Thursday, February 14, 2013
I see people spending fortunes trying to come up with the perfect living room or kitchen, that "expresses their style". But really it's the owner's comfort within the room or the home that makes it perfect. A happy owner makes a happy home, not the sofa or the lamps. Trying to find happiness through acquisition doesn't work.
I hear people decrying houses as all looking the same. Yet if you know the owners and LIKE them, the house looks different from the others. Every home is its own little country: it has its own language, history, balance sheet, traditions, customs. Those are made by the occupants not the house. It never translates into a photo, it's in the air of the home, in the very walls. I have a traditional home, not an "open concept", yet it is filled with the collections of 30 years of marriage and 4 kids now grown and gone. A stranger would assess the decor as too granny, but I am the most important design element in each room. I feel the history and it translates to how I feel about the house, and within the house. Will my home ever be in House Beautiful? Hardly. But I wouldn't trade it for the world.
The next time you drive around, look at each house, notice each apartment in an apartment complex where they all look the same from the outside, and know that they are all so very different. I wonder about who lives there, what their stories are, but I don't envy any of their kitchens or their bathrooms or their rugs, seen or unseen. And because I am happy with my life, happy in my own skin, everything around me looks happy.
On a weight loss journey (or any other long term goal), one of the most important by-products is happiness within ourselves. It can't be bought, or even earned. It is a quiet comfort gained by liking bits of your life, little by little liking more bits of your life. Eventually you'll like enough of your life to realize happiness. And that happiness exudes itself like an aura, and you look wonderful, feel wonderful, and everything around you will look wonderful. Happiness is better than any make-up or make-over.
I wish everyone Happiness, One Day At A Time.