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Friday, February 15, 2013

This isnít a rant or even a complaint just a statement of fact. Each year I tell DH NOT to buy me candy for Valentineís Day. I donít need the chocolate and after nearly 50 years together (45 married), I donít need an official day for him to buy anything to verify that he loves me.

Note: I know that Iím a tiny minority in this view and I do not judge or criticize anyone who feels differently. In fact, I like seeing all the different ways people show their affection for that special person in their life and itís also a boost to the economy. I just donít need it myself.

DH & I have always agreed on one thing. Weíre very thrifty. So I expect I will receive candy anyway, but it will be at the 50% off sale today or tomorrow. In a week or so I may get another token of chocolate love at 75% off unless others with similar mindsets have already cleared the shelves. Itís too bad the percent reduction is only in money not calories. Now that would be some gift!
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VICKI-BISHOP56 2/16/2013 10:05AM

  Bob and I went out to dinner the night before to celebrate another year together on Valentine's Day, but as far as a gift went, he showed he loved me, not by buying candy but by getting me a new pair of workout pants to wear to the fitness center and I got him a pair of exercise shorts. We like to give each other a little something on any special day, but it was nice to see we could give each other practical gifts this year, to help in our goals to get healthier. emoticon emoticon

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KNYAGENYA 2/16/2013 9:58AM

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SAILOR64 2/16/2013 9:51AM

  You two remind me of my parents. They two were very thrifty people. Both of my parents grew up during the depression so they knew what it was like to be really poor.

My girlfriend is like you and always tells me not to make any special effort. I always do because I want to show her how much she is appreciated. We keep it low key. I get a nice card, write something romantic and heartfelt, then make a gourmet dinner for her using all of her favorite foods and a nice bottle of her favorite wine. We dine by candlelight, listening to beautiful music and share an evening together, just the two of us, no distractions.



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TINY67 2/16/2013 9:50AM

    We exchanged cards and figured that was enough.

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BESCATS 2/16/2013 9:50AM

    I'm with you (married 42 years). I tell him not even a card. I have so many cards that I've saved over the years, I'm running out of room. This year I didn't have to worry about the candy that I ask him not to get, because Lent started on VD, and I give up candy for those 40 days !! Way back when, we couldn't afford to go out, now we go whenever we want to. We are also very thrifty, and I love buying things "the day after".
Hope you enjoyed your Valentine's Day !!

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JANEMARIE77 2/16/2013 9:44AM

    love and totally agree with your view will except for the chocolate weird but I'm not a big fan

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BRAVELUTE 2/16/2013 9:40AM

    Sent a spark mail, but I'm just saying you need to share your secrets.

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JENNIEQKA 2/16/2013 9:39AM

    I agree with you 100%. We never buy chocolate. Actually I love the dollar store where they sell these lovely heart-shaped balloons and we always buy a bunch. And some flowers too (bulbs that will last and grow for more than a few days) emoticon

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PATASSA 2/16/2013 9:36AM

    There are lots of gestures and gifts that can do the trick other than chocolate. Some years I am actively trying to lose weight in February, others I'm in a more self-indulgent mood. My husband usually checks in with me before V-Day to find out which it is. One year he came up with what I thought was a great compromise---a Godiva dark chocolate bar. Enough to feel treated, especially as I consumed it over the course of a week, but not enough to drive me off the deep end and away from the better habits I was trying to foster. Perfect for me! This year I am actively trying to lose five nasty pounds that I gained over Christmas and Mardi Gras season, so I explicitly requested no sweets. That being said, no matter how much we "know" we love each other, I am a firm believer in the rituals and ceremonies that make such love the focus of a day. Life is too short and I have already lost too many people to whom I would love to be able to make that gesture to just one more time. Make memories.

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AMANDACOETZER 2/16/2013 9:32AM

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CICELY360 2/16/2013 9:32AM

  good blog

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CARPROTH 2/16/2013 9:30AM

    We're the reverse couple - DH has always loved those marshmallow peeps (used to be for Easter, but now are out for Hallmark holidays all year), but refuses to pay exorbitant prices for a little puff of sugar and air. I get them for him at the 50%, 75%, and even 90% off sales after the day - it's become a kind of contest to see who can get them at the lowest price.

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 2/16/2013 9:29AM

    Priceless! (no pun intended!). Hubby proposed to me Feb20. Every year I go buy the half priced napkins, glasses etc at discounted prices. There are also great bargains out there on heart photo frames, etc. why not be ready for a birthday , mother's day , etc.?

I admit, sometimes chocolate. Like you, I'll take love in a little chocolate .

(sorry errors. Phone pad is hard for me to use)

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NEPTUNE1939 2/16/2013 9:19AM

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CHRISTINECAN 2/16/2013 9:17AM

    Totally agree with you; we call it the day Hallmark mandates our love;)

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NIKKIJ55 2/16/2013 9:03AM

    Love it!

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NEWMOM20121 2/16/2013 8:58AM

    love the blog.

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CEEMAY 2/16/2013 8:32AM

    Any expression of love is a great one and should be made very day of the year. Thanks for the chuckle!

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JANEDOE12345 2/16/2013 8:31AM

    I don't NEED a special day for showing love. But I LIKE the hoopla and fun of it. If candy is involved, so be it. Love is love and however it is expressed on this silly, made-up day is fun. It is as ridiculous as Halloween -- an excuse to let loose a little in the cold months of the year.

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MAXMAMA45 2/16/2013 8:25AM

    Love it! Chocolate always tastes better on sale anyways ;)

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JIMDAB 2/16/2013 8:18AM

    ha, good blog!

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MIMIDOT 2/16/2013 8:07AM

    Thank you for the laugh this morning. I enjoyed your blog and agree with you 100%.

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LIFETIMER54 2/16/2013 8:01AM

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MURRAY4LOSS4 2/16/2013 8:00AM

  I feel the same way I tell my husband that I don't want anything. I receive mine everyday with the little things we do for each other. I could not change that for the flowers or candy. I rather have what we have now. He is more then my husband he is my best friend.

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PENOWOK 2/16/2013 7:58AM

    WE agreed on JUST cards but he bought dark chocolate kisses anyway.

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REDHEADMOM2U 2/16/2013 7:52AM

    Love it!

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COCOLYNNE 2/16/2013 7:51AM

  I guess i wouldnt have minded chocolate. His heart was in the right place. On fact its wgat i expected, but when my husband got home with my valentine it was a yoga DVD instead of candy or flowers. I was so suprised.

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TRYINGHARD54 2/16/2013 7:51AM

    my hubby and I make each other home made cards.. no candy or flowers.

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JIBBIE49 2/16/2013 7:48AM

    Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor. emoticon

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TORTISE110 2/16/2013 7:47AM

    Alternative Valentine's Day: Funny Valentine playing to wake up; rasberries with breakfast; an orange juice or champagne toast to "lucky us!" Worth doing at least once a year....

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JANAMP09 2/16/2013 7:42AM

    I agree with you but DH over the years has always been the type to buy roses (which I put a stop to when he retired - ridiculous prices), card whatever. I really don't mind using the occasion to go out to dinner and he had asked me this year where I wanted to go so I thought that was it. However he also bought me a box of chocolates. I am 1.2 lbs from my goal weight and have been working out really hard and watching what I eat and have cut out sweets except the occasional piece of dark chocolate. When I saw the chocolates, I could not believed he had done that - I looked at him and said "you've got to be kidding, right?" I know his heart was in the right place put they have been added to the top of the china cabinet alone with Lindors and Liquorice Allsorts from Christmas. Oh well, the grandkids with be happy

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GHOSTFLAMES 2/16/2013 7:40AM

    LOL emoticon emoticon

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REGILIEH 2/16/2013 7:38AM

    AMEN!!!!

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SPARKBJOK 2/16/2013 7:37AM

    Oh, they're all alike, but they do mean well. Maybe they just want the chocolate for themselves?

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INGMARIE 2/16/2013 7:17AM

    I am right with you there, we do not celebrate 'hallmark holidays" at all
I love chocolates but on rare occasions.
We show love and affection in numerous ways (no need for sweets)
we are sweet enought. emoticon



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THEIS58 2/16/2013 7:16AM

    Love it!

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THEIS58 2/16/2013 7:15AM

    Love it!

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THOMS1 2/16/2013 7:12AM

    emoticon Hope everyone had a great Valentines Day!

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CFMOSS 2/16/2013 7:10AM

    Sounds like you've worked many a year at a good relationship. Happy 50% of Valentine's Day.

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MILLEDGE2 2/16/2013 6:48AM

    I just tell myself that those boxes are really ones which were made up a year or two ago and have been in a warehouse, stewing in their own preservatives. Now someone has dusted them off and sent them to the shelves and if they aren't sold, they'll come back next year.

For some reason, that takes the edge off the craving more than a little bit! emoticon

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CAM2438 2/16/2013 6:48AM

    Great Blog! Hope you enjoyed your day.

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OFGREENGABLES 2/16/2013 6:26AM

    hahaha lower calories and still tasting the same - now that would be something.

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BESSHAILE 2/16/2013 6:10AM

    LOL - too true - as candy ages it ought to at least lose as many calories as it looses flavor. thanks for the chuckle.

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SANDYCRANE 2/16/2013 5:53AM

    You gotta love Valentines Day. It sure makes the month of February a lot better.

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LAURANCE 2/16/2013 5:53AM

  I love Valentine's Day, and my daughter and I exchange Valentine gifts, usually something we found at a yard sale or cheap salvage store, or made ourselves. We've found some really neat Valentines over the years.

As for my Sweetie, I've told him to please not spend too much money. I want his love, not gifts. We were in WalMart, and he disappeared. He reappeared with a bunch of roses. I saw the price tag and said, "Oh no, so much money!" But he insisted, and since it was the day after V-day, they were half price after all. Now those pretty roses are on the table.

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SUNNYLIFE72 2/16/2013 5:23AM

  I wrote my hubby and kids each a love letter for Valentine's Day. They each enjoyed reading theirs and receiving the love and compliments I wrote in the letter. They can hang on to them for years to come if they want. They have something special to read again when they are having a bad day. The power of words. I think I would have loved getting a love letter from my parents when I was a kid! =)

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LIZZIE888 2/16/2013 5:20AM

  I loved this! It sums up my mindset completely... and yes I love the days after Valentines when all the chocolate is reduced... sadly eating it means my middle doesn't become reduced so I try not to.

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NCSUE0514 2/16/2013 5:02AM

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CYDNEYLEECH 2/16/2013 3:51AM

    I tell my husband this all the time. However, in that he treats me so specially every day, he wants to do more on holidays. Especially on Valentines Day. This year, for once though, he didn't go overboard. For which I am very grateful. I know he loves me all the time and I don't need a special day to prove it, (although he did get me chocolates, because my son told him he better)! Gotta love my son and my husband!! emoticon

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EVILPASSION 2/16/2013 3:26AM

    i like your view on life!

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