Thursday, February 14, 2013
Now that it's Valentine's Day everyone is talking about love, especially love for a significant other. Many of us, for many reasons, don't have a significant other to "share the day" so what do we do?
Certainly sitting around lamenting our situation is one option. Spending time with other loved ones is a better option. But why do we limit our love to certain people on a certain day?
Love is endless and eternal. Love can not die or run out. In fact, the more we express love and act out of a place of love, the more we open our lives up to love and the more love we will experience daily.
So how do we do this? It's one of those things that's simple but difficult. It takes work and consistency but, much like eating healthy foods and exercising and cleaning the house, it's worth it.
The next time you're angry and want to curse someone, smile and tell them to have a nice day. If someone cuts you off in traffic, instead of flipping a bird, flip a peace sign. If someone insults you, find something to compliment them about.
And please let go of jealousy and envy. When you tell someone you're jealous of them, it's almost like you're saying "You don't deserve that. It should be mine!" Try saying, "That's wonderful! I hope to have that one day, too! I'm so happy for you!"
This works for self-talk, too, by the way. When you hear that voice within you mumbling insults at you, telling you how you're wrong or stupid or ugly, make a concerted effort to tune out the voice and say something nice about yourself. Oh, there's plenty nice to say about you! Look at how far you've come! You've lost so much weight/inches, you made a healthy choice for your last meal/snack, those jeans are off the hook! And your hair? I just LOVE that color!
Of course like many things this will involve a certain amount of "fake it until you make it". But if you want to live in a kinder, politer, more loving world, it has begin with you! Like I said earlier, it's really simple but that doesn't mean it's easy!