Thursday, February 14, 2013
On Valentine's Day we tend to focus on our significant others. However, we shouldn't forget to love ourselves as well. I believe I am my own best friend. I'm fortunate enough to have a great support network and many friends and family members who love me - but ultimately it means nothing unless I love me too.
Taking time to love myself allows me to find new sources of motivation. I am on this weight-loss, healthy living journey because I love myself and I want to love the person I see in the mirror. I'm not talking about conceit or self absorption. I'm talking about inner strength and having enough pride in myself to put the fork down and hop on the elliptical.
Consider these ways to love yourself:
1. Set small goals and give yourself a special reward for achieving them. For example, I will treat myself to a massage when I lose my first 10 pounds.
2. Positive self talk is a great tool for defeating self doubt and depression. If you aren't used to it, it feels awkward at first but over time it is a source of inner strength. I write BIW in a discrete place that I see every day. It reminds me that I am a beautiful and intelligent woman. Find your own self love mantra and create a personal reminder so you can say it everyday to yourself. It really does work.
3. Don't forget to indulge once in awhile. I am planning to eat a piece of chocolate cake tonight during my Valentine's Day dinner with my husband. It's not something I should eat every day, but on special occasions if I go over my calories by a couple hundred calories it's not going to break me.
4. Surround yourself with positive people. We all have had friends who take more energy than they give. There is a place in our lives for these people, but when someone starts to consume your spirit it is time to question what you get from that relationship and if it is really necessary in your life. Don't be afraid to distance yourself from people who don't fill your life positively.
Healthy living isn't just about what we eat or how much we exercise. Our mind and soul needs to be healthy as well or else the food and fitness don't mean anything. As I have struggled with depression in my life, these strategies and others have become more and more important to me.
What do you do to love yourself?