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Thursday, February 14, 2013

Thought that title would get your attention! Seriously, folks, on Valentine's Day, as a single woman, I figure it's a good day to talk about the mental / emotional game of motivation.

I've been reading several blogs this week that focus on the scale and how seeing it go up or down is affecting the mood of the weigh-ee. For good or for bad.

Believe it or not (I'm sure those of you who are familiar with my flights of blog-antasy will believe)... I am drawing parallels between "holiday blues" and "scale results (or lack thereof) blues".

Both are about expectations, responsibility, ability to influence, and reality. Even my recent freak-outs over work are about expectations, anticipation and reality.

Anytime we expect things that are out of our control to go a certain way... anytime we outline... try to manipulate or control... something that is NOT something we control... we set ourselves up for the potential of dissapointment. Or, contrarily, we set ourselves up to take credit for something that truly was an experience of grace.

You have people in your life you love? Cherish them this Valentine's Day. But whether you're in a perfect relationship or not, remember to love and cherish yourself... because you are worth it... no matter WHERE you are on your journey to healthy living!

So, just for today... God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

Spark on!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
KALIGIRL 2/15/2013 12:25PM

    Right on - after all, the only thing we can 'control' is our attitude...

May be late, but emoticon coming your way!

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    LOL I was actually disappointed when my DH remembered a card!
He's not one for Hallmark moments even though society has trained us to jump through hoops. I was more enchanted that he put away the dishes!!!!

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MSLZZY 2/15/2013 7:16AM

    I love that you included the serenity prayer at
the end. I need to try to accept what comes along,
but make sure I make the best choices for me so
that I will not be disappointed by them. After
that, accept that I am in control of me and not
the whole world. HUGS!

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_LINDA 2/15/2013 1:31AM

    Having been a single woman all my life with no expectations of anything else, I have come to live in peace with myself. To accept all my faults, warts and all, to accept my reality, but to also try be all that I can be as well :) To never give in and never give up!!
Here is to being successful at what ever you choose, but to not beating yourself up if it doesn't work out exactly as planned.
Happy Valentine's Day my friend!

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KARIDIAN1 2/14/2013 10:07PM

    You forgot the line that goes something like the power to take out the naysayers or something like that.

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MOBYCARP 2/14/2013 9:05PM

    Aside from the pink heart shaped cookies at the VITA site, I didn't notice it was Valentine's Day. February 14 is much less stressful when I don't have to fulfill expectations of acting romantically.

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LJCANNON 2/14/2013 8:30PM

    emoticon Very Good Advice, especially Today!!!

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DEBRITA01 2/14/2013 7:39PM

    The entire blog has a great message, but the 5th paragraph says it insightful and true. Love the Serenity brings such perspective to every day life. emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 2/14/2013 7:23PM

    You are SO right. That is a very good point about expectations and lack of control and disappointments. I'll remember that and carry it with me. Very good message for where I am right now. Thanks!!

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LEANJEAN6 2/14/2013 6:37PM

    just enjoy being you Barb!-I emoticon emoticon loves ya!!!

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DEBRA0818 2/14/2013 1:30PM

    Happy Valentine's Day, Barb! Confucius says that all unhappiness begins with a comparison, whether that comparison is between what you expect of yourself and actually are, or what you expect of others and the world and actually get. How much better to focus only on things we can control and work on accepting the rest.


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DLDMIL 2/14/2013 11:53AM

    Happy Valentine's Day to you and all the single women. I will be traveling later today with my DD and gkids for a four day weekend. that is how I am spending my Valentine's, with my family. It will be 2 days of long driving, but we will make the most of it to enjoy each others company.

Have a great weekend and I will check in when I can. Stay strong Barb. emoticon

Comment edited on: 2/14/2013 11:54:37 AM

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ROXYZMOM 2/14/2013 10:37AM

    Very true! Good points!

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MEXGAL1 2/14/2013 10:25AM

    So true, we need to love ourselves.
Happy Valentine's Day!

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LINDAKAY228 2/14/2013 9:42AM

    As another single woman, I totally agree! We can celebrate Valentine's day by treating ourselves and our bodies special and then try to carry it through the year! It doesn't just have to be about romantic relationships with others, but our special relationship with ourself!

Happy Valentine's Day! emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 2/14/2013 8:57AM

    Oh my gosh . . . that's absolutely my mantra . . . the Serenity Prayer! You have written such a very important blog! The most important thing I have to remember is :

"Anytime we expect things that are out of our control to go a certain way... anytime we outline... try to manipulate or control... something that is NOT something we control... we set ourselves up for the potential of dissapointment. Or, contrarily, we set ourselves up to take credit for something that truly was an experience of grace. "

Such profound words!

Happy Valentine's Day to you and thanks for this wonderful blog.

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CONCHA77 2/14/2013 8:54AM

    Happy Valentines Day to you, Barb.

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CELIAMINER 2/14/2013 8:11AM

    Beautifully said! In my two years on SP, I've seen the weight come off, the weight stay off, and my fitness level improve. But the biggest change has been inside, where negative self-talk has been replaced by self-forgiveness and self-love. It's elating to feel I am worthy of being happy and worthy of enjoying good things in life.

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JANEMARIE77 2/14/2013 7:53AM

    Great blog have a great day

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SANDYCRANE 2/14/2013 7:50AM

    I loved your comments, especially about the scale. Thanks for enlightening me.

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HEALTHY4ME 2/14/2013 7:50AM

    Right on !!! have a great day! HUGS

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GABY1948 2/14/2013 7:46AM

    GREAT, GREAT blog, Barb! Thanks! Have a GREAT day! emoticon

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