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CHOOSE YOUR HARD

Friday, February 22, 2013

CHOOSE YOUR HARD

If you haven't read through the Sparkpeople motivational quotes, please do check them out. I wish these were available as posters (are they?)

Here's one that knocked me sideways:

* Losing weight is hard * Maintaining weight is hard * Being overweight is hard *

CHOOSE YOUR HARD

Reading this, I cried. Because it's funny. Because it's true. Because it doesn't let me wimp out - it's implacable. Doesn't give me any room to feel sorry for myself. Because it inspires me, & bids me take action.

I cringe from inspiration - or more accurately I cringe from the disappointment that follows inspiration and hope. But I do love this quote.

It's true that all those things are hard, just as life is hard. But there are up-sides to losing weight that compensate for the hardship. Upsides like longer life, better health, more self-respect; these can be mine if I lose weight. They may not be mine if I stay fat.

Choosing. That's the thing. If I choose one thing over another, I will actively pursue some actions and reject others. I act. I take control - events are not happening to (a passive) me. I have options, I have responsibility.

And there are repercussions. My experience with charting a course for my life has not left me feeling powerful, in charge of my life - it's always been a disappointment, leaving me inclined to subside, to be passive, to cut my losses, to cope with things as they are, to not act. From long habit I endure circumstances rather than try to change them. So I am powerfully reluctant to take charge. It's never worked well for me in the past.

I am trying to find the tools to change this.

Life is hard. So is dying. There are upsides to living though, that offset the hard part; fewer upsides to dying.
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STR458 4/28/2013 11:11AM

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MOTLORAC 2/25/2013 3:36AM

    Thanks so much for your words

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BOPPY_ 2/24/2013 3:35AM

    I liked your blog, and as Crabada said, you do write well.

One thing that occurred to me is that overweight is much worse than hard. It's a shorter, more painful, and less satisfying life. In brief, it's death. That's way beyond hard.

That's a major motivator for me. emoticon

Lee

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CRABADA 2/24/2013 1:01AM

    You write so beautifully, and much of what you said spoke to me directly.

I was about to write that I would never give up my power of choice, of options -- and then I realized that I seem to do that every day, when I am complacent to remain disappointed and unhappy with things in my life.

Thank you for this blog.

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C.

PS - Are you feeling better finally? I do hope so!

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