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Wrapping up the family trip

Friday, February 15, 2013

After leaving Massachusetts and the new granddaughter last Sunday, we drove through Canada to visit family in Michigan.

Our parents are aging rapidly. My dad is terminally ill and my father-in-law is failing. My dad's goal is to live until the end of June, my parents' 60th anniversary, but I don't know if he'll make it.

My mom, a fireball of activity at nearly 80 and 105 pounds, has us eating healthily. She's always been thin but she's lost even more weight taking care of my dad. I understand it's hard to eat when the only person in the household can barely eat anything. I know I've definitely cut down on portions and snacking while here. This has been a good week eating wise and priceless as far as spending time with my dad. It's hard for him to talk, and tiring, but he's always been such a social person that it's hard for him NOT to visit with us. I've been able to help them straighten out some things on their computer. Dad's done everthing right and has all of his affairs in order.

TC and I will leave for Arkansas late tomorrow afternoon and be home Sunday afternoon. I'm planning to get back to the fitness center Monday morning for bike class so I can start the week right!

It's been a good trip -- we got to see the very beginning of one life, and the end stage of others. It's always important to reconnect.

Have a happy Friday, Sparkfriends!!
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    So glad you got to be with your dad. I will pray that he makes it to June if he is not suffering and his mind is Ok to enjoy the anniversary. The last 6 months of my dad's life we were the every other week caregivers along with my sister and Hospice. In the beginning I learned lots about my dad, but near the end he either had mind changes due to a bleed in his head from a fall or had a stroke that effected his mind. He died 16 days before his 93rd birthday. He was only confined to bed 10 days and had a really good alert day the day before he died. My mother had died 5 years earlier at 88. I am so glad your mother is a fireball of activity. My mother decided she was old many years before she died. My dad was like yours and loved people and visiting with them. My mother was the opposite. She would never have been able to take care of my dad after his massive heart attack. She didn't like being around anyone that was terminally ill, such as my two husband that died and knew they were terminally ill.
    1857 days ago
    Epic journey: exploration of the self and all the things that matter most. You will have grief but no regrets . . . .
    1860 days ago
    The mind and will are powerful things. We also thought Mom woudn't make it to their 60th, but she made it 2 days past that. I'm so glad you got to spend time with your Dads. That will be precious to you down the road.

    Welcome home! I can now expect to watch your step count surpass mine (as usual) on the fitbit site. emoticon
    1860 days ago
    What a rich circle-of-life experience -- and what a load of emotions you both have going on with all of your recent flurry. Amid it all you sound so healthily centered in your self-care -- you've come a long way baby!
    1861 days ago
    Bet you'll be glad to get back home.
    This must have been a very emotional trip for you guys.
    1861 days ago
    You and TC have been a whirlwind of activity. Home remains a lovely place to come back to and I bet you will need to recharge your battery. You may experience delayed emotion once you are home, safe and sound; snug as a bug. It may just sneak up and surprise you. Take care of your inner heart dear friend. emoticon
    1862 days ago
    What an honor and a privilege to be witness to such important life events.

    1862 days ago
    What a blessing to have this time with your Dad!
    1863 days ago
  • DEBRA0818
    There's a lot going on in your life -- and even more reason to keep yourself fit and healthy.
    1863 days ago
    1863 days ago
    You must be exhausted , but what a rich, valuable trip. What irreplaceable memories, with the life well lived and the life just begun.

    It's a bonus that food frictions did not enter into the visit with your dad. Now for lots of good debriefing and chat along the road, and home nourishing home! (I'm avoiding sweets)
    1863 days ago
    Glad that you were able to visit your parents. I am sure that must have been a blessing not only to your Dad but also to your Mom ( who probably really needed someone to support her)
    1863 days ago
  • NANCY-
    Many thoughts are spinning through my mind. My prayers are with you and your family. Have a safe journey back home.
    1863 days ago
    Yes it is good to re-connect.
    Safe travels.

    1863 days ago
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