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i need some advice, please...

Saturday, February 23, 2013

well, here i am, one week away to where i "goaled" myself to be 180 lbs. unless i lose 5 pounds this coming week, i won't make it. first, i am terrified of not making it to my first goal. and it was reasonable, i haven't been working out before this, and i was eating anything and everything in site... so, working out and eating right... 10 pounds for the first month is NOT unreasonable!

i know that i shouldn't be thinking of failure, but i am worried, that i won't make it. so, my questions are...

1. do i adjust my goal now, wait until next week?
2. was i not working heard enough? seriously, i have been exercising consistantly for this month, and staying pretty much in my goal ranges (except for a couple of days).
3. is it really THAT much harder to lose weight at 45 than it is at 40???
4. what can i do to get me losing weight? yes, i know, i need to judge myself in other ways, not only to the scale. BUT 10 pounds should show up in the other measurable areas, and although i see a difference, it is only very small changes.

i need to start dropping the weight, so i can be ready for june (165 lbs), when i am supposed to go in a trip with my sister..., and by september (145 lbs), i want to feel and look better for my birthday, and october (maintaining 145 lbs) is my hubby and mine anniversary, so i want to be happy about myself, and be in a better mindset.

any suggestions would be very welcomed... and appreciated!

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  • TEDYBEAR2838
    Unfortunately, our body does what it darn well pleases.

    All we can do is our best. that's always good enough.

    No matter what you will be healthier and your body will
    thank you for that.

    Keep doing the right things and the weight will disappear,
    just not on our time schedule

    emoticon emoticon
    1848 days ago
    I understand how you feel. I also set a goal of 2 pounds a week and it is not happening that way. My weight hasn't budged in the last few weeks. It was actually up 2 lbs this morning. GRR.... I have been doing everything right, exercising more than ever, etc. I have been trying to concentrate on how much better I feel physically (right up until I threw my back out that is), how much better my clothes fit, and the fact that if I give up I will probably gain weight. It is still frustrating! I do think that a woman's metabolism slows down in their 40's. I never had trouble losing weight when I was younger. I was diagnosed as hypothyroid at 45. If you have never been tested for thyroid issues, you might want to ask your doctor to do a thyroid workup. I know my weightloss (or lack of) is not right. I am going to the doctor tomorrow for my back and while there I am going to discuss changing my medication to natural thyroid meds. If you want more info on hypothyroidism a great website is thyroid.about.com. There is a quiz on there to see if you have symptoms of hypothyroidism. Hang in there!
    1848 days ago
  • TERRY0217
    Don't beat yourself up my dear....look at the progress you already made and keep going...and yes...it's hard losing weight at 40...but..i'm 57 and it IS tough...but...do not give up emoticon this is a mind game and that blasted scale will play with your head....keep eating right...exercise and you WILL lose the weight...
    good luck sweetie emoticon
    1848 days ago
  • RX_2_RV
    I agree with Nancypat1. I don't usually put a time frame on my weight loss goals. I think it is counterproductive.

    As others have told me when I was feeling frustrated with my lack of progress, it's not as simple as calories in vs calories out. The body has its own agenda. When I look at my calories in vs calories out for past 3 weeks, I should have lost 2.2 pounds instead of zero. I measure and weigh my food so "calories in" is pretty accurate, and I use Fitbit for calories burned. What can I say...I feel better, even if the scale isn't budging. Yes, it is frustrating, but I know I did my best and that is all I can expect from myself...not perfection, just the best I am capable of, at the time.

    Yes, I do think it is harder to lose weight as we age. Unfortunately, I have experience losing 40 pounds each adult decade of my life. It is much harder now that I am 50, and I am exercising more than I EVER did in my 20's and 30's. Despite that, I refuse to give up.

    The other thing I would recommend if you have not already done so is to take your measurements and log them. I find this helpful when the scale isn't budging.

    You might also want to blog on your non-scale victories. I have mine on my blog if you want to check it out. It's important to stay positive ans to stay focused on WHY you want to lose weight, rather than just the number on the scale. I am feeling better, have more energy, feeling more confident, etc...so even if the scale isn't cooperating, I know that I am still achieving what I wanted to achieve and the scale will eventually catch up with how I am feeling.

    Hope that helps!
    1849 days ago
    I ALMOST NEVER set a time to lose a specific number of pounds. Our weight bounces around and fluctuates so much and often without making sense. It is harder to lose as we get older but since you are my SON'S age, I would not consider yourself OLD. I would also keep working toward your goal and not waste time or energy beating yourself up if you do not make it. I think the idea of working toward a goal is good but specific weights by specific dates become self-defeating for ME (I understand everyone is different, but instead of motivating me, such a goal would have me like you, stressing out before I even did NOT meet the magic number). Don't reset your goal but LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP REGARDLESS OF YOUR RESULTS NEXT WEEK
    1849 days ago
    It might be harder to lose 10 lbs. at 45. I'm in that age range, too, and have been trying to lose the first 10-lbs. since November. I'm not giving up because I know I'm much stronger and healthier. I don't really have any advice except to keep up what your doing and it should come eventually.

    1849 days ago
    Hi! emoticon I wouldn't adjust your goals just yet....sometime water weight can effect the scale.-- keep in mind also, if you've been working out a lot, you may be gaining muscle (which makes you burn more calories in the long run--so good for you emoticon ) but it may change that dreaded number on the scale (muscle weighs more than fat)-- Funny you should ask about losing weight as we age....I just googled that this morning (I'm 48 years wise emoticon ) it seems people have mixed feelings on that one...I vote "yes it's harder"...maybe because we lose muscle mass as we age, so it's harder to burn calories (mental note to self...lift more weights) emoticon I know how not reaching your goal number on the scale can throw you for a loop...but try to focus on your health...you're doing GREAT!!!! Focus on that! emoticon STAY STRONG!
    1849 days ago
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