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Friday, February 15, 2013

This isn’t a rant or even a complaint just a statement of fact. Each year I tell DH NOT to buy me candy for Valentine’s Day. I don’t need the chocolate and after nearly 50 years together (45 married), I don’t need an official day for him to buy anything to verify that he loves me.

Note: I know that I’m a tiny minority in this view and I do not judge or criticize anyone who feels differently. In fact, I like seeing all the different ways people show their affection for that special person in their life and it’s also a boost to the economy. I just don’t need it myself.

DH & I have always agreed on one thing. We’re very thrifty. So I expect I will receive candy anyway, but it will be at the 50% off sale today or tomorrow. In a week or so I may get another token of chocolate love at 75% off unless others with similar mindsets have already cleared the shelves. It’s too bad the percent reduction is only in money not calories. Now that would be some gift!
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DORAL33178 2/15/2013 7:51PM

    Lol, love the blog title. I tell my husband to save his money on flowers (our cat Target loves them more than me) and I don't need anything special because I think of everyday with him as special. He provides for us and his praise of me taking care of him and the kids mean more to me than a box of chocolates or flowers. I love me a box of chocolates, but not the cheap kind in a heart box; I am more of a Godiva girl. and since those cost a pretty penny (okay a whole lot of pennies) I rarely indulge on those mouth watering candies.

Love the 50% off or more idea.

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MJZHERE 2/15/2013 4:42PM

  Lol my DH likes chocolate - me not so much. He too has become thrifty - so when we ran in the store on Valentines day he was looking for marked down candy. I had to convince him that on THE day they don't mark it down yet - he has to wait. I already know he will be in there the next few days looking for the latest mark down - along with the free samples at the bakery. I did get a rose to plant for Valentines (and a houseplant that he quickly told me was marked way down so he got it for me). Now, the gift was there because in the beginning of our marriage I told him birthdays, holidays, etc, there had better be a gift (just cuz my mom never got anything and I didn't like that for her). He has no problem with that (generous guy) but had to learn my extremely thrifty ways to not feel "guilty" for the spent money (which was also "inherited" guilt from me). For me I want to keep alive treating each other special no matter what or how that looks - don't ever want to take for granted the gift God has given us in one another.

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BOILHAM 2/15/2013 4:22PM

    Love all the comments that "we don't need a special day to show our love" DW and I go easy on the gifts after all these years, too. We know where we stand. I stand out of reach of the rolling pin, for one thing.

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CAKEMAKERMOM 2/15/2013 1:35PM

    I like doing the things for the kids and I know my husband enjoyed his little treat (a peanut butter heart and a card) yesterday. If it weren't for the kids, I doubt I'd really celebrate the day.

As long as he didn't go all out and find the biggest box of chocolates for you, you should be fine. Even so, it's okay to have a treat, even at half off, every once in a while. He is thinking about you when he gets you the discount candy. emoticon

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DR1939 2/15/2013 11:55AM

    I'm with you. I don't need gifts to tell me he loves me. I know he does, and he knows I do. Very seldom have we exchanged Valentine's gifts. We did stop at the in-store restaurant last night and have a bite to eat, but that was because I decided I didn't want to cook. And we are going out to a nice dinner tonight with a daughter and her husband and a grandson but that's because it is their anniversary. What my husband does do is walk with me when he doesn't want to, drive into town to pick up something for me (without complaining), attend shows and plays he rather would not, walk 50 miles in Wales because I want to, and suffer through my PhD in my 40s. BTW, we've been married for 53 years, all quite happily.

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CELIAMINER 2/15/2013 10:05AM

    Got a card and a home-cooked dinner with all the candles lit. The only difference from our normal dinners was the card. Every day is Valentine's Day.

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WILSONWR 2/15/2013 8:38AM

    My wife and I are the same way - we don't need a special day to show our love for each other. We are amazed at the frenzy of people buying "last minute" gifts for their loved one. She did let me take her out to her favorite restaurant (seafood buffet). Not good for me, but she got plenty of protein (crab legs) - something she needs desperately while on dialysis.

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ADARKARA 2/15/2013 7:54AM

    I asked my hubby for new spatulas for flipping eggs and pancakes for Valentine's Day, so last night he brought me to Bed Bath and Beyond and that's exactly what I got! =)

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COCK-ROBIN 2/15/2013 7:33AM

    Of course, flowers would be better, and don't go to your waist. (Unless you eat them, LOL)

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CLUMBOY 2/15/2013 7:21AM

    funny. you sound like me--i would rather be given a wet saw or a pair of tile cutters than candy. we tell each other i love you every day. don't need a special day to show it! i got 3 cards (one from him, one from the cats and one from the dogs) and a small bag of peanut m and m's that went to the freezer. we will enjoy them over time. the cards were much more important than the candy. i made him a batch of valentine cupcakes to take to work for his friends. he doesn't eat them, but they all appreciate them (i do this for his birthday too).

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NELLJONES 2/15/2013 7:05AM

    I'm with you. I don't do Valentine's Day at all. It's a marketer driven day to sell candy and flowers. My prized Valentine gifts were the construction paper and crayon cards from my kids many years ago. I'll take a smile from my dearie, but I'd like it EVERY day!

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_LINDA 2/15/2013 6:58AM

    Its a shame he couldn't think of healthier options -like sharing a run/walk with you, or writing a personal love note (this is such a lost art, isn't it?), or hitting a nature trail for a nice walk and talk, do something fun together like an active date night. Maybe figure out an activity you both might like to try like glow bowling or mini golf! See what he thinks of a non food celebration..
Have a fantastic Friday and a great weekend!

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ANNIEONLI 2/15/2013 6:54AM

    LOL Hubby and I are the same way!! He came in from work with a re-gifted little tower of chocolate that he got from a student and we had a great laugh!!! That is better than anything you could buy in a store!

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