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Secret Power of Awesome

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Thursday, February 14, 2013


Happy Valentineís Day! Hope youíre putting a smile on someoneís face, starting with your own. Thought Iíd take you on another morning walk, because I had something that seemed appropriate to share today. I want to share the Secret Power of Awesome. Itís been the most instrumental tool in my SparkJourney. Really. This one thing has been huge, in changing the way I think about myself and others. Iíll go ahead and spill it, in case you donít have time to watch the vlog right now (I know it's a little long).

A year and a half ago, I made myself one rule: Iím not allowed to say anything bad about myself. No matter what, no negative self-talk can pass these lips. At all. Ever. Wow, that was a really hard rule to follow at first!! I had slipped into a terrible habit of self-bashing and it wasnít pretty. Plus, it was counter-productive. It never helped me achieve any of my goals and Iím pretty sure it made people around me uncomfortable. Not good. So, I made the rule and I worked and worked at keeping it. Eventually, it led to other things, like a whole new way of thinking. It gave me confidence and helped me re-discover my naturally sunny disposition.

It seems like such a simple thing, but I canít stress enough, the positive impact itís had on my life. It absolutely makes the weight loss journey better. When the scale moves up instead of down, when I get frustrated, I donít take it on myself anymore. And that keeps me moving forward, instead of giving up. There really is power in a little self-love, without being narcissistic. That one, simple rule gave me the Secret Power of Awesome.

If this is a problem area for you, why not try this? You can be stealthy, like I was, and not tell anybody. Just see if they notice. Or, maybe you can get some friends/family to help hold you accountable. You have nothing to lose and itís not going to hurt to try. Just give yourself time; it might take a lot of practice. If you do try and it works for you, let me know, okay? Iíd love to cheer you on, because guess what? Youíre pretty awesome. :)


Happy Valentine's Day, from Chubbs and Pudding
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NEWCHINELO 2/15/2013 5:07PM

    I will give it a try.

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TERMITEMOM 2/15/2013 5:04PM

    Positive self-image is the emoticon

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J2740LOU 2/15/2013 4:58PM

    emoticon Love the person you see in the mirror.
Take care of her/him.
That person is special.
As you would spread random acts of kindness to others. Give them to yourself also!!!
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DONNA5281 2/15/2013 4:09PM

  It sounds just like me.
It is very difficult for me to think positive, when all of my life since I was a child, everything was negative.
I do try but I end up going right back to where I was.

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KARENLEIGH32 2/15/2013 4:01PM

    I am taking the challenge, no more bashing! I'll let you know how I do.

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TJCROMWELL 2/15/2013 3:32PM

  Thank you, Thank you! I'm taking on the challenge and making it a goal for myself. This was so me!! I've made a copy to hold on to so I can remember the awesome, even when I'm having trouble feeling it-even the guinea pigs came out on the copy.
Thanks for the guidance.

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KACEYSW 2/15/2013 3:11PM

    Great share! Thanks!

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WOLFEONFOX 2/15/2013 3:08PM

  this is a great goal! thank you emoticon

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KDSTAP 2/15/2013 2:09PM

    I'll give it a go. I bet I'll be shocked at how much negative self talk I allow. emoticon

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CASKUL 2/15/2013 1:59PM

    Love the way you write - and I am going to take this on as a goal this year!

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JIBBIE49 2/15/2013 1:58PM

    Great to see you blog featured in the Spark Mail.

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WILSONWR 2/15/2013 1:27PM

    Great advice!

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BARBARASDIET 2/15/2013 12:49PM

    Just read another blog talking about positive traits. Hmmm, is this a call from the universe that I need to be more positive about myself?

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ANGEL5239 2/15/2013 12:48PM

    I love it when I find others articulating what's in my head! I also have the Secret Power of Awesome! I often wonder, do other people know how awesome I am? lol

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EDWARDS1411 2/15/2013 12:43PM

    "I'm in control of my thoughts and my emotions, I control them, they do not control me." - Dr. Shad Helmstetter, my guru when it comes to combatting negative self-talk.

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KARA151 2/15/2013 12:30PM

    I'm going to try it. Thanks for the Vlog.

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DEBLYNN323 2/15/2013 12:30PM

    So true! emoticon

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KATHRYN1955 2/15/2013 12:13PM

    What a delightful person you are!!!! I read the blog first and then took the time to listen to your vlog and was smiling the whole time!! I have been working on reducing the negative self-talk, but never thought of it in the way you described.
I will definitely let you know how it goes and thank-you for sharing your secret!!
Take care (I know that you are!)
Kathy
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SUGAR0814 2/15/2013 12:01PM

    emoticon I need to give this a try starting NOW!! Thanks!

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TAYGRL 2/15/2013 11:54AM

    BESTEST blog I've read in a LONG time! Thank you, thank you, thank YOU!

I HAVE been doing this lately and it's absolutely amazing to me how people notice the difference without you having to say anything. People who haven't seen me in while noticed there was something "different" about me, even though I've only lost maybe 10 or 15 lbs since they saw me last. The way you carry yourself when you practice self-love and acceptance is tangible I think.

Thank you again for sharing and I will be sure to check out the video portion of you blog later!

Have a most wonderful weekend!

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NEWCHINELO 2/15/2013 11:52AM

    I will give it a try.

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LAURENXX19 2/15/2013 11:46AM

    I love this! Great job.

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CHRISBEM 2/15/2013 11:40AM

    great rule to follow! I'll need to follow your example!

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SKIRNIR 2/15/2013 11:36AM

    Okay, I guess I am going to give this a try. Yes, I am afraid I won't manage to stop myself before I say them, as it has become a habit. I know my husband doesn't like the habit, but he doesn't say anything anymore. He can see I am struggling lately and he just tends to walk away. It does rather hurt. But then I get why he does it, because when he did say something and disagree with me, I rather ignored him.

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KALEWINE 2/15/2013 11:24AM

    Great blog! emoticon

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GABBY98_80 2/15/2013 11:19AM

    So funny- one of the things that I felt the need to give up for lent was negativity- toward me or anything or anyone- in just how you explained. Refusing to speak it with the hope that it would in turn change my thoughts and actions.

Great vlog... loved that you shared your workout with us :)

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LOSING4LASTTIME 2/15/2013 11:16AM

    I love your Vlogs!! This is great!!

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NOTSOFLUFFYDAD 2/15/2013 11:14AM

    very nice

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CHOCOHIPPO 2/15/2013 11:09AM

    Wonderful blog and wonderful walk! Thank you so much for sharing. It's hard sometimes not to do negative self talk, but I agree it makes a huge difference when you stop doing it.

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NIKKIJ55 2/15/2013 11:01AM

    Thanks for sharing! I will share with a friend

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ESILBO 2/15/2013 10:53AM

    GREAT BLOG, THANK YOU.
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GRIZ1GIRL 2/15/2013 10:40AM

    Putting the Awe in Awesome! :) YAY!

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GINGERHAWK 2/15/2013 10:25AM

    You really ARE awesome! Love the sentiments almost as much as the Chubbs and Pudding photo!!!!!!!!

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EVERLEARNING 2/15/2013 10:23AM

    Best

Valentine

EVER!!


Thank you!!
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GLORYB2014 2/15/2013 10:23AM

    YOU are awesome and I LOVE your blogs!
Although we are many years apart in age, I'd just love to have you for my friend in my real life. You are such an easy going, loveable person and so great to go on these walks with you!
Thank you for sharing your day.
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SUSUSUZZZIE 2/15/2013 10:22AM

    emoticon emoticon Great gift to share with us!
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AMANDA_NY 2/15/2013 10:18AM

  Thank you for sharing this idea! I love it! Chubbs and Pudding are super-cute! emoticon

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NEWVINE 2/15/2013 10:17AM

   
Thank you for sharing. You ARE AWESOME

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GOSPARK45 2/15/2013 10:15AM

    Great idea! I'm on it right now. Soon I can say emoticon !

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SKELLERGIRL 2/15/2013 10:12AM

    You rock! You're AWESOME! Thanks for sharing this blog / blog! You made a great point about being positive and how it changed your relationships and how your daughter picked up on the secret power! That gave me goosebumps!!!

I am a teacher and am going to adopt your Secret Power of Awesome for myself. Interestingly I've incorporated a lot of positive self-talk in my classroom as well as a resiliency camp for kids with learning differences that I do each summer with other educators. I teach positive self talk to my kiddos telling them that they may not come up to me with "I can't" comments. Instead they are asked to tell me what they "can do" and follow up with what remains blurry, confusing, or where the hiccups are. They've benefited from this, because I feel I've become a teacher for each one of them and provided exactly what they each needed. To boot, my 4th graders will come up with "I can" or "I get" comments when they feel successful - Ms. K., I totally get fractions!!

So why haven't I adopted the same teachings?! Yikes! We are surrounded by negative self-talk, but it doesn't get us anywhere!! By telling ourselves what we can do and what we are doing well, we should all be able to see how valuable and capable we are. It also allows us to see where we need support (not where we failed) and to seek the help and company of others that will lead us to success! We should be surrounded by positive self-talk and positive vibes always.

So, thanks so much for sharing! I think you're awesome!

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