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Dear Fat Girl Letter

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Saturday, February 16, 2013

Dear Fat Girl At The Gym,

Yes, it's me, the skinny bit... uh, girl on the cardio machine next to you. I see you glancing over at me and I know what you're thinking.

How could I possibly know what you're thinking? Because I haven't always been the skinny girl at the gym. I was in your shoes when I started.

Evidence? No, there's not much evidence, other than my clothes that have gotten too big. There are definitely no photos, because I had become the floating head in them. Hiding behind people, chairs, tables, anything really. So you pretty much have to take my word for it that I was heavy. Unless you want a doctor's note? One that says my BMI was in the overweight category, one that says how many times I was advised to lose weight, would that help?

My cutesy matching outfit? It came together by accident, it really did. I got the shirt as a gift. I found the matching pants months later at a discount store. I'm surprised the colors match since I've washed the shirt WAY more times than the pants.

Back when I first started working out I wore pretty much what you have on: an old t-shirt and sweat pants. Just so you know, it's the starters workout uniform. Once you make working out a habit, you'll find yourself asking for workout clothes for birthday and Christmas gifts. Your real friends will get what you ask for. Be wary of the ones who don't. Don't worry too much about building a workout wardrobe right now, once you start to see the numbers on the scale move down you'll be motivated to try on actual workout clothes. They're the main reason why you don't see much sweat on me, the moisture wicking fabric is awesome that way. Trust me, I'm sweating, too.

I wish you would stop glancing over and just start a conversation with me already. I'm not stuck up at all. I could be your biggest cheerleader. I'm full of real advice, things that really work, only if you work them. (Have you heard of SparkPeople?) I'm not going to lie and tell you it's easy, it's not. Seeing you at the gym regularly let's me know you're not afraid of hard work.

I hope we talk soon. Whenever you're ready. I'll be on the machine next to you.

A former fat girl,
Dee
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ICANDI4U 2/19/2013 12:30AM

    I remember seeing those looks. Feel free to reach out to her! Great blog!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 2/18/2013 7:14PM

    This was sweet! :) Try talking to her! I bet she'll feel more comfortable :)

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STARSMEMBER267 2/18/2013 5:40PM

    I've kinda thought along the same lines before. Overweight people will say oh you have always been small so you don't know what you are talking about.. It's like seriously!? Really?!

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MARYJEANSL 2/18/2013 1:29PM

  Hey, if I were on the machine next to you, I would LOVE to talk...but I would be too shy to do anything but smile.

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SOUTH_FORK 2/18/2013 12:53PM

    I'll work out next to you anytime, you skinny bit...
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DUSTYPRAIRIE 2/18/2013 9:16AM

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PENOWOK 2/18/2013 8:03AM

    if she doesn't start, you can maybe??

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BIGFAMILY9 2/18/2013 1:27AM

    Gives me chills! That was so insightful and dead on! Your amazing!

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LIVELYGIRL2 2/18/2013 1:06AM

  How cool is that, who would of known???

Yes, my is is one of those girls. She started at 22-24 ad ow she is 8. Spread the story of good health ad happiness!!!! So, so WONDERFUL!!!!!

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ILIKETOZUMBA 2/18/2013 12:29AM

    Love this! LOL you're so right about the starter's uniform - I, too, started in baggy t-shirts and pants, and now I have actual workout gear that's kind of cute and colorful and fits well. :) If you really are seeing a heavy girl at the gym looking at you, maybe you should approach her and just say hi or something to get the ball rolling. Obviously you don't want to go "Hey I used to be fat too, here's how I lost weight!" right off the bat, but it might be nice just to say hey periodically until she gets more comfortable with you and then you can spread the spark! :)

Unfortunately, I don't belong to a gym any more ($$$ and all that), but I love to salute the heavy people I see working out outdoors when I'm out and about. I always silently cheer them on! It's great seeing people take control of their health like that.

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JAMER123 2/17/2013 11:59PM

    Great blog!!! Thanks for posting!

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ROCKYCPA 2/17/2013 10:12PM

    Great blog!

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JACKIE542 2/17/2013 9:20PM

    Great post, we should never make assumptions about anyone. emoticon emoticon

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AKATHLEEN54 2/17/2013 8:43PM

    Great job but I hope you will initiate a conversation. I know this girl will benefit from all you seem to have to offer!! emoticon

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CICELY360 2/17/2013 8:36PM

  good blog

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SJKENT1 2/17/2013 6:56PM

    thanks - a great perspective

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SUSIEMT 2/17/2013 6:27PM

    good job!

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PATRICIAANN46 2/17/2013 6:03PM

  I emoticon this blog. I hope she talks to you soon so that she can benefit from your friendship and excellent advice. If not, maybe you will have to make the first move.

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VINTAGEPAGE 2/17/2013 5:21PM

  Nice Dee! You are very encouraging :o)

XOXOX

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KARRENLYNN 2/17/2013 4:31PM

    Well done! You bring out a good point - we tend to judge others by what we see and assume things that aren't necessarily so. That skinny Bit - uh, girl, could be a great new friend, if we give her a chance.

Have a great week!

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DIANNEMT 2/17/2013 4:20PM

    I hope she sees it!

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NEWCHINELO 2/17/2013 2:12PM

    I love this blog!

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RUMBAMEL 2/17/2013 12:21PM

    Thank-you, I want to say this all the time. :)


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BLESSED2BEME 2/17/2013 12:14PM

    I knew this blog would end up on the featured blogs list. Your ability to share situations like this with us is amazing! I'm still that fat girl but yesterday I wore clothes that actually fit my body to the gym. Huge step for me!

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TERMITEMOM 2/17/2013 11:44AM

    Great blog - but please talk to her! You could become such a role model...

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NEWMOM20121 2/17/2013 10:48AM

    Love it.

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SIMONEKP 2/17/2013 10:39AM

    Say hi next time

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CEEMAY 2/17/2013 9:21AM

    Think how happy she would be if the cute skinny girl in the coordinated workout clothes approached her in a kind and sincere manner. You have so much to offer. Remember how hard it was for you at first. Please reach out to her and help her change her life.

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JIBBIE49 2/17/2013 9:14AM

    Great to see your blog featured in the spark mail. You are an inspiration to so many today. emoticon

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IAMAGEMLOVER 2/17/2013 9:14AM

    Yes, I can relate. I use to get the stares because I was the fat girl. Now I get the stares because I am the skinny girl. I say good morning to everyone, some reply and talk some just smile and go about their business. Whatever.

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SWEDE_SU 2/17/2013 9:10AM

    nice one!

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TINAJANE76 2/17/2013 8:58AM

    Great blog and definitely lots of food for thought. I'm sure there are people who look at me now and have no idea that I once weighed 260 pounds. I didn't get to where I am overnight and I started off in a grubby t-shirt and sweat pants too! And that was when I actually had the courage to join a gym. I started off by just walking because I was so self-conscious about my size. I slowly learned that many of the people who were already in great shape were actually very kind and helpful during my journey once I got over my complex about feeling like I didn't belong in the gym among them.

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SLACHETKA103145 2/17/2013 8:56AM

    Thank you for sharing and I really mean that because I am trying to maintain and I really understand that "what are you looking at"!

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LRSILVER 2/17/2013 8:50AM

    Great blog.

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JANEMARIE77 2/17/2013 8:40AM

    great blog

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OFGREENGABLES 2/17/2013 8:20AM

    yes. thank you.

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MIMIDOT 2/17/2013 8:13AM

    What a great blog! Hope it helps some of the bigger people feel more comfortable in the gym. Maybe they will be lucky enough to meet you, or someone as nice as you seem to be. Thank you for sharing.

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