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Secret Power of Awesome

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Thursday, February 14, 2013


Happy Valentineís Day! Hope youíre putting a smile on someoneís face, starting with your own. Thought Iíd take you on another morning walk, because I had something that seemed appropriate to share today. I want to share the Secret Power of Awesome. Itís been the most instrumental tool in my SparkJourney. Really. This one thing has been huge, in changing the way I think about myself and others. Iíll go ahead and spill it, in case you donít have time to watch the vlog right now (I know it's a little long).

A year and a half ago, I made myself one rule: Iím not allowed to say anything bad about myself. No matter what, no negative self-talk can pass these lips. At all. Ever. Wow, that was a really hard rule to follow at first!! I had slipped into a terrible habit of self-bashing and it wasnít pretty. Plus, it was counter-productive. It never helped me achieve any of my goals and Iím pretty sure it made people around me uncomfortable. Not good. So, I made the rule and I worked and worked at keeping it. Eventually, it led to other things, like a whole new way of thinking. It gave me confidence and helped me re-discover my naturally sunny disposition.

It seems like such a simple thing, but I canít stress enough, the positive impact itís had on my life. It absolutely makes the weight loss journey better. When the scale moves up instead of down, when I get frustrated, I donít take it on myself anymore. And that keeps me moving forward, instead of giving up. There really is power in a little self-love, without being narcissistic. That one, simple rule gave me the Secret Power of Awesome.

If this is a problem area for you, why not try this? You can be stealthy, like I was, and not tell anybody. Just see if they notice. Or, maybe you can get some friends/family to help hold you accountable. You have nothing to lose and itís not going to hurt to try. Just give yourself time; it might take a lot of practice. If you do try and it works for you, let me know, okay? Iíd love to cheer you on, because guess what? Youíre pretty awesome. :)


Happy Valentine's Day, from Chubbs and Pudding
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NANHBH 5/10/2014 11:43AM

    That's an emoticon suggestion!

I need to clear my head of that stinkin' thinkin' negative self talk loop. I'm gonna try this - again. Yes, I've done it before. It's kind of like bathing. You can't just do it once and then figure you're clean for life. That stinkin' thinkin' negative self talk loop will eventually come back.

I think these need to be my daily affirmations --

"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirableóif anything is excellent or praiseworthyóthink about such things." -- Philippians 4:8 (NIV)

"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." -- Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

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MARUKI52 5/9/2014 2:59PM

    I've just found this blog and find it really inspirational. I've been trying to do this myself. Sometimes I succeed and sometimes I don't. It's hard going but I have already felt that I am not beating myself up as much as I used. Thank you for posting it for others to use.

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LORIVIOLA 3/13/2014 10:48AM

    Shelli,
emoticon SO MUCH!

This came to me at the right time. Just last night I had an "episode" of self bashing. Ned has started "calling me on it" when it happens. Just like your husband did. I will begin today to find and cultivate my own SECRET POWER OF AWESOME.

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P.S. I a back log of Spark emails that i am going through, from the oldest to the newestó and that's how this one came to me.

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SLIM153 2/11/2014 9:01AM

    FANTASTIC YOU!!!
AWESOME YOU!!!
HAPPY VALENTINES THIS WEEK TOO!!!
THANKS FOR SHARING AWESOME SECRET WITH US!!
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BABYNURSE2000 1/20/2014 8:36AM

    Love, love, love this!

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TEXASFILLY 10/2/2013 10:30PM

    You are a beautiful child of God~ 'n I think Sunny Shelly suits you to a T! Thanks for sharing your secret~ it IS worth trying. *hugs* BB~ emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SNOWYOGA 9/25/2013 11:47PM

    I loved this and thanks for the reminder I need to find a way to keep this So when i'm having a time you (video) can remind me Sometimes it takes a few times emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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AMARIE013 9/22/2013 4:18PM

  emoticon Thank you SO much for posting this. Sometimes you've gotta hear it from somebody besides your Momma.

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DAWNDMOORE40 9/22/2013 3:52PM

    I totally loved your story! I need to work on this area from time to time! I tend to focus too much on what others think about me, and I know I am a good person! I don't need others to give me that recognition all the time! I keep telling myself that it isn't necessary! So you have helped inspire me to try and work harder at changing the negativity in my life! emoticon emoticon

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LAURAB_143 9/21/2013 11:37PM

    Thank you for sharing this great lesson. You are teaching me so much!! I love reading what you post. Congrats on all your success!! You are an inspiration and a great Sparkfriend.

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MISSLISA1973 9/21/2013 11:05PM

    I love this vlog and it is worth EVERY second to watch it!
And, to top it off (hahaha... I crack myself up!), I love the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle hat!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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KELSPRETTYGIRL 9/21/2013 12:59AM

    my friend, you are emoticon ER!

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JSTETSER 9/20/2013 11:50AM

    No negative talk. I love to!

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LAFFWITHLINDA 9/18/2013 10:46PM

    Very nice.


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KIKIMAV 8/6/2013 8:05AM

    I am catching up on some of your old videos! This power of awesome is awesome!
Challenge accepted!

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SUPERSYLPH 7/23/2013 6:05PM

    WE ARE ALL emoticon !!!

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SUN_N_SEA 3/14/2013 10:47AM

    Oooo! I must try this! My BF hates when I trash-talk myself... and I don't really like it either. Thanks for sharing!!!

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TERRIJ7 3/5/2013 11:50AM

    I love, Love, LOVE your blogs!

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IMSOOZEEQ 3/4/2013 5:20AM

    Well you are awesome for sharing this technique! I am going to implement this. My plan for the month of March is to change my attitude and go from negative thoughts to positive thoughts. This falls right in with what I am trying to do. Perfect timing!

Love the ninja turtle hat and the g-pigs are so cute!!!

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EFFRAYECHILDE 2/27/2013 8:39AM

    emoticon Self love is very important. Also, love the guinea pigs Valentine Day photo.

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GETTINGTHINNER2 2/23/2013 12:41PM

    I loved watching you!! I am going to give it a try... No more negatives about myself! Thanks for posting!! You ARE awesome!!

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SHANNONY84 2/21/2013 8:02PM

    Thank you! I to need to learn how important it is to stay positive!

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JIVANA108 2/21/2013 5:53AM

    Your blog brought tears to my eyes and made me smile, & sigh in relief. I am not alone in my bad habit . I used to dwell on "how" it started and try to analyze or blame more accurately my self bashing. I realize that doesn't matter what matters is starting today to end a lifetime of self hatred, bashing, and finally "live" self acceptance and grow into self love.
I used to focus on "why" i did it, to beat others to it if i did it first. You have helped me see the uncomfortable effect it had on those around me :) I am going to start small today with your little rule.
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Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this blog!

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NEWSGIRL2177 2/20/2013 7:41PM

    This IS awesome! I did this for a year and was amazed at how much better I felt just not being mean to myself. Then I started doing it again, I felt horrible. I've made a commitment to myself to not be mean to myself again, and already things are a bit sunnier. You're a smart lady. Thanks for sharing this and reminding me how awesome it is out there!

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_JULEE_ 2/19/2013 6:50PM

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CAGYKMY 2/19/2013 1:46PM

  This is so fantastic to think about. I have "joking" about myself as long as I remember (I'm 73) so it's really embedded in my mind. I am going to try this. I know it will be a hard habit to break, but I want to be awesome too.

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GALINAZ 2/19/2013 11:57AM

    Make little changes, this is a wonderful one. I never thought about listening to what I say or think about myself. Thanks!

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TAFODIL24 2/19/2013 7:23AM

    You are an inspiration emoticon

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SJKENT1 2/18/2013 10:46PM

    I am really trying this one on... working at it. Haven't told my husband yet. I am taking it a bit further and working on being positive with others too. Negativity just sucks the life out of all of us and it is time to banish it!

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PEGLEGN64 2/18/2013 9:14PM

    WOW, with 230 comments you have really inspired alot of people with your Blog. I love watching your blogs. I must say your pretty emoticon

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JANETRIS 2/18/2013 4:15PM

    Thank you so much for this blog! Amazing how something so simple can have such a huge impact! emoticon

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RFJSJ50 2/18/2013 12:36PM

    Love it - and definitely a habit that I need to develop!
Sheila

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NLYR20 2/18/2013 11:39AM

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MARYANNSQUEST 2/18/2013 11:03AM

    Loved it! Thank you so much for a great blog!
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CHRISTINASP 2/18/2013 7:32AM

    Thank you!

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MUSCLE-UP 2/17/2013 9:45PM

    You are awesome! Thank you for sharing. Maybe some day soon I can learn to be awesome too!

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MISSMARCYB 2/17/2013 5:11PM

  Negative self talk can hold us back and keep us from achieving our goals. Way to battle one of the biggest battles in regaining our health!

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AYULE0 2/17/2013 10:36AM

    That really is the secret isn't it?
Not being so hard on ourselves...

Now if only I could figure out how to silence the inner voice that is the "basher"....think I'm going to have to start implementing your suggestions!

Thanks!

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CAMSEDGE 2/17/2013 10:34AM

    Congratulations and thank you for all the fun you share. You are Awesome! emoticon

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WATERDIAMONDS 2/17/2013 8:54AM

    What a lovely gift to share with the rest of us. Thank you for a thought-provoking blog.
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CELESTE_B 2/17/2013 8:43AM

    I'm going to try this! Fur sure!

Thanks for taking us on your walk. Enjoyed the Vlog!

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CM_GARDNER78 2/16/2013 11:47PM

    Hope Chubs and Pudding had a great VDay! :-)

Great blog, as always!!!

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MARYJEANSL 2/16/2013 5:13PM

  You really put your finger on something very powerful here.

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HZGLORY 2/16/2013 4:48PM

    Sheli, I have already started what you are talking about and it is mostly to your credit. I started watching your blogs a while ago and I started noticing a trend of how funny you were. I thought at first this gal knows how to be humorous. Then as I went back to some of your prior blogs I found myself wanting to be as happy and positive as you were in your blogs. I thought of your blogs often and how they would always pick up my mood when I watched them.

Then I realized one day that everytime I saw myself in the mirror I would think a negative thing about my body,shape,weight,different body parts even my face. That would lead to me thinking negative about myself all day and that would make it just that much harder to stick to the food requirements. Because one bad thought would lead to another and another and pretty soon I was having a whole conversation in my head about how I was wasting my time doing this and it would not work because of one thing or another. One day I just called myself on it and said no more. So not only do I not allow myself to think or say bad thoughts to me when I see myself, I actually do the opposite. I find something good to say about what ever I see in the mirror that particular day and it makes my heart much lighter. You know I have not even noticed it until now that you bring it up, but I don't think I have entertained a bad thought about my body in quite a while now, maybe a couple of months. Wow that is way cool.

Yep, you inspire me and o many others. I don't know if I am at the point of thinking myself awesome all the time yet, but I am half way there. It is so freeing I think. I also see as I feel better about me others around me seem to treat me better as well. Who knew if you don't love on you noone else will either....hmmm deep thought, lol Have a great weekend and love the whole idea!! Susan

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