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When the Daily-ness sets in

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Starting any journey is new and exciting, whether it's going off to college, moving to a new town to start a new job, heading off for a vacation, having a baby, or starting a weight loss journey. Everything is new and dramatic. Colors are brighter and life is full of new thrills. But inevitably, the daily-ness sets in, and what was once new is now dull. Some events have an end: you will graduate from college. You will come home from vacation. Some you CAN'T change: you can't give the baby back. Getting another job in yet a different town is too disruptive to do often. What do you do when what was once bright and new is now ordinary?

Remember when we were kids and we moaned to our parents that we were BORED? We expected someone else to enliven our days. Then as we got older we found that we had the power to enliven our own days. Teenagers are famous for doing crazy stunts looking for that excitement. As adults we had to be responsible, and it was easy to fall into a routine where all the days were the same, and moaning didn't do any good.

With a weight loss journey, you are in it for life. It starts out as a wonderful adventure. While losing we all concentrate on the movement of the scale to give us the "new" every week. But the day will come when the goal is......staying the same? Where's the excitement in that? If staying the same were exciting, no one would go to college, or look for a better job. Or move to another house, or have a baby. We are told to Embrace Change (a hard enough task when the change isn't one we choose), but how to Embrace Sameness? How do you move forward when the colors of life have dulled?

I see my life as a series of events that I have control over or that I don't have control over, that I initiate or that I have to react to. For me my food plan is the ONE thing over which I have control, so only I can make sure that it doesn't get boring. There was a time when "exciting food" meant the new chip that someone invented (and advertised so well!), or the gooey dessert on the card front and center at the restaurant. Now I create my own food in my own home. Some things don't work (venison once was enough) and some things are glorious (curry!)

In the end it's up to me to enliven the daily-ness that always sets in at some point in our lives. I don't look to other people's food to enrich my life. I can't expect someone or something else to pop into my life to brighten the colors. My kids present me with new family to entertain with my food (not in my control), and I find new friends to share it with (within my control). I don't seek "motivation" from the outside. It is, after all, my choice to make my days as different as I want within the parameters of my Food Plan.

I had to learn to brighten the colors of my own life.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CUTENHEALTHY 1/4/2014 3:36AM

    This is a great blog about how cooking can literally spice up your life. Thank you!

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REGILIEH 3/17/2013 9:03AM

    So true!!! A great way to think and act! I am always saying that life is so daily and now I am going to think about my choices in making that daily life more colorful! emoticon

I really enjoyed all of your pictures, only missing DH.


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ZEEDRA 3/5/2013 9:13PM

    I just found out how to subscribe to friends' blogs...and I checked off yours!

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WORKNPROGRESS49 3/2/2013 2:34PM

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    Thanks for the reminder!

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TINAJANE76 2/25/2013 6:34AM

    Such wise words. Thanks for continuing to share your wisdom with us. I need to refer to this whenever I'm feeling bored with my daily routine. After all, I have a lot to be thankful for in the daily-ness of life. Good health, love and happiness, just to name a few. Thanks for reminding me of all those things!

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123ELAINE456 2/25/2013 1:38AM

  Awesome Blog!!! You write so well. Love Your blogs. Very inspirational.God Blessing to You and Everyone. Have a Great Day. Take Care.

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FISHINGLADY66 2/24/2013 8:51PM

    I love reading your blogs Nell. You write so well and always bring back memories. emoticon emoticon

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ANGIEN9 2/24/2013 8:49PM

    Great Blog!! You write so well and I love reading your blogs!! Good job with controlling your food plan. That is half the battle!! Angie emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 2/24/2013 7:11PM

    Excellent blog, so beautifully expressed. I sometimes remind myself that life has enough crises and tough patches when all I long for is "ordinariness" and "more of the same" . . . and that food is about fuel. My nutritional needs don't vary much although how I meet them can be changed up. It can be very comforting to exert control over my own nutrition when too often other stuff is out of my control . . .

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GABY1948 2/24/2013 6:55PM

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MANDELOVICH 2/24/2013 4:44PM

    Great point and strategy. Since this is a way of eating for life, it's up to us to keep it interesting and exciting, while healthy!

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PINKNFITCARLA 2/24/2013 3:14PM

    emoticon blog!

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SUZYMOBILE 2/24/2013 3:11PM

    Bill seeks spice with cooking, me not so much. I seek sameness in my food; he tends to provide the variety. When he was out of commission last month, I lost all interest in food. I guess this is all a good thing for maintenance, because it usually allows me to fine-tune myself.

To avoid life boredom in general, I get drawn into new interests often, and I never know what the next one is going to be until it hits me. These days, it must be dog training and learning the lessons that the 12 steps have to teach me.

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WINDSURFNERD 2/24/2013 2:54PM

    Nice blog! I think you're writing about ultimate accountability...we OWN our own lives, so we take responsibility for making excitement when our world seems "dull". For myself, the ongoing journey is about surprising myself, even after 51 years!

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MNNICE 2/24/2013 1:49PM

    I joined a SP Team "52 New Things in 2013". Every week we try something we've never done before. It's been fun trying to come up with things, but does put some "spark" in the "sameness."Whether it be trying a new recipe, a new food, a new activity, it has helped me get through the long days of Minnesota winter and added some creativity to my somewhat "beige" life!

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GAILRUU 2/24/2013 1:30PM

    I switch things around all the time. Actually we are having venison tonight! I like to experiment with new recipes and try new exercise and vary them with the season.

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CARRAND 2/24/2013 1:21PM

    Good stuff!

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CELIAMINER 2/24/2013 12:51PM

    I understand getting that itch. Last night we tried a new recipe (baked onion slices with balsamic vinegar, chopped walnuts, and smoky blue cheese). It was great! And we love discovering new recipes that become "keepers" as a way to liven things up.

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--KREN 2/24/2013 12:00PM

    What Zeedra said, lol.


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ZEEDRA 2/24/2013 11:23AM

    I absolutely LOVE how you divide what's in your control and what is not in your control. I have successfully done that with some difficult relationships but, so far, not 100% with food.
You are as realistic and honest as one can get!

Please continue hitting us over the head with your velvet-covered mallet, Nell!

Those of us who have very small gas tanks will run out at just about the time that you enter a new blog and, hopefully, we're ready to roll again.

Now...this DOES sound a bit like we're putting you in charge. Let's just call you the motivator.

If you offered a month-long in-house training course, I would save my money and book a spot!
Hugs to you!

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    I need to work on this. I've become very bored with Spark People and have looked around at other sites but I hate the thought of having to re-enter all my food choices and trying to navigate a new website.

I'm trying to figure out some way of getting my 'spark' back.

Thanks for posting. Pat

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