we tried to skirt the issue saying it was up to the doctor. I know one thing, there is no way I could handle taking care of her without giving up every other activity I had, including those of my husbands.

On the way home from church she asked if we had seen her mother. Apparently all her relatives are visiting her quite often, preparing the way I guess. She keeps asking us to help her get on the plane and we keep thinking she is delusionary. But after yesterday, I'm thinking maybe she thinks she needs to get on the plane to depart this earth and we should buy into that. She also wants to make sure we take all of her clothing and other things away with us when she leaves. We've been thinking she means when she leaves and comes home with us but now I'm thinking maybe she is talking about leaving this earth. Hard to know.

My MIL has been seeing angels for many years. Someone commented to us that she might be a medium. We've always avoided talking to her about the angels because to her they are real and it gets scary sometimes. Her husband (deceased since 1997) has never left her side even though he has another girlfriend at times. And now, her mother, father and brother are hovering around quite a bit. I'm starting to believe she really does have a connection to the other world. There is one snag, a bad doctor with a hypodermic that comes after her and is preventing her from being at peace. He has been after her (spiritually) for years and we even had to take her to a psych doctor for hallucinations. But if she is a medium, to her it is real and all these years she has been labeled crazy needing meds. Now, when she brings up the subject we try to encourage her that "they" are getting ready for her and that the bad one should go away and leave her alone.

Last night I had a vivid dream that she had died. AS she loses weight, she gets weaker and soon will be nothing but bones. Her ankles, which have been balloon size due to retention of fluid, are now so thin, I am able to get my fingers around them. So we continue. I so wish for her to be at peace, to stop the good fight, to finish the race, until we meet again.
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CARLANNIE 3/5/2013 8:26AM

    Hang in there. emoticon

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CYND59 2/25/2013 3:11PM

    Hugs to you and the family during this time.

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LKWQUILTER 2/25/2013 2:05PM

    You are being a good dil Carol. Just keep doing what you and your dh are doing, knowing that you did your best. It is hard going through this now but there is an end. I hated to admit for months that is was a blessing when daddy finally quit fighting and just went to sleep. It was what he wanted--to be back with Mama and his family--he was the last. ((HUGS)) and prayers. emoticon emoticon

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COOPQUILTLADY 2/25/2013 1:04PM

    Hang in there! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LJCANNON 2/25/2013 12:10PM

    emoticon There are No Sure answers that I know of. This time of Life is so Difficult, even WITHOUT the Unanswered Questions we all have. I think I would just reassure her and accept Her Reality in whatever way gives her Comfort.
emoticon You are in my Prayers.

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SEWINGMAMACDS 2/25/2013 10:46AM

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ANDI571 2/25/2013 9:34AM

    I know how hard this time is. Also dementia will do this. My mom would always talk of her mom and of her deceased loved ones. The mind took her backwards to a place she once knew. It is part of the process I am afraid. Just love her like I know you do, and she will be getting what she needs.

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CAROLISCIOUS 2/25/2013 9:28AM

    This is a hard time. Peace to you and your husband.
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