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Everything in moderation


Thursday, February 21, 2013

I firmly believe in the concept, even if I don't always follow through with it. I think the all or nothing attitude, is really just a way to set myself up for failure. It doesn't mean I don't still fall into the trap at times, it just means I think for me, and probably most people, it doesn't work. It's a bit too unforgiving.

My assignment for the day was to blog about what area(s) I might be struggling with the concept of moderation. I think it is a good sign that I am struggling to come up with one. In terms of physical health, I think I'm doing bang on.

Six days a week, I get 25+ minutes of cardio work outs in. The off day, just the minimum 10, which is pretty easy to do (a brisk, short walk will do it most Sundays). I'm still working to get more regular with strength training, but I'm not killing myself over not doing so yet.

In terms of my diet (and I'm using this to mean anything I eat, not that I am on a diet - though people tend to understand the concept better when you use those words to mean eating healthier more regularly than you maybe had in the past), I am mostly staying on target there as well. I do want to address the question of having Saturdays "off". I was asked if that works for me because some people who do that, spend 6 days a week depriving themselves and over the long haul, that makes it more difficult to keep the life style going. I don't think it is the case with me. I picked Saturdays for 2 reasons. I don't drink during the week. It's either going to be a Friday or Saturday and where my Fridays start so early and the fact that it is the end of a 5 days stint of long days, I'm lucky to see 9:00 most nights without the addition of alcohol. I'm generally home the bulk of the day on Saturday and my husband only works until 3:00, so if we go out to eat, again, it is most likely to happen on a Saturday. But I also don't deprive myself during the week. I usually have chocolate at least once a day, either in the form of actual chocolate (like a piece of Dove dark chocolate), or a fiber bar that has chocolate in it. I ate pizza for supper last night. I fit stuff in most days. The days that actually make me feel deprived of foods I want, are pretty rare.

Now emotional health, maybe I don't have quite so good a grasp on this moderation thing. I still tend to be a very harsh judge of myself. I easily get swept up in beating myself up over past mistakes. The undertow in the sea of thoughts that swirl around inside my head, can be pretty strong some days. The all or nothing instinct, or bad habit acting as such, pops up at the oddest times. I still have my work cut out for me here. I think it is okay to berate or chastise yourself once in a while for really bad choices. If someone you cared about did something bad enough, if you said anything other than "What were you thinking???" you would be doing them a disservice. You guide them lovingly after the lecture. That, is what I have to do a better job at doing for myself in moderation.
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GOODWITCH333 2/22/2013 4:23PM

    I agree absolutely with the concept of loving guidance along with gentle chastisement. Berating yourself, however, can't be healthy.
To me, berating oneself goes beyond constructive criticism and into the realms of self-abuse.
Certainly, asking oneself "What were you thinking!?" is reasonable. We should all be able to scrutinize our thoughts.

It's important to remember to be compassionate to oneself.

How do I judge if I am being fair or hyper-critical to myself? If a total stranger said that to my child, how would I react? Is it fair and honest or harmful and bullying.

And, like most mums, occasionally I have said " I raised you better than that! Use your brains! For Pete's sake! WHAT WERE YOU THINKING?"



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