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De-motivators

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Thought that title would get your attention! Seriously, folks, on Valentine's Day, as a single woman, I figure it's a good day to talk about the mental / emotional game of motivation.

I've been reading several blogs this week that focus on the scale and how seeing it go up or down is affecting the mood of the weigh-ee. For good or for bad.

Believe it or not (I'm sure those of you who are familiar with my flights of blog-antasy will believe)... I am drawing parallels between "holiday blues" and "scale results (or lack thereof) blues".

Both are about expectations, responsibility, ability to influence, and reality. Even my recent freak-outs over work are about expectations, anticipation and reality.

Anytime we expect things that are out of our control to go a certain way... anytime we outline... try to manipulate or control... something that is NOT something we control... we set ourselves up for the potential of dissapointment. Or, contrarily, we set ourselves up to take credit for something that truly was an experience of grace.

You have people in your life you love? Cherish them this Valentine's Day. But whether you're in a perfect relationship or not, remember to love and cherish yourself... because you are worth it... no matter WHERE you are on your journey to healthy living!

So, just for today... God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

Spark on!
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  • KALIGIRL
    Right on - after all, the only thing we can 'control' is our attitude...

    May be late, but emoticon coming your way!
    1710 days ago
  • OVERWORKEDJANET
    LOL I was actually disappointed when my DH remembered a card!
    He's not one for Hallmark moments even though society has trained us to jump through hoops. I was more enchanted that he put away the dishes!!!!


    1710 days ago
  • MSLZZY
    I love that you included the serenity prayer at
    the end. I need to try to accept what comes along,
    but make sure I make the best choices for me so
    that I will not be disappointed by them. After
    that, accept that I am in control of me and not
    the whole world. HUGS!
    1710 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Having been a single woman all my life with no expectations of anything else, I have come to live in peace with myself. To accept all my faults, warts and all, to accept my reality, but to also try be all that I can be as well :) To never give in and never give up!!
    Here is to being successful at what ever you choose, but to not beating yourself up if it doesn't work out exactly as planned.
    Happy Valentine's Day my friend!

    1710 days ago
  • KARIDIAN1
    You forgot the line that goes something like the power to take out the naysayers or something like that.
    1710 days ago
  • MOBYCARP
    Aside from the pink heart shaped cookies at the VITA site, I didn't notice it was Valentine's Day. February 14 is much less stressful when I don't have to fulfill expectations of acting romantically.
    1710 days ago
  • LJCANNON
    emoticon Very Good Advice, especially Today!!!
    1710 days ago
  • DEBRITA01
    The entire blog has a great message, but the 5th paragraph says it all...so insightful and true. Love the Serenity prayer...it brings such perspective to every day life. emoticon
    1710 days ago
  • SLENDERELLA61
    You are SO right. That is a very good point about expectations and lack of control and disappointments. I'll remember that and carry it with me. Very good message for where I am right now. Thanks!!
    1710 days ago
  • LEANJEAN6
    just enjoy being you Barb!-I emoticon emoticon loves ya!!!
    1710 days ago
  • LESLIELENORE
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  • DALID414
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  • DEBRA0818
    Happy Valentine's Day, Barb! Confucius says that all unhappiness begins with a comparison, whether that comparison is between what you expect of yourself and actually are, or what you expect of others and the world and actually get. How much better to focus only on things we can control and work on accepting the rest.

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    1711 days ago
  • PATRICIAAK
    amen
    1711 days ago
  • DLDMIL
    Happy Valentine's Day to you and all the single women. I will be traveling later today with my DD and gkids for a four day weekend. that is how I am spending my Valentine's, with my family. It will be 2 days of long driving, but we will make the most of it to enjoy each others company.

    Have a great weekend and I will check in when I can. Stay strong Barb. emoticon
    1711 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/14/2013 11:54:37 AM
  • ROXYZMOM
    Very true! Good points!
    1711 days ago
  • MEXGAL1
    So true, we need to love ourselves.
    Happy Valentine's Day!
    1711 days ago
  • LINDAKAY228
    As another single woman, I totally agree! We can celebrate Valentine's day by treating ourselves and our bodies special and then try to carry it through the year! It doesn't just have to be about romantic relationships with others, but our special relationship with ourself!

    Happy Valentine's Day! emoticon
    1711 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    Oh my gosh . . . that's absolutely my mantra . . . the Serenity Prayer! You have written such a very important blog! The most important thing I have to remember is :

    "Anytime we expect things that are out of our control to go a certain way... anytime we outline... try to manipulate or control... something that is NOT something we control... we set ourselves up for the potential of dissapointment. Or, contrarily, we set ourselves up to take credit for something that truly was an experience of grace. "

    Such profound words!

    Happy Valentine's Day to you and thanks for this wonderful blog.
    1711 days ago
  • CONCHA77
    Happy Valentines Day to you, Barb.
    1711 days ago
  • CELIAMINER
    Beautifully said! In my two years on SP, I've seen the weight come off, the weight stay off, and my fitness level improve. But the biggest change has been inside, where negative self-talk has been replaced by self-forgiveness and self-love. It's elating to feel I am worthy of being happy and worthy of enjoying good things in life.
    1711 days ago
  • JANEMARIE77
    Great blog have a great day
    1711 days ago
  • SANDYCRANE
    I loved your comments, especially about the scale. Thanks for enlightening me.

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    1711 days ago
  • HEALTHY4ME
    Right on !!! have a great day! HUGS
    1711 days ago
  • GABY1948
    GREAT, GREAT blog, Barb! Thanks! Have a GREAT day! emoticon
    1711 days ago
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