Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Good Morning: I have grown up with my mother saying " God does not give you anything you can not handle." I keep sending prayers to my DS. He came home Monday for about 30 minutes bc he had to get back to GF. The doctor wants to do a minor procedure to try to relief the pain in his back. He has to be sedated and they are going to put a rod up his spine to see if scar tissue is causing the pain. There will be about a month recovery time. I think it is not that simple. He has never been able to just rest his back. The Army does not allow this, GF is about to deliver a baby, he just moved to a new apt- even though he had movers he had to move the small stuff, they think a herd of elephants live above him in the new apt, he has to drive long distances for medical care now- Army threw him over to a civilian doctor which is better in some ways but stressful in other ways, USAA just called - about his credit card. He is up to date with payments but they said there is fraud. He is talking to them now b/c soldiers are always being ripped off by someone stealing their credit card number. GF is going to find out today when the date of the delivery is to occur. Birth mother wants to visit and help. I told my son I will help and have birth mother come later with a round trip ticket in her hand. Long story- see previous blog. He has lots of paperwork to get out of the Army. etc, etc. I know some people have worse, but DS needs to get a break and some stress relief. When his daughter arrives, it will be another level of stress piled on. I am personally doing great. I finally had a scream at my DH. He is incapable to see himself and his moods and change. He only changes when I finally blow. I told him that his constant being whiny and moods are not very appetizing. He was complaining that I have no sex drive which is not true. I just have not been attractive to him. I am not attractive to a man who acts like a teenage boy. He looked at me in surprise. He definitely has changed over night. I think sometimes we need a baseball bat to hit these guys over the head.
Since he is now working in town and not traveling, the stress has been building up. I have been doing much reading about this male menopause and men get insecure and regress during this time. I can not wait for the change to end. I had to do something b/4 I went bananas. I hope DH stays in the present and does not regress again. Have a good day!!