How to find the positive things.
Friday, February 15, 2013
Many of us have this negative self talk going on. It can be hard to overcome, but it is possible. There are some things you can do to stop it.
First off, don't stare so hard at yourself. Very few other people are looking that hard at you and the ones that are are trying to sell a product or hate themselves in some way. Put on your rose colored glasses and look only at the things you like. Maybe you're having a good hair day, perhaps you've noticed your face slimming, maybe you painted your toenails and think they're pretty, perhaps you've noticed a new muscle forming. Focus on the positive things you see and quit scrutinizing the things you don't like.
You are beautiful, you just need to be able to see the beauty that you have.
Then you need to stop focusing on what you can't do and think of the things you can do. Start where you are now and keep on going to become stronger. Perhaps you can't lift a light bag of groceries right now, work with the lightest one you can do and then add one more thing to it next time. Before long, you'll be carrying 5 bags in with you. You may not be able to walk all the way down the driveway right now, start off walking to the door, then make your way out the door and pretty soon you'll be walking up the street. It's called a couch to 5K for a reason.
Then you need to look at what you've done each day and discover how far you've come with your abilities each day. You'll get faster and farther in your abilities every day!
When you start to realize that you're becoming more positive, you'll start to discover the people who aren't your positive friends. Eventually you'll need to figure out who you should be hanging around with. Those who aren't on your side are not the people to hang out with. They may be friends, relatives or even your spouse, but those people who have nothing good to say to you are people who aren't really worth your time. I'm not saying you need to go get divorced, but there may be some therapy needed to keep you together in a positive way. Friends who just won't change aren't worth your time and you may find yourself suddenly "too busy" on the days that they want to get together with you.
You need to be surrounded by positive people, they lift your spirits while negative people drown you in sorrow.
Loving yourself is a process, but by finding one thing you like about yourself today will lead to finding many things you love about yourself tomorrow!