A recent article spotlighted some author who suggested “shame” as a method of pushing people to change their habits. I was so angry at the time both at the author and the media who gave him airtime and publicity that I couldn’t even blog about it.
My advice has always been to ignore the sensational headlines, articles and books that only seek to inflame while making money for the author. Sometimes reading beyond the headline to the entire article reveals some validity, but often not.
While you may know someone in a particular weight category who actually exhibits a particular type of behavior, it is not valid or helpful to generalize to an entire group of people.
Applying stereotypes like this is called prejudice whether directed at the obese, those within recommended BMI, the underweight, distance runners or those who are doing seated workouts.
While it is understandable to respond negatively and in kind to verbal abuse directed at ourselves personally, we should not take out our anger on those with similar physical characteristics or fitness practices of our personal abuser.
It’s similar to the reaction of a person who suffered at the hands of someone of a particular racial, religious or ethnic group who responds by attacking an entire group of people with similar characteristics. That never ends well.
What do those hurling the epithets of fatty, scrawny, lazy, obsessive, flabby, bony or shrimp all have in common? Either they are guilty of not considering the effect of their words or they are just plain mean. Mean people come in all sizes, shapes, colors and backgrounds.
We know that physically abused children often become abusers themselves. Is it the same for those who have been verbally abused? In any case, it’s time to stop this behavior.
Not all nasty comments have to do with weight and body type. How about “stupid or retard or geek”
I read a blog recently that contained this thought.
I would give the original poster credit for finding this, but I don’t remember who it was.
The only way to stop such abuse is as the old song says “Teach your children well”