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    LADYSALUBRIOUS   17,360
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Some encouragement needed please :(

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

So I'm having one of those days. You know, where you realize how much you haven't taken accountability for something and it sinks in that you're failing. Yep, that's the kind of day I'm having.

7 weeks ago I said I was ready again. I said I was going to re-lose all the weight I gained back. I started at 168 and said I'd be down 10 in no time. Fast forward 7 weeks to today as I hang my head in shame. I've gained two pounds, haven't been mentally "in the game", and feel like poo because of it. It was a real eye opener for me when I realized that I'm only about 10 pounds away from my pregnancy weight. Wow.

So, yes, I'm having one of those days. I don't know why I can't get it together. I don't know what it's gonna take but I need to get back into the game. I used to be so with it, was successful with weight loss, and could balance it all. I felt alive and energetic. I don't know where that inner superstar is hiding, but I have a feeling she's sleeping in a corner somehwere.

At what moment did you finally say "enough is enough!"? Any words of advice for me?

Sincerely,
Pouting Lady-NON-Salubrious
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MOMTOMONKEYS2 2/14/2013 4:54PM

    In June 2010 I got focused and in 6 months lost 25 lbs. As of 1 week ago I had gained all of that weight back :0( Totally understand what your going through. I decided 1 week ago that I was completely out of control with my sweets and junk food and I cut it way back. I told myself I would cut it way back for 2 weeks. I have 1 week under my belt and have lost 3.8 lbs. It is the motivation to find the healthy me I used to be...that has,like yours, been in hiding! A journey together is better than a journey alone and I'd love some company emoticon

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PMRUNNER 2/14/2013 3:39PM

    Like your picture icon says, don't start over and don't give up! You know what you need to do and you have a lot of support from the whole SP community.

Don't beat yourself up when you slip, but do take an honest assessment of where you are. Are you following a sensible program? Are you slipping or cheating? Are you logging your food? Are you being honest and measuring portions? (that was one of my big problems)

If bad habits are the problem, there are some good books and articles about figuring out what triggers a bad habit and how to break them (and, even better, replace them with good ones!). One to check out: http://charlesduhigg.com/how-habits
-work/

It's hard, but if you really want it, you WILL make it work! Good luck!

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SANDERSO23 2/14/2013 12:00PM

    LADYSALUBRIOUS - what you wrote is what I could have written of myself for the past several years. I so totally understand how you feel. I kept waiting for something to "click" and everything would fall in to place. It didn't happen. I then realized to take one day at a time and not look at all the weight I have to lose, but to take it in small steps of weight loss, putting in some sort of exercise (I love on SparkPeople how they encourage just 10 minutes a day), and trying to eat within a reasonable calorie range. The weight is coming off slowly and I find myself getting stronger. It is the most amazing feeling. I would agree with the others. Please try to focus on the positive. Look at small things that you might be doing that are good. Keep moving forward even if it is one step forward, two steps back, it's totally worth it and you'll be so happy you did and you will definitely uncover your inner superstar. You can do it.

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EVER-HOPEFUL 2/14/2013 4:10AM

    concentrate on what you can have not on what you canīt have .concentrate on what you did and not what you failed todo.take it one choice at a time.
e.g-i can have that piece of fruit or veg or that glass of water-not i canīt have that bar of chocolate or beefburger.
e.g-write in a journal every little thing ,no matter how small that you did right .like just from this blog i see that
# you got up
#you signed on to spark
#you decided to go public and ask for help and carried it through
#you not only wrote this blog but posted it as well
i am sure you have also done many other things like ate breakfast,cleaned teeth etc,etc.
do it one choice at a time.forget the past,that is gone you canīt change it.just learn by mistakes and try not to repeat themlook forward and to the next choice.you can do this i know you can.
if you have anything specific that you are struggling more with,like water,food or exercise let us know how i can help.if challenges push you on we can do a challenge against one another.just let us know i am here for you.above all remember the serenity prayer
god grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change
THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN CHANGE
and the wisdom to know the differance.
in other words do the things you can and accept those things you canīt do anything about. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MERRYWON 2/13/2013 8:53PM

    I wish I had a switch on my back that could put me back on plan when I go off. Just remember, that just one good day on plan, can make you feel better about yourself and take one day at a time.

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LRB444 2/13/2013 8:27PM

    Never give up.

I also suggest that you stop focusing on the failures & focus more on setting one small goal & sticking to it for around 3 weeks.

Sometimes failure is all we can see if that is all we allow ourselves to see. Empower yourself with the "I can" mentality.

Also, I signed up for spark coach & love the daily encouragement & lessons that the coaches provide. You may want to invest in that. It is extremely cheap.

I believe in you.



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