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Moving and Mom

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Little did we know when Mom fell on December 21st that our lives would change drastically. At first, the EMS responders thought it was a clean fall with nothing broken and my sister took her home. Mom complained with pain and we were staying with her 24/7 during Christmas. The pain continued and we decided maybe they were wrong, so, we called Mom's doctor, got X-rays and found she had broken the main tendon connecting patella to tibia. She was admitted to the hospital on Dec. 26 and had surgery on the 27th. On the 28th she was moved to a rehabilitation nursing center and has been getting therapy there since. Mom has beginning Alzsheimers and her mind is so mixed that we will have to have skilled care for her all the time now, so, we are in the process o f packing up her things and getting ready for this move. emoticon

I have to say this is one of the hardest things we have had to do. Having to decide which things we can let go is slowing us down. emoticon We run across items they have saved such as all the commenrative cups, bowls and things given to Dad through all the years from his employment. We have huge boxes of pictures, albums and books that we have to divide and try to keep for future generations. emoticon

Mom is 90 and she and Dad were together 63 years before Dad 's death in 2001. so. you can imagine the things saved. We would love to keep everything , but, space will not allow it. My sisters (2) and I will be spending another day on Monday packing and crying and choosing how to make this move for Mom.

Anyone know how to make it easier? emoticon

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  • DRPOOH63
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    1862 days ago
    There is no easy way for clearing out a lifetime of memories, is there? We've gone through that with both our parents some years ago. It is wonderful that you can do it with your sisters. Treasure your memories your Mom as long as she is still with you!! emoticon So sorry it's been such a tough time for you.
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    Comment edited on: 2/13/2013 10:46:50 PM
    I don't have any advice for you. My husband is 31 years older than me and was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease in Nov. 2011. Along with that comes Dementia. I am experiencing a little of that now and it's very hard for me. I also still have 2 children at home. My daughter is 15 and is having a hard time with her Dad being this way. I feel I have a long journey ahead of me. I am a very blessed lady to not have to work outside the home. My husband has been very good to me and now it's my turn to take care of him. With God's strength, I WILL be able to take care of him until our precious Lord takes him home. I hope you can find the same comfort in His strength.
    1865 days ago
    Bless your heart! This most certainly is a very difficult exercise. I don't think God's only purpose in giving us tear ducts was to keep our eyes moist. Crying is good for the soul. BUT, so is laughter! I hope you and your sisters are able to find some laughable memories packed away, too.
    My prayers are with you.

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    1865 days ago
    I have been where you are. My advice is simple. Take one day at a time. If you cannot handle a day, take one hour at a time. Maintain your sense of humor because otherwise you will not be able to cope with an Alzheimer's relative. But this above all, cherish every minute with your mother.

    Make today a great day!
    1865 days ago
    What you are doing is very hard. Good luck to you and your whole family.
    1865 days ago
    That is one of the hardest things we ever did when Dad moved into a retirement home after Mom had died a few years earlier.Dad had saved everything! You will get through this but it is hard and a "life growing experience " for sure.
    Take care.
    Erin emoticon
    1865 days ago
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