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It's All About The Journey....

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Saturday, February 16, 2013

I've been through many phases in this whole "starting life over at 40" process. As I look over them, I can see just how valuable each phase has been for me. Each phase has been a stepping stone of its own magnitude and even though some were so small that they weren't noticeable until well after the fact, they still provided an incredible learning experience. I've found the trick was, I needed to be paying attention to these, otherwise the lesson would have just passed me on by and I'd be none the wiser.

Learning to have an open mind about just what exactly my journey is meant to be has been a very important phase for me. I came from the mentality of wanting something "right now" as opposed to the more realistic view that I've been able to learn to have which is that the journey is what is important here. The journey is where the lessons are, achieving the goals are the cherry on top of my sundae.

I find that I need this reminder from time to time when feelings of frustration are starting to set in. It's hard to continually be happy and positive, especially when I don't feel like being happy and positive. There are so many things I could use to "make" myself be moody and crabby and negative. I'm not at my running goal for speed yet, I'm not at my goal weight yet, my other half is on the other side of the world from me, money is tight...the list could go on.

One of my cherished phases I've gone through is learning to have the ability to take every one of those above listed things and tweak it so it sits in my mind in a way that sees it as a positive. I'm not at my running goal yet, but I'm so much closer to it than I was just 3 months ago. I'm not at my goal weight yet, but because of my efforts to get to that goal weight I am now eating healthier than I have ever eaten and physically feel strong and healthy. My other half is on the other side of the world, but he will be home soon and in the meantime we grow closer and closer through our words and creative actions we come up with to make it all work. Money is tight right now, but it has forced me to stick closely to a budget and has also shown me needless spending in the past.

The challenge is to take one thing you see as a negative, tweak it and see it as a positive. Even if it's just for a few minutes. The more you do this, the easier it becomes. Living in a positive mindset has been one of the most freeing phases I've had the pleasure of going through. Doesn't mean I don't teeter from time to time, but finding that established ability to pull myself out it is a must-have for us all.



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IMKFOX 8/14/2013 7:46PM

    Such a good reminder for all of us! Thinking positive may not come easy, but it's worth learning to do. It's a skill and it pays dividends in so many ways! Thanks for sharing. Keep working toward the goals you have and you'll get there when the time is right!
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ADAPTINGANNIE 7/23/2013 8:41AM

    Thank you for sharing. I love the idea of tweaking a negative into a positive. Something to remember in striving for attitude adjustment.
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SUPERSYLPH 6/27/2013 10:18AM

    Thank you for the great post. We just gotta learn to be positive one thought at a time!

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KATRINA023 5/6/2013 8:29PM

    I've just had a very stressful day and was feeling extremely discouraged. The Community task from SparkCoach for me today was to read a Community blog highlight and I chose yours. When I read it it helped me to find a positive in my day - Even though all of my best-laid plans were changed so that I wasn't as effective in reaching today's goals I did get to spend the day with one of my daughters a very rare treat.

Your blog reminded me of what I too have been learning on SparkPeople which is to be very aware of the journey it is taking me on. I quickly came to realize that SparkPeople was helping with much, much more than losing weight. It has been helping me build the much needed skill of learning how to build towards my goals one step at a time instead of trying to be there now.

The neat thing is you wrote your blog on my birthday so thank you so much for my belated birthday present! emoticon

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FRABBIT 4/9/2013 6:07PM

  Great post. Thanks for sharing!

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PORTIAWILLIS 3/25/2013 6:28PM

    Have tried many times to overcome my negative thoughts and actions. Read lots of books on this subject but have not really accomplished much in the way of change but your words have inspired me to try your way. I have a gratitude journal and I am going to take your advice and when something negative rears its head I am going to rewrite it in a positive way in my journal. I hope seeing the words will make me more aware of all the good things happening that I overlook because of the negative. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

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CAROL3SAN 3/24/2013 9:44PM

    This is a very motivating post!!! emoticon emoticon

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ABUFFKIN 3/20/2013 12:22PM

    Wonderful words of wisdom, thank you so much for sharing them!! This type of attitude is exactly what helps people succeed instead of giving up. Your words were really uplifting to me and I am so glad I got to read them. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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COCOONGIRL 3/19/2013 4:52PM

    such a great attitude....I see a ton of people who are sick...some have (+) attitudes and some have (-) ...it is NO secret that the people with the (+) attitudes do SO much better!! It is not just for when you are sick though...you will have a MUCH happier life if you have a (+) attitude!!

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ARIANORCHID 3/18/2013 11:22AM

  Thank you for sharing. It is very motivating; it also helps to know that others share the same struggle and are finding ways to overcome them.

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SHARIKAYE 3/18/2013 11:03AM

    I know this was posted a month ago, but it was exactly what I needed today!! God's timing is always perfect. Thank you for sharing. I will practice putting a positive spin on the negatives and looking at the journey, not just the destination.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Shari

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NOTHN4ME 3/18/2013 10:53AM

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I too am embracing my journey!

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LEANMEAN2 3/18/2013 8:59AM

   

Thank you for sharing!

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MEEMAH2013 3/17/2013 9:30PM

    Thank you for sharing!

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JMGRENOBLEAUMAN 3/17/2013 7:21PM

  I will try to replace all negative thoughts with positive ones. It does make the day a better day. Thanks for the encouragement.

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SARAHVAN84 3/17/2013 6:29PM

    Thanks for the inspiration!

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MAGGIE842 3/17/2013 3:31PM

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DANGBLONDE 3/17/2013 2:15PM

  What wonderful insight! Keep on working towards your goal!! We're all in this together.

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TEA_NUT 3/17/2013 11:01AM

    Great Blog! Way to go in keeping it positive!

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MAGGIEMAGGIE5 3/16/2013 10:37PM

    Great attitude... I can do that... thanks for the reminder!
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GRGAP86 3/16/2013 4:18PM

  great blog. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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4KWALK 3/16/2013 1:17PM

    You should get a motivator award for this blog. Thank you for showing us how to turn that negative around and look at in a positive light.
It reminds me of that phrase "Take that frown and turn it upside down."
thank you again.

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1954MARG 3/16/2013 11:28AM

  Great blog. Thanks, and well done!

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ABLACKBURN3 3/16/2013 8:42AM

  Very inspiring! Thank you for sharing :)

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CHEVYCUTIE 3/16/2013 4:31AM

    emoticon There is a silver lining to every cloud!

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JSEATTLE 3/16/2013 2:34AM

  There is sunshine behind every cloud! Yay! What a great perspective, thank you for the positive reinforcement! Good luck to you!!!

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WENDYM29 3/15/2013 11:38PM

    Wonderful perspective! I love your examples of turning negative thoughts into positive one. Thanks for sharing!!

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4RASCALS 3/15/2013 10:16PM

    emoticon blog. Thank you so much for sharing. Having a positive attitude is key. Love your attitude. emoticon

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NANADEE44 3/15/2013 5:03PM

    You have an amazing approach to tweaking your negatives to turn them into positives and I commend you for your efforts and applaud your successes.

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HORSEWOMAN10 3/15/2013 2:48PM

   
Thank you for this reminder. It is so easy to be negative but it requires consciousness to become positive. I hope your honey comes home soon!

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HEALTHYIN2014 3/15/2013 2:19PM

    Wonderful ideas for turning negatives into positives. I love your attitude! emoticon

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JISBIKINIREADY 3/15/2013 1:46PM

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LOVEXAVIE 3/15/2013 1:44PM

  This was spot-on and positively lovely! We all need to be reminded now & again that we have a choice in how we view things. Life happens to us all; it's how we choose to deal with it that matters.

Though I'm generally positive by nature, I find as I get older, I need to work at it more...really be conscious of my choices (both in food & thought).

Thank you for a great blog and best of everything to you! You are awesome!!

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HAPPY-ME 3/15/2013 1:35PM

    I love this. Plain and simple. I love this.
Thank you so much.
Meg

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SHANNONY84 3/15/2013 12:43PM

    Thank you for the beautiful blog!

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SHOYER 3/15/2013 11:49AM

    I am usually such a negative person, and your blog is helping me see how I can change myself and my attitude. It just takes me to change me. emoticon

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HAPPYMENOW58 3/15/2013 11:45AM

    Awesome blog!!! YOU are an inspiration!

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STHOMAS1009 3/15/2013 11:45AM

    This is actually what I am suppose to be working on! Thanks for the reminder. I will (really) try to change my negatives into positives.

Thank you!

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BSLMKH1954 3/15/2013 10:52AM

    Thanks for sharing. Now for me to follow your lead and change my attitude and think positive. I needed this lesson. emoticon

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