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Friday, February 15, 2013

This isnít a rant or even a complaint just a statement of fact. Each year I tell DH NOT to buy me candy for Valentineís Day. I donít need the chocolate and after nearly 50 years together (45 married), I donít need an official day for him to buy anything to verify that he loves me.

Note: I know that Iím a tiny minority in this view and I do not judge or criticize anyone who feels differently. In fact, I like seeing all the different ways people show their affection for that special person in their life and itís also a boost to the economy. I just donít need it myself.

DH & I have always agreed on one thing. Weíre very thrifty. So I expect I will receive candy anyway, but it will be at the 50% off sale today or tomorrow. In a week or so I may get another token of chocolate love at 75% off unless others with similar mindsets have already cleared the shelves. Itís too bad the percent reduction is only in money not calories. Now that would be some gift!
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JOANNHUNT 2/16/2013 10:43PM

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MNNICE 2/16/2013 10:04PM

    Really??? It's NOT 50% less calories????? Rats!

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CLAYARTIST 2/16/2013 9:55PM

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FIT4MEIN2013 2/16/2013 9:04PM

    Now, if only the calories were also at 50-75% off. emoticon

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SHOAPIE 2/16/2013 9:04PM

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CHOCOHIPPO 2/16/2013 8:56PM

    Love the idea of having the candy at 50% off with the calories 50% off. Too funny. My husband bought me beautiful purple tulips, respecting my desire to not have chocolates. And my boss gave me....a small box of chocolates. I am going to enjoy one every couple of nights because it was sweet that she remembered me.

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HEARTS116 2/16/2013 8:46PM

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CHARTHESTAR 2/16/2013 8:41PM

    Actually this is good for all holidays.

I used to buy my decorations and 'themed' holiday gifts right after the holiday for the next year.
This works good- IF you have the space and are organized. Now most everyone I buy for has enough 'holiday' items to celebrate that this doesn't work.

I want to know what secrets BRAVELCUTE is referring to!














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CAROLJ35 2/16/2013 8:21PM

    Have you ever thought of giving the same Valentine Card year after year??? We have been married almost 59 years (and you can add 6 for the years through school before marriage) and for the last number of years I just put the cards in a drawer and pull them out for repeats.
But DH loves to buy cards and this year got me a LARGE one, 2 ft. x 3 ft.
That won't fit in the dresser drawer!!! lol

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ENG_TV 2/16/2013 8:10PM

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FLRED12 2/16/2013 8:06PM

  If you don't want candy (understandable), hint for something else that potentially will be on sale with hearts on it such as socks or lingerie. Romance without the calories! emoticon

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GINGERVISTA 2/16/2013 7:21PM

    I totally felt the same way when I was married, & it was only for 30 years. If love & respect was shown regularly, I didn't need Hallmark or the calendar to MAKE somebody say 'you're special' or 'I love you.'
And knowing I was watching what I ingested, I very much resented when I wasn't listened to & was given chocolates anyway. C'mon........if you're giving a gift, there has to be SOMETHING other than calorie-laden chocolates! If a person knows someone else well enough, respects them & REALLY knows what they enjoy, they'll make an effort to give them something special, & it AIN'T something to sabotage their health!
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NEWTINK 2/16/2013 6:19PM

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MAMAOWLS 2/16/2013 6:08PM

    Great blog thank you for posting it. My Hubby was so sweet this year. He told me that he was sitting in Walmart parking lot getting ready to go in and buy me a box of sugar free chocolates and then thought again about it. He decided that I was working so hard with exercise and watching what I was eating that he didn't want to sabotage my program. I really appreciated his telling me that. Today we walked to Walmart and he got a package of 75% off candy for himself and the grandsons and we each bought a 70% of fleece jacket for our Valentine's day presents.

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DIANNEMT 2/16/2013 6:04PM

    Ditto with us! I love the days AFTER Valentine's Day!

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ANYVAR54 2/16/2013 6:03PM

    Love your last comment. It is too bad that the % off is not in calories too!!!

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ROCKYCPA 2/16/2013 5:57PM

    Love your point of view - so true. Great blog!

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MARYJEANSL 2/16/2013 5:19PM

  You are very blessed and fortunate to have a husband who wants to show his love for you in a tangible way. Even if candy isn't really something you want to consume.

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KARENLEIGH32 2/16/2013 4:38PM

    I say any excuse to show your love is acceptable, but I prefer flowers that I can plant and see in my yard.

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A-DAY-AT-A-TIME 2/16/2013 4:37PM

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JOYFULSONG45 2/16/2013 4:34PM

    You are wise. My DH waits until the day after also.

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SCHOPPEK 2/16/2013 3:42PM

    I feel the same way. I tell the Hubs I don't need anything on Feb 14th, but he will always get something anyway!. This year he cooked dinner and brought roses. Very nice, but not necessary! emoticon

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PATRICIAANN46 2/16/2013 3:37PM

  I feel exactly the same way. I am a gardener and after many years of marriage, he now gives me some kind of garden item or Tulips to enjoy now and then plant the bulbs in the Fall. emoticon

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KIPPER15 2/16/2013 3:32PM

    The 75% off the calories would be great! I am with you about the thrift, my hubby went out this morning and got my Valentine for a great discount. I never mind his saving money.

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GIRLINMOTION 2/16/2013 3:20PM

    I am in agreement with you, especially if the calories where off too, LOL.

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RAMACA 2/16/2013 3:08PM

    Totally Agree!!!!!!

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KACEYSW 2/16/2013 2:52PM

    I get what you are saying. Thanks for sharing!

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LIVELYGIRL2 2/16/2013 2:24PM

  I like the idea, of the calories being 75% off too.

I do believe if your in agreement about this holiday, ad if you do something to acknowledge your love, on this day, or anoth emoticon er.

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IAMAGEMLOVER 2/16/2013 2:13PM

    I agree. This is a case to me where words speak louder than actions. I would rather hear an I love you or an affectionate squeeze or a hug than a card that he just signed his name to.

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ELECTRALYTE 2/16/2013 2:04PM

    I agree! And I do feel like a minority. We have been married over 40 years as well but have never fallen for the Hallmark hype.
He is more romantic to me when he brings me some nice vine ripened tomatoes that weren't on the list, or gives me a sweet, wiggley puppy just because I wanted one.
The holidays have always been about the kids. Not us. We never had a lot of money and we had to have priorities.

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WALLINMW 2/16/2013 12:32PM

  I hear ya!

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LYNETTEMOM 2/16/2013 12:19PM

    love it! I think that finding deals is great fun and spending lots of $$$ does not mean lots of love!

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ANGELN325 2/16/2013 12:15PM

    I don't have a husband, but I had BFs and some would begrudgingly do something for me for Valentine's day, but it never had the meaning that my daughter's home made card. She made a poem and it was so simple, but it was from the heart. To me, those are the best gifts. I'm thrifty too and so I agree, there is nothing wrong with that, especially in these certain times of uncertainty.

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LYNCHD05 2/16/2013 12:15PM

    Good to pass around when company visits!

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GRIZ1GIRL 2/16/2013 12:01PM

    So true, so true! Happy Valentine's to YOU!

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NEWCHINELO 2/16/2013 11:55AM

    I like the way you sent your message across . . . Thanks for sharing.

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CHRISBEM 2/16/2013 11:43AM

    I love your thinking!

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HAPPYFREEME 2/16/2013 11:36AM

    I totally agree. I feel that people should demonstrate their love on a daily basis. By demonstrate, I mean they should do things: write love notes, massages, hold hands. In fact, my favorite valentine's day gift was a serenade.
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NOTSOFLUFFYDAD 2/16/2013 11:33AM

    I know how you feel. The kids came home from school with TONS of candy and they want to share. The gesture is great but telling them no sometimes upsets them.

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DEBBIEG1232 2/16/2013 10:56AM

  Totally agree with you. It was the same way at this house. We are both working on losing weight so we bought each other books that we have been wanting. Everyday is a love day when you share it with the one you chose.

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MORTONDH 2/16/2013 10:29AM

  We too watch what we spend. On valentines days I buy myself something small that I've been wanting but is not in the neccesary category. This year it was a small bottle of eau de toilette (after 30 years I decided to change the way I smell--can you imagine!). I wrap my gift with nice paper and a bow and when we meet at home after work I smile at my husband and with a lot of excitement and rushing around I give him the gift that I bought for myself to give to me for Valentines' day. This is a no guilt purchase. It makes me very happy and my husband who does not like society to dictate when he should buy me a gift likes the game. He does not get a gift from me but chocolate and ice cream after dinner is a way of life for this fit slim man (Sigh). But we are looking less like Jack Sprat and his wife since I joined Sparks. We've been together since we were 14 and 16 and we are in our late 50's. Sometimes topsy turvey works :)

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BANDMOM2012 2/16/2013 10:21AM

    I love picking through the leftovers of Valentines. I can usually find something to put back for, you guessed it, Christmas

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