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Gave them what they wanted..........

Thursday, February 21, 2013

So my husband and I will be split up a year come the end of May. Just does not seem possible that it has been that long. When we split up the only thing that his parents (and him because of his parents) wanted was an apology from me even though it was them that interfered in my marriage. So on 2/5 I gave them what they wanted. I did not apologize for being me but I did apologize for hurting their feelings. The funny thing is they did not tell their son that I had done so. I think it is a case of don't admit then it didn't happen!!! When we were together they couldn't wait to announce that both of their ex-daughters-in-law had sent cards for Christmas, birthdays etc. but they will not admit to him that I sent something!

There are two points to this blog. One being that the people that claim they are so loving, gracious, and forgiving have not acknowledged me in any way whether to their son or to me myself. Whats with that???? And the second is that I have basically set myself free. I know that I have done the right thing and it is up to them to do the right thing in return if in fact they are the loving, gracious, forgiving people they claim to be. I now laugh at things he says to me instead of crying. And until I do hear from them I know that my original opinion of them stands. And that is that they are controlling, manipulative people that only care about themselves and what they want. emoticon

On to the next chapter of my life!!!!!!!!! emoticon
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    I hope you cut contact with him soon. I am so proud of you for doing the right thing. You SO do not need a person in your life that expects you to treat people that treat you with disrespect well and not do the same with you. If he is on your cell, block him. If he sends you mail, send it back. You need to wash that man out of your hair to paraphrase "South Pacific". You share no children with him so there is no reason to stay in contact with him. There are great guys out there and you are a terrific person. You definitely can do better. emoticon
    1853 days ago
    I am glad you are taking care of yourself! emoticon
    1854 days ago
    It must be nice not to be under their thumbs any more.
    1854 days ago
  • BDH1970
    It's so hard to continually be the bigger and better person, but you've done it! Good for you! emoticon
    1854 days ago
    You have proved that you are the better person, so hold your head high, you can do no more except take the next step in your new life. Maybe one day they will come to understand just what they have lost from their lives.
    1854 days ago
    I, too, like where you said you set yourself free!

    Move on and make your best days happen.

    1854 days ago
    I love the part where you say that you have set yourself free. Good for you.
    1854 days ago
    out laws can do serious damage if you let them. mine did all kinds of mean things, not just to me and dh but to his sis and her hubby too. comes a time you decide that you are better off not being around people you just really don't want to be around. even tho they lived about 3 miles from us, we got to the point only saw them once or twice a year. was soooo much better that way!
    1854 days ago
    Honey i see a loving young woman who is going to have a much better life . Never admit to something you did not do . I see that you tried to make it work . sometimes emoticon emoticon we as parents think we are right and do not see the way to see the other side . I am sorry that they did not try with you . good luck dealing with next fellow in your life . perhaps it will be your ex . but if it is not then the new guy . smile laugh it is good for you .
    1854 days ago
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