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Memories of an unusual friend

Thursday, February 21, 2013

I’ve been away for a few days for the funeral of my best and dearest friend – someone I brought my children up with and with whom I shared the ups and downs of life. Sad –sad-sad - but these things are the pattern of life and I was glad to be there with other friends and share our memories. She was also my maddest and most unconventional friend and managed to make us all smile by issuing an instruction for all close female friends and family to wear red underwear to the service. ‘No flashing, though!’ she had written, ‘I just want everyone to be aware - that is my own celebration of my death.’ Had to be honoured!
Her daughters had put out some photos of her life at the wake and amongst them was this one, rather blurred now, of her two daughters and my two sons having a mudbath in her garden. Brought back memories of so many good times.

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  • NUMD97
    I stumbled onto your page, because we have a mutual SP buddy. I, too, just buried a close friend a few weeks ago, and I'm still working through all that now. Her memorial is next weekend, and all the thoughts that are still tumbling around in my brain are still looking for a home.

    Thank you for sharing your personal recollections of your best friend. She sounds like she was an amazing person, and because of that, she will always have a place in your happiest memories.

    Sorry for your loss,

    1809 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/9/2013 5:47:37 PM
    So sorry for your loss.
    True, true friends are a precious thing!!!
    1823 days ago
    My condolences Sonia. Sounds like you shared lots of good times and I know you will treasure them always. She sounded like a special lady!
    1825 days ago
    emoticon What a WONDERFUL Lady she must have been!! You were blessed to have her, and I know that You Blessed Her, Too. Treasure those wonderful Memories.
    emoticon I am definitely going to think about the Red Underwear at the Funeral!! What a Fabulous Way to Celebrate her Life and Friendship!!
    1825 days ago
    Sorry about your friend. Losing a friend is hard and I can imagine that the closer one is , the harder it can be. emoticon

    The snapshot of your children is precious.
    1825 days ago
  • MARTY728
    So sorry for the lost of your friend! Anytime you think of her, she will always provide pleasant memories. emoticon
    1825 days ago
    i am so sorry she is gone--but i am also so glad for you that you had her in your life. glad to know how much you treasure your memory of her.
    1826 days ago
    Awwww. Beautiful memories and honoring of her!
    1826 days ago
    So sorry for your loss emoticon

    How wonderful a person she was to do the red underwear thing to make you all smile and be able to remember her funeral in the future with a smile because of it.
    1826 days ago
  • NCSUE0514
    I'm so sorry for your loss, and glad for your memories.
    1826 days ago
    Hi Sonia
    I am sorry for your loss hun.
    Have to say she sounds a colourful character and so indicative of the people who surround you- all great characters. I'm thinking in particular of the friend whose funeral/cremation was in fireworks on the beach.
    Think fondly of this friend and remember with a smile some of the antics you got up to, I'm sure that's how she'd prefer to be thought of emoticon
    1826 days ago
    my sympathy
    1826 days ago
    Thank you for reminding me about life as it is. I just love the red underwear thought, will definitely nick that for my own funeral!
    1826 days ago
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