It's easy to get rid of friends that are negative, but there are other people that you can't just cut out of your life easily.
There's the relative that you end up seeing at required holidays. Fortunately you don't have to see them every day, but you do end up seeing them at holidays. I'm not necessarily talking 3rd cousins once removed, it's more likely to be siblings, parents or children. You're required to see them occasionally and your blood pressure always comes up around them and you just don't like being around them. Words are often said and feelings are frequently hurt.
I'd love to say just stop seeing them, but due to extended family, you end up being there anyhow. They're the ones that just don't get that their actions are the ones that always bring the stress and conflict around. Yep, I have one of those... If you've read back far enough, you probably can figure out who, but I'm not going to bring up names today.
Fortunately you're not usually required to see them every week, it tends to be a holiday thing, but that brings the extra food around too. Do you end up stress eating around them? I'm not sure why I always feel like I need to be careful around the feelings of this one, but it seems that everything I do is wrong, even if I'm trying to be nice.
So I give up on being nice. I'm just going to be me and if this person doesn't like it, tough. I'm done with the "looks" and the snide remarks. I refuse to stay in their presence any longer than I have to. I will get up and go if things start up. I won't stay to get hurt. I won't let my perceptions of their perceptions about me get in my way. I won't go out of my way to help them and I won't use up more energy on them than needed.
If they refuse to see what they're doing, I refuse to try to continue to help them in the little ways I've tried to. People like that aren't worth the extra energy they leech off you.
I'm not sure why I give them so much power over me and give me a migraine each time I need to see them? I'll just have to figure out how to deal with my emotions over their reactions toward me so often. I made my choices in this world and they made theirs, but we should not be judging each other in such the harsh way we do. I'm tired of the obvious judging and the perceived judging that comes toward me.
Now if only I could stop seeing them all together.