This journey on Sparkpeople has been mine.
I'm the one that wanted to lose weight, and I'm the one that felt the need for change. But my friends out there who are part of a couple know that we never embark on these things alone.
Sometimes, our partner will fight us. I have often read posts that show this to be true. To be fair, I know it can seem as though we are very suddenly trying to change everything especially when it comes to the dinner table. What I have read is those frustrated posts...."My husband or my kids refuse to eat the meals I prepare!!! I just can't be making two or three meals to meet my needs and their tastes! What can I do?"
Well, I haven't had too much trouble with this since I usually try to keep our meals within the taste spectrum of our favorites. I have made some things that he was totally not thrilled with and there have been some things that he surprised me.
My approach throughout my journey was to let him know what I was doing and always make it an open invitation to join me but I have never said he needed to do this with me. Luckily, he wanted to walk with me....one of our favorite daily together moments. Of course I also run (when I can) and I have my other exercise options. No, I don't think he'll ever run with me....But....he has walked in some of the events in which I have run, and he has volunteered at some of those races. Of course he has also cheered me on and my secret joy is when I have heard him telling a friend or family member that I have run a race and perhaps taken a trophy! It's nice to have the support even if he doesn't have the desire to run with me.
Of course, he lost weight. Those walks have been good for both of us. At our house, breakfast is usually a "fix your own" routine. My husband has never tried my protein oatmeal and I don't believe he ever will. He has had some of my protein pancakes however. I was making them, asked if he would like some and I didn't elaborate as to how they were made. He ate his with syrup and since I hate the stuff anyway, I ate mine with mixed berries or some of my "rainbow" fruit mix. Even our lunch, which is our largest meal of the day and always prepared my me, will have an element of mine being slightly different than his. I love my vegetables. He's ok with most but not all and given a choice he will always say green beans. Well I love beans too but I also love brussels sprouts (he won't touch them), broccoli ( he eats this but not as large a serving), cauliflower, etc. I love nearly all vegetables and I eat them...if he wants some, that's good if he'd rather have beans, that's ok too. We both love salads but again, my tastes tend to be a bit more varied, so we each make our own.
Now the point of this ramble is that over time my husband has also made some changes in his diet and exercise. I really wanted him to make these changes but I knew it was first and foremost my journey and trying to push him would only frustrate both of us. I became the pebble in the pond and he readily became the ripples.
Lately, I have been trying to drink even more water than I had been. My husband is one of those people who doesn't drink much water. In fact, he usually doesn't take pills with water! I hate that but what can I say? Plenty but it doesn't change things! LOL
I get up and have a 12oz. mug of hat water with lemon or lime. That's a great start to my day. I still drink a LOT of coffee. I also drink tea during the day. (coffee is morning only) I have been filling a pitcher and draining that throughout the day. I have been doing this for at least a month and we have had the conversation about how much water I "should" drink for health and why I am doing this. Our conversation has also touched on how drinking more water would benefit him but I never pushed this. A few days ago, when we were shopping, he told me he was going to go into a different store to get himself a pitcher.
Now, we have two pitchers at the ready and though he has told me he doesn't do this as well as I, he's making progress so it's all good.
Ripples in the pond.
Now his question the other day was this..........." Do the comments you make on Sparkpeople help do you think?" "When you talk to all your sparkfriends, do you think it helps them?"
I am sure that behind these questions is the unspoken...."you spend an awful lot of time sparkin dear!!!" LOL
My answer to him was that I am absolutely positive that the comments help....I know this because the same thing helps me. I know that I am urged to do more both by my friends comments and also by their example.
And........Of Course..........there's his ripple to my pebble in the pond!
Yeah, it helps!