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Friday, February 15, 2013

This isnít a rant or even a complaint just a statement of fact. Each year I tell DH NOT to buy me candy for Valentineís Day. I donít need the chocolate and after nearly 50 years together (45 married), I donít need an official day for him to buy anything to verify that he loves me.

Note: I know that Iím a tiny minority in this view and I do not judge or criticize anyone who feels differently. In fact, I like seeing all the different ways people show their affection for that special person in their life and itís also a boost to the economy. I just donít need it myself.

DH & I have always agreed on one thing. Weíre very thrifty. So I expect I will receive candy anyway, but it will be at the 50% off sale today or tomorrow. In a week or so I may get another token of chocolate love at 75% off unless others with similar mindsets have already cleared the shelves. Itís too bad the percent reduction is only in money not calories. Now that would be some gift!
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  • v VICKI-BISHOP56
    Bob and I went out to dinner the night before to celebrate another year together on Valentine's Day, but as far as a gift went, he showed he loved me, not by buying candy but by getting me a new pair of workout pants to wear to the fitness center and I got him a pair of exercise shorts. We like to give each other a little something on any special day, but it was nice to see we could give each other practical gifts this year, to help in our goals to get healthier. emoticon emoticon
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  • v KNYAGENYA
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  • v SAILOR64
    You two remind me of my parents. They two were very thrifty people. Both of my parents grew up during the depression so they knew what it was like to be really poor.

    My girlfriend is like you and always tells me not to make any special effort. I always do because I want to show her how much she is appreciated. We keep it low key. I get a nice card, write something romantic and heartfelt, then make a gourmet dinner for her using all of her favorite foods and a nice bottle of her favorite wine. We dine by candlelight, listening to beautiful music and share an evening together, just the two of us, no distractions.


    1200 days ago
  • v TINY67
    We exchanged cards and figured that was enough.
    1200 days ago
  • v BESCATS
    I'm with you (married 42 years). I tell him not even a card. I have so many cards that I've saved over the years, I'm running out of room. This year I didn't have to worry about the candy that I ask him not to get, because Lent started on VD, and I give up candy for those 40 days !! Way back when, we couldn't afford to go out, now we go whenever we want to. We are also very thrifty, and I love buying things "the day after".
    Hope you enjoyed your Valentine's Day !!
    1200 days ago
  • v JANEMARIE77
    love and totally agree with your view will except for the chocolate weird but I'm not a big fan
    1200 days ago
  • v BRAVELUTE
    Sent a spark mail, but I'm just saying you need to share your secrets.
    1200 days ago
  • v JENNIEQKA
    I agree with you 100%. We never buy chocolate. Actually I love the dollar store where they sell these lovely heart-shaped balloons and we always buy a bunch. And some flowers too (bulbs that will last and grow for more than a few days) emoticon
    1200 days ago
  • v PATASSA
    There are lots of gestures and gifts that can do the trick other than chocolate. Some years I am actively trying to lose weight in February, others I'm in a more self-indulgent mood. My husband usually checks in with me before V-Day to find out which it is. One year he came up with what I thought was a great compromise---a Godiva dark chocolate bar. Enough to feel treated, especially as I consumed it over the course of a week, but not enough to drive me off the deep end and away from the better habits I was trying to foster. Perfect for me! This year I am actively trying to lose five nasty pounds that I gained over Christmas and Mardi Gras season, so I explicitly requested no sweets. That being said, no matter how much we "know" we love each other, I am a firm believer in the rituals and ceremonies that make such love the focus of a day. Life is too short and I have already lost too many people to whom I would love to be able to make that gesture to just one more time. Make memories.
    1200 days ago
  • v AMANDACOETZER
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  • v CICELY360
    good blog
    1200 days ago
  • v CARPROTH
    We're the reverse couple - DH has always loved those marshmallow peeps (used to be for Easter, but now are out for Hallmark holidays all year), but refuses to pay exorbitant prices for a little puff of sugar and air. I get them for him at the 50%, 75%, and even 90% off sales after the day - it's become a kind of contest to see who can get them at the lowest price.
    1200 days ago
  • v DUSTYPRAIRIE
    Priceless! (no pun intended!). Hubby proposed to me Feb20. Every year I go buy the half priced napkins, glasses etc at discounted prices. There are also great bargains out there on heart photo frames, etc. why not be ready for a birthday , mother's day , etc.?

    I admit, sometimes chocolate. Like you, I'll take love in a little chocolate .

    (sorry errors. Phone pad is hard for me to use)
    1200 days ago
  • v NEPTUNE1939
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  • v CHRISTINECAN
    Totally agree with you; we call it the day Hallmark mandates our love;)
    1200 days ago
  • v NIKKIJ55
    Love it!
    1200 days ago
  • v NEWMOM20121
    love the blog.
    1200 days ago
  • v CEEMAY
    Any expression of love is a great one and should be made very day of the year. Thanks for the chuckle!

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    1200 days ago
  • v JANEDOE12345
    I don't NEED a special day for showing love. But I LIKE the hoopla and fun of it. If candy is involved, so be it. Love is love and however it is expressed on this silly, made-up day is fun. It is as ridiculous as Halloween -- an excuse to let loose a little in the cold months of the year.

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  • v MAXMAMA45
    Love it! Chocolate always tastes better on sale anyways ;)
    1200 days ago
  • v JIMDAB
    ha, good blog!
    1200 days ago
  • v MIMIDOT
    Thank you for the laugh this morning. I enjoyed your blog and agree with you 100%.
    1200 days ago
  • v LIFETIMER54
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  • v MURRAY4LOSS4
    I feel the same way I tell my husband that I don't want anything. I receive mine everyday with the little things we do for each other. I could not change that for the flowers or candy. I rather have what we have now. He is more then my husband he is my best friend.
    1200 days ago
  • v PENOWOK
    WE agreed on JUST cards but he bought dark chocolate kisses anyway.
    1200 days ago
  • v REDHEADMOM2U
    Love it!
    1200 days ago
  • v COCOLYNNE
    I guess i wouldnt have minded chocolate. His heart was in the right place. On fact its wgat i expected, but when my husband got home with my valentine it was a yoga DVD instead of candy or flowers. I was so suprised.
    1200 days ago
  • v TRYINGHARD54
    my hubby and I make each other home made cards.. no candy or flowers.
    1200 days ago
  • v JIBBIE49
    Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor. emoticon
    1200 days ago
  • v TORTISE110
    Alternative Valentine's Day: Funny Valentine playing to wake up; rasberries with breakfast; an orange juice or champagne toast to "lucky us!" Worth doing at least once a year....
    1200 days ago
  • v JANAMP09
    I agree with you but DH over the years has always been the type to buy roses (which I put a stop to when he retired - ridiculous prices), card whatever. I really don't mind using the occasion to go out to dinner and he had asked me this year where I wanted to go so I thought that was it. However he also bought me a box of chocolates. I am 1.2 lbs from my goal weight and have been working out really hard and watching what I eat and have cut out sweets except the occasional piece of dark chocolate. When I saw the chocolates, I could not believed he had done that - I looked at him and said "you've got to be kidding, right?" I know his heart was in the right place put they have been added to the top of the china cabinet alone with Lindors and Liquorice Allsorts from Christmas. Oh well, the grandkids with be happy
    1200 days ago
  • v GHOSTFLAMES
    LOL emoticon emoticon
    1200 days ago
  • v REGILIEH
    AMEN!!!!
    1200 days ago
  • v SPARKBJOK
    Oh, they're all alike, but they do mean well. Maybe they just want the chocolate for themselves?
    1200 days ago
  • v INGMARIE
    I am right with you there, we do not celebrate 'hallmark holidays" at all
    I love chocolates but on rare occasions.
    We show love and affection in numerous ways (no need for sweets)
    we are sweet enought. emoticon


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  • v THEIS58
    Love it!
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  • v THEIS58
    Love it!
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  • v THOMS1
    emoticon Hope everyone had a great Valentines Day!
    1200 days ago
  • v CFMOSS
    Sounds like you've worked many a year at a good relationship. Happy 50% of Valentine's Day.
    1200 days ago
  • v MILLEDGE2
    I just tell myself that those boxes are really ones which were made up a year or two ago and have been in a warehouse, stewing in their own preservatives. Now someone has dusted them off and sent them to the shelves and if they aren't sold, they'll come back next year.

    For some reason, that takes the edge off the craving more than a little bit! emoticon
    1200 days ago
  • v CAM2438
    Great Blog! Hope you enjoyed your day.
    1200 days ago
  • v OFGREENGABLES
    hahaha lower calories and still tasting the same - now that would be something.
    1200 days ago
  • v BESSHAILE
    LOL - too true - as candy ages it ought to at least lose as many calories as it looses flavor. thanks for the chuckle.
    1200 days ago
  • v SANDYCRANE
    You gotta love Valentines Day. It sure makes the month of February a lot better.

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    1200 days ago
  • v LAURANCE
    I love Valentine's Day, and my daughter and I exchange Valentine gifts, usually something we found at a yard sale or cheap salvage store, or made ourselves. We've found some really neat Valentines over the years.

    As for my Sweetie, I've told him to please not spend too much money. I want his love, not gifts. We were in WalMart, and he disappeared. He reappeared with a bunch of roses. I saw the price tag and said, "Oh no, so much money!" But he insisted, and since it was the day after V-day, they were half price after all. Now those pretty roses are on the table.
    1200 days ago
  • v SUNNYLIFE72
    I wrote my hubby and kids each a love letter for Valentine's Day. They each enjoyed reading theirs and receiving the love and compliments I wrote in the letter. They can hang on to them for years to come if they want. They have something special to read again when they are having a bad day. The power of words. I think I would have loved getting a love letter from my parents when I was a kid! =)
    1200 days ago
  • v LIZZIE888
    I loved this! It sums up my mindset completely... and yes I love the days after Valentines when all the chocolate is reduced... sadly eating it means my middle doesn't become reduced so I try not to.
    1200 days ago
  • v NCSUE0514
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  • v CYDNEYLEECH
    I tell my husband this all the time. However, in that he treats me so specially every day, he wants to do more on holidays. Especially on Valentines Day. This year, for once though, he didn't go overboard. For which I am very grateful. I know he loves me all the time and I don't need a special day to prove it, (although he did get me chocolates, because my son told him he better)! Gotta love my son and my husband!! emoticon
    1200 days ago
  • v EVILPASSION
    i like your view on life!
    1200 days ago
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