Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Living in the here and now. Living in the present moment. I don't know about others, but this has been something that I've truly had to work at to make happen in my daily life. How many times a day do I find myself drifting away to (insert any place you would rather be...mine would be Italy). Or thinking about my next run, my next meal, my next strength training session, does the car need gas, what am I going to do for the upcoming weekend. I know it's good to plan your day, but sometimes I have to pull myself back from the future and give myself a good dose of present day living.
For me, I find it hard sometimes to live in the present not because I don't love my life, but because so much of my life revolves around the future. I'm training for a half marathon that is happening in June, 4 months away. I'm in a long distance relationship which those in themselves are largely future-oriented. My son is graduating high school this year, which means I'll have an empty nest sooner than later. I have a lot of distractions that try and keep me from living in the moment...and they do win sometimes.
Just sometimes though.
I've found the importance of finding joy in the moment. It wasn't an easy find for me. It took many years of me denying myself this lovely right, that we all have, before I found it. Denying myself this right was a coping strategy for the situation I was in. Sometimes it's so much easier to live in the future, than to take a good look at the moment because you may just realize it isn't what you wanted for yourself. The fear of change can keep you frozen in future places, when what is really needed is the courage to look life in the face and sometimes tell it "no".
When I finally learned how to experience joy in the moment, life became a bit more fun for me. I'm now able to appreciate so much more than I used to, and it's all the same stuff I was looking at before. Sunsets, sunrises, the ocean, my children, my cat, an odd looking rock. Even trips to the grocery store with my love are lined with memories of fun and laughter, because I'm taking the moment and making it special. Isn't that what makes life special? It is to me.
Keeping myself awake to the here and now is a joy in itself. People often wonder how I find joy in the smallest of things and I attribute that gift to the fact that at one time I had no idea that it was even possible to enjoy my here and now. There can be good found in things, you just have to be willing to look for it sometimes. There will be times where it's easy and very simple, and other times will take your utmost courage to face it.
I suggest finding that courage and using it to bring you all of that joy that is waiting for you.