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This is the Part Where I Used to Give Up

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Friday, February 22, 2013

Hereís the deal--I CAN multitask, but I do better if I focus on one big thing at a time. Sometimes, that slows things down a little, but it works for me. Iíve turned into a slow and steady kind of gal, as far as goals go. Lately, Iíve focused on tracking my food, every day. Iím getting into the habit of pre-tracking in the morning. I like that. You know I love streaking; this is Day 26 of tracking my food (Day 691 of my exercise streak). So, Iíve been tracking and exercising.

I should mention that Iíve been in between my 5% Challenge Team challenges. We take a couple of breaks during the year. I decided not to weigh in, during my break this time. Um, yeah--that may not have been such a great idea... I kinda thought, with all the tracking and everything, that I wouldnít have to worry about it. Not so much a guarantee. The new challenge starts tomorrow, so I weighed in the other day, just to see where I was. Hereís the thing--I had a few red flags, beforehand. My jeans were starting to get tight again. Hmmm. I just felt, well--bigger. When I stepped on the scale, I had a significant gain. Significant. Like, undo a whole yearís worth of work significant. No joke.

This is the part where I used to give up. This is the part where I used to be so disappointed in myself, decide it wasnít worth it, it was impossible, and Iíd quit. But that was before I discovered my secret power of awesome. Iím not gonna lie, Iím bummed that I had a significant gain. But now, I can step back and see more clearly. ďGood job on tracking, Shelli. Good job! Now, letís start tweaking a few things and see if we can stay on the lower end of your calorie range, instead of high or over.Ē See how that thought process recognizes what needs to be changed, without totally eliminating the accomplishment? Thatís a HUGE step for me! Thatís forward thinking and forward is where I want to go.

I can also see other things in my life that are pretty amazing right now. Iím getting stronger. Iíve been using a 100 Pushups Coach app on my phone for several weeks now. I can do 100 pushups, on my knees, in one session, with tiny breaks in between sets. Itís hard, but I can do it. Yes, I will toot my own horn a little, thank you very much. Iím pretty proud of that. Iíve also been using the heck out of my FitBit. I catch myself doing all kinds of things, to try to get in extra steps. I even have a little dance that I do while chanting, ďEvery step counts, every step counts, every step.Ē Hey, whatever works, right? Iím active; Iím moving. Recently, Iíve had several people misjudge and think I was at least 20 years younger than I am. I donít know that thatís necessarily an accomplishment. I think I chalk that up to attitude and a round face, but hey, Iíll take it.

And itís not just all physical. Weíre going through some really tough parenting stuff with our son right now. Letís just say itís called tough love for a reason. Itís hard! Take the regular teen stuff, amplify it with special needs, and you have a parenting workout on your hands. But, weíre doing it and thatís an accomplishment too, that weíre not giving up, that weíre willing to do the hard stuff.

Iím working on a creative project with a local artist right now and it has me SO fired up! Weíre having so much fun, putting all these pieces together and making something really special. Itís stretching and challenging my creative muscle and that kind of work is good for my soul. If I could weigh that stuff? Well, the scale would be TONS lighter!! Letís do that--letís have an imaginary scale that weighs our non-scale victories. I would be way beyond goal right now. Iíd be a Non-Scale Supermodel. LOL

My point is, this is the part where I used to give up, but not this time. Yes, tomorrow, when I weigh in, I have to register a much higher weight on my SparkPage. The little duck on my ticker is going to take a pretty big swim backwards. But, heís still swimming. He hasnít drowned and Iím not going to shoot him!! Heís still smiling and so am I. Because this is real life and weight is only one part of it. So, if youíve had a setback, even a significant one--take a step back. Recognize what needs to change, but give yourself credit for what you HAVE accomplished. Donít shoot the duck. Keep swimming!

Me and Houdini, the lil rubber duck that my buddy SNOWANGELDIVA sent me. Donít worry, Liz; heís still alive!!


Side note: This lil sock snake was a recent entry in my Daily Creativity Journal. Isnít he cute?

Spark ON, Brave Sparkers!!!
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LORIVIOLA 5/13/2013 9:19AM

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i'm trying to be more positive too.
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CHANGINGEMMY 3/10/2013 10:25AM

    You're so positive!! I love your attitude! You're so right that life is happening now and weight is part of it I need to remember this when I get on the scale and see what I don't like to see.

Way to go!! Just keep swimming!! :) have a great day!!

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FAT2GAINHEALTH 3/10/2013 7:15AM

    emoticon YOU KEEP STRIVING

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THINKSHRINK 3/8/2013 5:48PM

    I am coming back to SP after a 10 months "hiatus". Read: I fell off the wagon. I gained all my weight back and MORE, but was surprised that I wasn't beating myself up this time. I just got back on it and am where I was a year ago.

Thanks for your incredibly honest post, and for letting people know they're not alone when they backslide.

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TORIAMAE 3/8/2013 4:55PM

    Way to go! Keep up the positive attitude.

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BEATLETOT 3/8/2013 3:45PM

    How crazy behind am I? But this blog was AWESOME!!!

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BRAVELUTE 3/8/2013 12:57PM

    Onward!!

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I-CAN-DO-IT-2 3/7/2013 10:23PM

    Great attitude and thanks for sharing. emoticon

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VALKYR8 3/7/2013 2:50PM

    An excellent motivational speaker once said:
Celebrate the good stuff.
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And dismiss the bummers.

Good for you to recognize the good stuff and dismissing the bummers!
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DNRAE1 3/5/2013 9:32AM

    Before SP, I also would get disappointed with myself and give up, but NO more! I had a significant gain at the beginning of this year, but I refused to give up.... and have started tracking again and exercising more. Your blog really helps in the motivation department. Thanks! WE can do it!!!!

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BLUENOSE63 3/5/2013 5:56AM

  Shelli

I think you should be really proud of yourself as recognizing that being disappointed in yourself and not giving yourself credit for what you have accomplished is a huge mental victory. I would definitely call that a WOOHOO moment!

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FLORNH 3/5/2013 5:52AM

    thanks, as always, for being an inspiration!


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SHFELKEY 3/4/2013 2:14PM

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Keep up the great work, Shelli!

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MEDDYPEDDY 3/2/2013 1:21AM

    You have found the soultion, slow and steady! emoticon emoticon

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DESTINATUS 3/1/2013 11:13AM

    You have given me some much needed inspiration! Thank you! emoticon

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PEACEHOPE1 2/27/2013 8:43PM

    Great blog! I especially loved your comment "Iíd be a Non-Scale Supermodel". Yes you would! And those non-scale victories are tremendously important. Love your positive spin on things and emoticon

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PICKIE98 2/27/2013 6:32PM

    Hey!! I recognize that sock!! It's Audrey's!!!!!!

Keep up the great work, pump out the creative juices ...

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AURORAMILLET 2/27/2013 5:50PM

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GR8TAWK 2/27/2013 5:16PM

    Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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MOMARIAN 2/27/2013 2:37PM

    So glad you are moving forward and not looking back. I am on my 3rd, teen son, I feel your pain,lol.

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_JODI404 2/27/2013 1:12PM

    emoticon on your tracking & exercise streaks! Those are incredibly awesome!!

It sounds like the tracking is becoming a bit more natural, so that is good!

I'm proud of the "new you" that won't quit even when facing some disappointment. You *know* it is not impossible.... because you have already been doing it! And with the (no longer secret) power of AWESOME -- you will reach any goal you set for yourself. I truly believe in you, and also that slow and steady is the BEST way to go about it. Everyone is unique, and this journey will never be the same for any two of us. We all have the basics to follow, but we really have to figure how to make it work best for ourselves. I weigh (once only) every day. It's just an act of mindfulness for me. For others, that could ruin a day if they give the scale too much power. You will figure out what works best for you.

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They are a favorite of my current trainer. Last night I did 130 as supersets with other lifting. They really do make you feel strong! emoticon

I have been on the fence about the FitBit. I feel like my pedometer is enough since I row and do a lot more that it won't pick up due to my knees. I'll keep thinking about it. I like the source of motivation I keep hearing about!

20 years younger!! - now that is the ultimate compliment!! Truly.

That duck is way too cute to shoot! He MUST keep swimming!! He's tracking for a super-awesome, super positive, worth every bit of the effort, Super Sparking Wonder Woman!! You CAN do this Shel! Good luck in your current challenge!

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KPETSCHE 2/27/2013 6:14AM

    Thanks, Shelli, for putting into words what lots of us face every day! You WILL do this, I know! Keep STREAKING cool dudette!

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HEALTHYSLIM2 2/27/2013 4:08AM

    LOVE THIS BLOG!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You sparked me today!!
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HEYMOE012 2/26/2013 8:35PM

  Good for you for recognizing all the positive things you have accomplished. You are truly an inspiration... a sparker. I LOVE your creativity.

I really began to succeed on SP after I got the FitBit and coordinated the pages. I enter all on SP, and since I am tracking food/weightloss on FitBit too...Well the Fit
Bit page always tells me when I am on track for losing or remaning static with my loss. Before that I was disappointed because I always was in range on SP, but the scale didn't move. Mind you I was always at the top or over my range..
And honestly...I am mad for earning my badges.

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MICHELLE2343 2/26/2013 7:50PM

    emoticon Good for you. I enjoyed reading your blog.

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SJKENT1 2/26/2013 4:57PM

    Two steps forward and one step back.... but Shel, you are still moving forward. Look at what you have accomplished this year.

Isn't it amazing, how far we have come... and there's still a great adventure and journey tomorrow.

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ALEZHANDRIA 2/26/2013 4:10PM

    You may have a secret power of awesome, but knowing you have it is a superpower, and sharing how you use it, makes you a superhero! Thanks for spreading the awesome!
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HEATHER3477 2/26/2013 2:40PM

    Exactly what I needed to hear emoticon

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MITCHARVEY 2/26/2013 1:50PM

    I loved the phrase "my secret power of awesome" I will have to file that a way for my next set back day.

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B-NANA 2/26/2013 12:14PM

    It's kinda FUN being BRAVE. Whether it's owning up to moving your duck back, or walking in your first 5k. Overcoming ANY obstacle is a sign of character growth. Perseverence i

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SAIHALVERIC 2/26/2013 10:12AM

    Thank-you so much for this post! I love your attitude, and I'm going to try to channel you in the next few weeks, as I get back on track. I know what you mean about seeing a year's worth of work come back on. It happens so quickly! But, like you I am going to focus on the positive, and not let the negative keep me down. Keep up the good work!!

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FITMOMINNJ 2/26/2013 9:00AM

    What a great ,survivors attitude. We all have those set backs, it's really inspiring to see how you are not letting it DEFEAT you. emoticon !!! Totally can relate to the parenting challenges. 3 of my children are now in their 20's , I had 2 very trying times with my now 25 and 22 year olds. There were times I did not think I would survive it, but I did and so did they and are incredible adults. Keep on pushing, you are SO worth it:)

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PKBOO3 2/26/2013 8:55AM

    I know you'll hang in there and continue improving on your weight goal. You are such an aspiring woman to me and others. (I just got my poi socks thanks to you & am having fun with them. Harder than I expected but fun)

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REVAMPINGMYLIFE 2/26/2013 8:14AM

    Shelli, thank you for being so awesome! I really needed to read your words of wisdom. I have been at a plateau since Thanksgiving. I broke it a few weeks ago then bounced up again. Like you, was tempted to just give up. Instead, I gave up Diet Dr. Pepper--a real addiction of mine. I would drink 4 to 8 bottles per day. Now I am on day 10 of my 'no caffeine' streak. You're right, the weight will come off again. We can do this!!!
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NELLBELLA26 2/25/2013 11:48PM

    Wow! How'd you get your brain to think like that?! I know I'd feel defeated and give up! Well having read your blog, I've gained the insight to keep moving forward no matter what! Keep streaking! emoticon emoticon

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GOIN4GR8 2/25/2013 11:17PM

    This is SO awesomely positive/smart/right/encouraging/co
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Good for YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 2/25/2013 5:55PM

    great post....

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MARTI1LL 2/25/2013 5:01PM

    That's the way to do it, write down the positives! Great job!

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX12 2/25/2013 4:27PM

    So glad you didn't give up. You are doing so many awesome things. The weight will go back down. Keep on pushing forward. You do have awesomeness! emoticon

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MARGARITTM 2/25/2013 4:13PM

    Thanks for another great blog


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