Thursday, February 21, 2013
So my boyfriend has a soon to be 12 year old daughter. She lives in Tennessee with her grandmother and sometimes her mother. She has been having severe discipline issues. Two weeks ago it came to a head and the grandmother and her aunt (boyfriend's sister) decided that what would be best for her would be to come live with her dad. He was thrilled. I was too for that matter. His daughter, Courtney, also was happy about the prospect.
Happy or not this was no small feat they were asking. His current living situation would not accommodate her. His lease is up in april and he was just about to renew. Basically a huge swerve with us rushing to look at apartments and talking about moving in together and looking at schools. A lot of stress but a lot of happy coming too.
Two weeks go by and another fight at school and a talk with principals at her school and suddenly they don't want her to move down. They say she is getting bullied at school and they want her to try switching schools next year and not 'uprooting' her completely.
I am heartbroken and I am heartbroken for him. I am angry. I feel helpless and toyed with. I have all these pent up emotions and there is nothing I can do. I want to understand the situation but I am too far removed, it would be weird for me to talk to her grandmother. I want to defend my boyfriend's parental rights, but I don't have any ground on my own so I try to make sure he is covering his bases and has asked all the questions but it just comes off like I am mad at him.
I am so upset. I am so hurt. I feel so helpless. I am angry.