I just read ~INDYGIRL's blog and this is how I answered her, I felt I needed to copy it here for myself.
Thank you Beth. Well written. thought provoking. I didn't read your last, but I do like myself.
I am loyal to others, so I need to be loyal to myself.
I have energy to have fun with my grandchildren, so I need to take time to have energy for myself.
I am artistic, find ways to use that artistic side for myself.
I have already succeeded in loosing 35 lbs, so I can go forward and do more.

Happy Valentine's Day! Hugs.