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Where have you been? Sulking I guess...


Wednesday, February 13, 2013

I am struggling lately. I have been eating pretty well which is good but not where it should be. Story of my life. I know that Iím having some emotional issues and Iíve felt drained and makes me not want to do what I should be doing. Oh and Iím really good at making up excuses to make me feel better about not doing what I should be doing. Iím in this funk that I donít want to be in. I guess who really wants to be in a funk thought really. I think there is so much change or potential change coming up in my life that Iím just beside myself on what direction to go. I feel myself so conflicted and dealing with so much that my energy is lacking and I just would rather sit on the couch and snuggle my kitty cat (who is not doing the best so that is another dynamic to deal with).

Iím overwhelming myself with all the changes I need to make to be healthier. I know that I overwhelm myself in most capacities of life; that might be my middle name. I have an all or nothing kind of mentality which for being healthy is so not a good thing. I know I need to start out smaller and take steps to get where I want to go, I need to build momentum. I canít just skip the steps and jump to the top. That doesnít even make sense. I need to remind myself that one bad meal or one cookie or one small mistake does not undo everything. And on that same note, that one healthy meal isnít going to make me lose weight. I have to build on those things for them to make an impact. Iíll get there, slowly but surely, I will get there. I just have to stop the mind games and get on it. Trust me, Iím just as sick of the excuses are you are. You either do it or you donít and I have chosen not to for far too long. SighÖ

There is a lot of change going on in my life. Well potential change. Iím trying to find another job and itís been discouraging to say the least. I have a lot of voices telling me what I should do and what I shouldnít do and itís clouding what I think I want to do (which is another problem, if youíve never done it before how do you know youíll like it?). So there is all this pressure and for a while the very act of applying was too daunting and too full of rejection. Before I graduated I applied to 20 places and got one call back. That job interviewed me but in the end decided to go with someone else. It took a while to start applying again because even applying is hard. The places I think Iíd like to work I donít have enough experience. I thought this degree would get me in the door and so far this is proving not to be true. But since I got back from Mexico Iíve been back on the applying for jobs bandwagon so hopefully something turns up soon. I actually got an email one place wants to do a phone interview and I applied for one more last night on a tip from one of my old supervisors at my internship so things are starting to look up a bit.

But with all this up in the air, it makes me feel very out of sorts. I donít know where the job I get will take me and what that means. If I get a job out of town, I have to move and leave everything behind. Supposedly if I move the bf will come with me and that just brings up a host of issues that I have chosen not to deal with. I donít necessarily want to stay around Ames but I also donít necessarily want to leave just yet. My nephew is coming to school here next year and Iíd like to be around. I also like being where I am so I can see my other nieces and nephews and leaving the state means Iíll see them even less. Iíll go where I have to for a job but Iím torn to where I actually want to be. Iíve applied everywhere, from Seattle to Arizona to Illinois to Wisconsin and around Iowa. I guess weíll just see where all this takes me and I know where Iíll end up is where Iím meant to be for now.

Iím feeling hopeful today and that is a nice change of pace. I feel like what is going on in my life is where Iím supposed to be and Iíll get it figured out. I canít let all this other stuff muck up what Iím trying to do. Iím capable of so many things and I just have to put it in my mind that Iíll do them. Iím setting small goals for myself so I can obtain those and build momentum. Iím tired of standing still. Iím tired of falling back on my excuses. Iím tired of starting over. Iím tired of hiding from my issues and hoping they go away. Guess what? They donít. They just get worse and itís more annoying.

Thanks for listening to my rant. You guys are the best! Here are some pics from Elin and Jett's 2nd birthday party. On a side note, twins are exhausting. I went and hung out with them on Saturday because I was in town and man those kids wore me out! But I loved every minute of it. Especially when I came to the door and they were smiling and yelling 'Aunt Buffy!' So cute!

Jett

Elin

This is from a different day but here is Hope since I haven't posted a picture of her in a while

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PLATINUM755 2/13/2013 7:06PM

    I takes time. You are not alone here. Give yourself a hug for the progress you've made so far, and take the next baby step. There's always a lot to do, and there will always be a lot to do and all we mere mortals can do is take it one step at a time, one day at a time to our surprise we accomplish a lot. emoticon emoticon

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LILY_SPARK 2/13/2013 4:18PM

    Sound familiar but I think you're doing GRAND. Give yourself some credit THIS INSTANT. SERIOUSLY!

I 'demand' you say 3 positive things you did today with no qualifiers.
Go! :)

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JFGWIFE 2/13/2013 11:28AM

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GAILSQUEST 2/13/2013 11:28AM

    I have been going through the same things.
Trying to get back on track.I`m doing better as long as I am not dumb enough to buy trigger foods.I bought a package of chips ahoy peanut butter cup cookies and ate half the package before work.WTH?
I know better damn it.
I have finally started to exercise again .Baby steps.I got a new xbox and have been doing dance central every day along with wiifit.These are my favorite things to do along with leslie sansone so I`m sticking to this.
Just hang in there .I know something will open up soon.

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HEALTHY-SPARK 2/13/2013 11:26AM

    Wow sounds like you definitely have a lot going on in your life and a lot of potential changes coming up. You know, sometimes change is a really good thing. Hang in there -- I hope the phone job interview goes well. You are awesome and things will work out.
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GRATTECIELLA 2/13/2013 11:26AM

    Hugs! You are one of my oldest spark friends, and I'm glad you're still here! Sounds like you are going through some challenges right now, but hopefully writing about it helps you process and realize what's really important in your life Ė and hopefully your health is one of them.

Good luck with the job hunting Ė no matter what anyone says, it really is tough out there today. Don't let the bastards get you down.

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SAASHA17 2/13/2013 11:24AM

    Sheesh...kids grow up so fast..i still find it hard to see Hope all grown up...Love ur little nieces and nephew..thanks for sharing the pix:)

BTW...I know what ur going thtur..when i graduated I didnt get a ton of offers and I felt like a failure...and trust me it takes time and when ur on the other side its easy to say but been there and gone thru it..so no matter what u wont rest or relax till u get THE job..so thats something we cant do much about except applying and moving on...meanwhile..relax...have a routine..(look who is talking)...lol...

u can do this Kid...I know u can..as far as moving away and all..sometimes it sokay to move away...its not like ur doing it for a negative reason...once ur priority of getting a job is done then u can realise. u are happy and will travel to visit the family and all...dont give up..stay strong and motivated..

love
Manasa

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