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I Wish I knew how to deal with my life.While living it!

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Tonight my sister and I got into a argument. And it was mostly about me being to freaking lazy as always. And then I started talking about her so called boyfriend to my mother vary loudly. And she got mad and called my grandmother and then my grandmother jumped all down my through. So basically I have to take my sister and grandmother both criticizing me. And I am getting so sick of the both saying whatever they feel like to me. I balled like a baby in front of my mother and grandmother and all my grandmother did was make a dropping motion with her hands under her belly and said Dawn you need to start doing more for yourself your fat is just dropping. I felt so sick to my stomach it was hard to breath and then I just kept crying and I said I just don't care anymore. All they ever do is criticize me all of them do I am just so sick of it.

And I guess it doesn't help living next door to your grandmother and having your sister and her boyfriend living with you.

Some times its just so freaking hard. It helps writing. I know it sounds a bit weird writing it on here. But its the only place Where people listen and actually help. It hurts when a complete stranger online will help you feel better when your own family is the one driving in the knife.
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CRAFTINWIFE 2/21/2013 9:57PM

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LILSHINE 2/21/2013 11:16AM

    First hugs to you... vent where you must and where you find what YOU need.

SparkPeople is more than weight loss because we all know that sometimes we're heavy due to emotional issues. I first must say I believe in the power of prayer, that it brings peace in the most awful situations. Highly recommend it.

Secondly, you said your sister and her boyfriend, live with YOU. Don't know the full story but grown folks typically live on their own and in their own space. If they don't like something you're doing or the way you live, it seems it time to relocate.

You have to learn to love you first. Words hurt, I'm aware of that. But when you begin to love you--you find strengtht to allow others reflection of you bounce off. Self love, self motivation and positivity is what you should work on. Apparently they want better for you but its all in the way they present it. I'm sure you want better as well. But the ultimate decision is yours and if you decide that you need their help to get there - ask - but think about it long and hard. As when you ask they will come at you. Blessings to you and remain strong emoticon emoticon

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ISTRALOUISE 2/21/2013 12:59AM

    That's a hard row to hoe.. I had a similar problem after I got back from the university and got sick. At first my family didn't know what was going on so they all thought I was the worst bum. Truthfully I wasn't very ambitious ever, but I just literally couldn't function at the level that was expected of me. It was really hard. In the end I had to move away for us to find a healthy relationship again.

Good luck and I hope you find boundaries that make your life a little less painful that everyone respects...

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TIME2BLOOM4ME 2/20/2013 9:55PM

    Hugs. There is a book called toxic parents and another one called toxic friends. It has ideas to copes with difficult situations. I had to set boundaries emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon with my family and friends at times when they were rude.

Never give up.

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OOLALA53 2/20/2013 8:49PM

    That is a drag!

Families get very used to telling each other what to do and how to be. You might be doing it some, too. We really should be commenting only on what affects us or if we are asked our opinion. If you are sure you are not doing the criticising, you can start asking everyone to limit themselves to compliments or other topics unless you ask. But you have to do the same. And try not to open yourself up to criticism about your body by complaining about diet or food or anything about weight loss around them.

If your behavior really affects your sister, maybe you should think about what you'd be willing to change and come to an agreement about it. If not, you can just tell her she's entitled to her opinion and change the subject. Try to stay calm. The person who stays calm always looks better in the end than the one who doesn't.

None of this can keep you from eating good meals and limiting the extra food. Good luck!

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DIVINEPRINCESS 2/20/2013 8:34PM

    What a sad situation. It's no fun being criticized --by anyone---ever, but to have family members doing it makes it hurt that much more. My heart goes out to you.

I hope you have lots of Spark Friends and you take advantage of the Community features here to connect with people. There are people out there who will encourage you and support you on this journey.

Don't listen to the lies. You are special.

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