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Why can't being mom be easy - just once!

Sunday, February 24, 2013

I don't want to go into details but I'm having some huge problems with my son. He is 18 and autistic. He is a senior in HS. He just can't seem to get things together this year. The last 3 years have been great. This year has been a living hell. Now he is facing possible expulsion. I won't know anything until Monday.

And the autism is making is so difficult to get him to understand why he is in so much trouble. However, he does understand that he may not be allowed to complete school and that is upsetting him. I'm torn apart. He has worked so hard and thing may just fall apart completely with only 3.5 months to go.

I'm sick about it. I'm eating everything in sight. I even walked to Walgreen's (a whopping 2 blocks) and got a box of Cadbury eggs. I tried going out for a run, I couldn't even do 2 miles. I have a 5K in two weeks - and I can't jog 2 miles. I just want to cry my eyes out. I can't bring myself to do anything. I'm just sitting here.

I have to hold it together for my son. He needs mom to be a rock. I feel like a pile of blubber.

Sorry, I will be around as much as I can tomorrow. Hopefully I'm worrying over nothing and the principal takes pity on my boy and lets him finish the year. I know is sounds stupid for something like this with all that is going on in others lives, but if you could spare a good wish or hope for my boy, it would be greatly appreciated.
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WARRIORFIT1 3/12/2013 1:54PM

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EVER-HOPEFUL 2/26/2013 4:19PM

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MRSGOAT9699 2/26/2013 2:47PM

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IAM_HIS 2/26/2013 1:57PM

    My heart is very heavy for you. Most teachers have no idea about autism much less how the child progesses the information. If the student does not fit the mold, then the majority of the teachers have no idea how to handle the student. Plus, there is no help for the students with special needs unless the parents can pay for the services required. Unfortunately today's teachers demand high teacher retirement wages and current teacher demand high wages. No longer do the students' educations come first. Resulting in less quality education for the special needs students.

I truly believe your son is fustrated and not understood. So he is communicating all those emotions the best way he knows how.

No, it is very hard plus challenging to be a mother, especially one all by yourself (which I am). My thughts and prayers are with you.

Comment edited on: 2/26/2013 2:06:29 PM

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DEEKELLYE 2/26/2013 9:01AM

    Parenting definitely isn't easy. Wish it was every once in a while. I don't have any advice on a child with autism but maybe you can do some research on how to get him to understand. Good luck.

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JAXMOMMY 2/25/2013 3:35PM

    First of all Kitty, this is NOT a stupid worry. This is a big deal. And, even if you were worried about a broken nail, it is your worry and significant to you! I sending positive vibes! I know the autism makes it hard for him to understand your point of view here, but perhaps he can understand why you seem like a pile of blubber. 18 year old boys have no understanding of consequences on any given day and throw in the autism, well, I don't have to tell you. Does he have any kind of case worker or therapist that can help you? Please keep us posted. I am sending you a big hug! Wishing you and Boy child the very best in this matter! It is OK to be upset, worried and a wreck! I know you and you will eventually channel these emotions into your 5K performance. Until then, hang in there and allow yourself to feel what you feel! Just, um, step away from the Cadbury Eggs M'am!

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GETFIT2LIVE 2/25/2013 3:32PM

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Being a mom is NOT an easy job; praying you get good news soon!

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RIDMYCOCOON 2/25/2013 3:03PM

    ~~~Sending Mounds of Good Hope~~~

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DISAPPEARING1 2/25/2013 1:56PM

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ANDY_54 2/25/2013 1:35PM

    Sending you a big hug and warm thoughts!

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KBRADFORD88 2/25/2013 10:46AM

    Man...I do not know you but I had my own issues with my daughter this weekend...we are all so similar in these problems yet we feel so alone...You are not alone...Prayers to you emoticon

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CANDYCANE2B 2/25/2013 10:43AM

    Oh Kitty, that's so hard. If you talk to the principal and show him/her all that your son has done the last 3 yrs in HS and his accomplishments and how he's overcome his autism to achieve what he has done, maybe the principal will overlook his recent faults some and work out a compromise that would keep him in school these last few months so he can graduate with his class!!!

I have 3 teenagers, 2 of them in HS and the other just started college so I know how devastating this can be to you and also to you son!!! No, you are not being too emotional or stupid about this!!! My prayers are with you! Hope this gets resolved in a positive way!!!!

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KJELLYBEAN15 2/25/2013 10:12AM

    This is not stupid at all. Oh my goodness, my heart aches for what you are going through. I am so sorry. Without knowing the reason, could there be an alternative solution to this? A seperate program or school that he can at least finish out his term? Being he is autistic they have to find him a suitable placement. Virtual or home schooling?

Regardless of the reason, I am sending you my love, prayers and well wishes. I know he is your son and you feel responsible - but you did not do this. No reason to punish yourself. Hope all goes well today.

~keli

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TROOPER1961 2/25/2013 8:55AM

    Thnking good thoughts for you today!! emoticon

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ODAYSKI11 2/25/2013 7:45AM

    I'll be thinking of you both, hope all goes well. Hang in there, this too will pass - and don't be angry with yourself, you can only be who you are, and I for one say that's a wonderful person!

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NILLAPEPSI 2/25/2013 7:15AM

    So emoticon I'll say a prayer that the punishment won't be so severe. Hang in there!!! emoticon emoticon

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CASEYSAUER 2/25/2013 6:34AM

    Sending prayer and love to you and your son!

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HIKINGFIT 2/25/2013 6:22AM

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LYDDIECAT 2/25/2013 6:17AM

    It's not stupid. You're his mom and he is in a tough situation, so of course you are upset. I am thinking of you both and sending lots of love and good wishes your way.
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CELESTE_B 2/25/2013 6:17AM

    Sending you a big big hug!

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CIPHER1971 2/25/2013 3:31AM

    Sending positive vibes for you and your son.

Look after you, and your friends are here for you.

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CATHYGETSFIT 2/25/2013 1:42AM

    I can certainly understand why you are so upset. I wish I had some words to say that would comfort you. Just know we are all here for you and thinking of you. Things will work out for the best one way or another. Let us know what happens. Meanwhile I'm sending lots of positive thoughts that he'll be able to stay and finish his senior year out. emoticon emoticon

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NUOVAELLE 2/25/2013 1:31AM

    It doesn't sound stupid at all! It's a very serious subject and I can understand how you feel.
Prayers for you and your son. I hope everything will work out for the best.

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CHALLENGEME4 2/24/2013 11:24PM

    Wishing you good fortune emoticon

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BEFIT014 2/24/2013 11:05PM

    I hope it all works out in your favor. Let us know!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 2/24/2013 10:41PM

    Sending prayers and love your way. it'll be okay. *HUGS*

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KITRONA 2/24/2013 10:38PM

    Huge hugs, and I hope the principal sees how he feels and let's him finish!

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HOT_MAMA_13 2/24/2013 10:31PM

    Sending Love & Light to the whole situation - sending positive intentions that all works out for the best. Please let us know if you're up to it...

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WILLOWBROOK5 2/24/2013 9:30PM

    Sending prayers, hugs and positive energy your way! emoticon

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BESCATS 2/24/2013 8:47PM

    Sending many emoticon and prayers your way. I hope things go smoothly tomorrow.
It must be very hard on all of you. You're a strong lady, you will get through this !!

If there is anything I can do for the team, just let me know.

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JUMPINJULIE 2/24/2013 8:30PM

    My prayer's are with you and your son.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/24/2013 7:58PM

    Oh my gosh, my heart goes out to you and your son. This is such a difficult situation.

Ok, it sounds so much like MY son. Senior year in HS was a living hell. Honestly. He doesn't have autism, but has other issues related . Just absolutely NO comm sense. Does your son have an IEP, 504 or behavioral plan. If any of that is in place, be sure you have that @ the manifestation meeting.

I am seing HUGS and prayers for you.

Barb

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SIEGRID 2/24/2013 7:56PM

    emoticon I send you many hugs and prayers that things work out!!!!!

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MUMMY22BOYS 2/24/2013 7:54PM

    Lots of hugs and prayers :)

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DAWNESS0404 2/24/2013 7:33PM

    I hope everything works out. emoticon

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    Sending lots of emoticon and emoticon

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TRYINGTOLOSE64 2/24/2013 6:54PM

    My prayers are with you. Remember this, punishing yourself isn't going to make things any better for him.

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JUSTME29 2/24/2013 6:53PM

    I'm hoping for the best and will say a prayer tonight. I don't know about the laws in your state, but I know here expelling a special needs student is more difficult than a regular ed student. Even if it does happen, I bet you'll be able to find an alternative school setting to allow him to graduate. Does he have a plan for next year? Is the stress of his schooling and routine coming to an end causing him to act out? I wish I could offer you something concrete, but know that I'm there with you in spirit.

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DARLY55 2/24/2013 6:34PM

    My prayers are with you. I know it is a rough time, I have two special needs grandchildren. Just keep your head and all will work out for the best. emoticon emoticon

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1EMMA2011 2/24/2013 6:20PM

    Ask your principal if there is an alternative program where your son can get his diploma. At least then you'll know you have an options if something happens. The pressure Senior Year is intense. The school could be overcrowded also and not able to provide him support. Take it easy and go slow. I know this is a difficult time for you and I feel for you.

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