The first time ever sparkpeople made me feel bad about myself!
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
WELL - THIS IS A FIRST! Sparkpeople is my go-to sanctuary for motivation and pick-me-ups and I can always count on my fellow sparkpeople for encouragement. Today marks the first day EVER that fellow sparkpeople made me feel really bad about myself! Poo on you guys! I've noticed in tracking my food that I'm totally addicted to carbs/sugar etc. (mostly soda but just processed food in general) so I posted on the message boards asking for help (Help! I'm addicted to carbs!) every one who replied (*mostly*) said awful things. EXP:
"I see on your nutrition trackers and you consume 1-2 regular sodas/day. Stop drinking soda. Cut out processed food. Feed yourself REAL food. Empty calories. Coca-cola is totally not a breakfast food. Stop drinking soda. Have you tried diet sodas?"
HELLO PEOPLE- If I wanted to be put on trial, I'd post my nutrition tracker on my Facebook feed, not here in my sanctuary! I'm ashamed of these more-pious-than-thou sparkers! The title says very plainly, I'M ADDICTED TO CARBS. Duuuh. If it were just as easy as not drinking any more soda, I don't think I'd have a problem. It's like smoking, of course people who smoke want to quit.... but if you just scrutinize them about it, they will only want it more.
What I was looking for were some IDEAS on how to cut back on carbs (obviously cutting out soda would end the problem but I can't just quit, I've been trying for three-four years and the closest I can get is 1/day) So what I need are ideas on how to alter the refined FOODS in my life. Simple, fresh foods. Naked foods and useful resources and links and "You can do it"s and all that nonsense. Not. JUST STOP DRINKING SODA YOU DUMB-DUMB. Thanks guys! Thanks a lot!
I'm really upset, here! I try to work on my soda intake (having only 1-2/day is an improvement for me... at the height of my depression, there would be days upon days where sodas were the ONLY calories I would consume, no lie) I got addicted. Sugar/caffeine, it creates a HIGH and I'm A JUNKY.
Hi, my name is Sheena and I'm a coke head. Judge me if you like. I'm going to hole-up with a case of soda now and cry!
Member Comments About This Blog Post
I'm sorry to hear that there are Sparkers who are rude. I guess that exists in every community, but still...
Keep on coming back for more tactful advice and support!
1670 days ago
I'm the same way with diet soda. I have gotten A TON of crap from so-called "friends" about my diet soda habit, but I agree with a previous commenter- If it were that easy to kick the habit- I think we would all do it! I think people who want to help/be supportive need to realize the "tough love" approach doesn't work on everyone! If anything, it makes me want to rebel against them and drink it more, just cuz they scolded me & told me I shouldn't!! I don't know what it is about the diet soda, but I'm addicted too. It keeps me feeling human!
Good luck to you and hopefully one day we will both beat the "liquid satan" that has that hold over us! Haha!
1672 days ago
Comment edited on: 2/22/2013 8:17:29 PM
Just wanted to drop by and wish you well. I have to say, in my almost two years of perusing this site, the vast majority of people really are encouraging and helpful.
There are some people that tend to be more...direct than others, and that can come off as sharp and caustic.
But do know that you have many, many kind people here absolutely rooting for your success. Sounds like you are making great strides.
I was a carb lover, too, and totally get what you are saying. What made the difference for me was really ramping up the veggies and fruits. I kept seeing Archi say over & over about eating veggies and I decided to try it (I was not a big veggie fan before!).
Darned if I didn't see my clothes get loser the first week!
If I had known what a huge difference this would have made, I would have done it a LOT sooner. And I do still eat carbs! The veggies seem to "let" me eat like a normal person and maintain my weight loss. PHEW! Who knew??
Anyway, we are all different but that's what has helped me. And I'm an old broad of 50 so if I can do it, anyone can do it.
Keep up the great efforts and you WILL succeed!
All the best to you and your Dad.
1676 days ago
Hey Sheena, as far as the processed foods, a lot of their appeal is that they're ridiculously quick and easy. You know what I do on weeks Tim isn't here? I make a big meal, like, double a recipe of something really healthy. This week it's veggie stir fry with tofu and brown rice... and then separate it into seven tupperware containers, one for each day. Or you could do two or three different meals and portion them out, and then freeze the rest for another time. This way, you have healthy WHOLE FOODS in the fridge, with all the convenience of a lean cuisine meal. I also got this giant produce keeper rubbermaid thing that I use to make my own salad mix (Pizza Hut style, only I throw the bell peppers and onions into the mix) and that way I constantly have salads for lunch or snacks. Think of the reasons you eat processed food.. I KNOW you have a super busy lifestyle, it's probably the easiest thing!
I do freezer cooking too where if I make one casserole or lasagna, I make a double or triple batch... so there's usually some veggie lasagna or homemade pasta sauce in the freezer for effortless meals.
Remember my diet coke addiction? A case of 12 a day in school! HAHA! I know exactly where you're coming from. Now, I don't even crave soda... I'll have one occasionally on the weeks Tim is here because we normally go out at least once, but since I'm only really into diet (and the very occasional sierra mist) I don't worry much about it. It's a treat. I switched to crystal light (And it's great value counterpart) at first which helped with the craving for something sweet, and then Tim bought me this nifty Brita filter bottle that filters water as you drink it, so my water is much more... tasty.
/Flavored_Water This, and try Pinterest for more flavored water ideas. It's like... mojitos... only with water. Hahaha!!
1679 days ago
Oops, Sparkpeople wasn't being nice to me and my comment posted twice, haha!
1679 days ago
Comment edited on: 2/16/2013 9:32:20 AM
To decrease my own consumption, I stopped buying the larger bottles and switched to only purchasing the little cans...it costs more that way but it helps me consume less. I also make sure to always have a water bottle with me.
1682 days ago
That's too bad, especially since you were being honest & were asking for help. Is it the soda or the caffeine in the soda that you are addicted to? If it's caffeine maybe you could switch to a caffeine free to see if that helps you get over the addiction. but you know, that's really the same as me giving up my morning coffee(caffeine-wise). In wonder how many of the "haters" have to have their cup o joe in the morning. The only other thing I can think of to suggest is to try to drink 8 cups of water a day. Since I started doing that the only other thing I usually have to drink is my cup of coffee in the morning. Sometimes I drink enough that I'll have a diet soda, but most times it's just water. I think carbs or any food are fine to eat, but in moderation(that's my biggest problem). When you have a sugar craving try a piece of fruit or drink some water first. I find at times when I want sugar what I really needed was to drink some water. I wish I had some other suggestions/ideas for you. Again, I'm sorry that you had a bad experience. I'm kind of shocked to hear that. I hope it doesn't put you off from using SP. With a little research and willpower I'm sure you'll find a solution that works for you and break your addition.
1682 days ago
My name is Jeannie-recovering Pepsi addict......:))
I'm so sorry about what happened to you on the message boards!
I would bet though that not one of those people meant to hurt your feelings.
But it's good for all of us to remember why we are here. We are here to support and encourage each other, bottom line!
Caution everyone, beware of the diet police, they are well meaning albeit misguided small minded people.
But like you say Sheena, this is your sanctuary. No one here has the right to judge!
This is our judgement-free zone. Our safe haven.
And as for ideas about weaning yourself off soda.....Walmart has this line of carbonated flavored water called "clear", comes in reg and SF, it's delicious, you might want to check it out.
And speaking as an addict myself there is recovery, one day at a time baby!
1682 days ago
I'm sorry that happened!
I have a carb issue myself-and I have a BF who keeps bringing soda into the house, where I have no defenses against it.
I like the Dr. Oz solution given previously, just because Sprite + Pom + Cranberry juice is already a favorite mocktail of mine.
1682 days ago
I saw a Dr. Oz show once, where he showed a technique for gradually weaning yourself from soda. You could probably look it up on his website. I'm pretty sure it involved using club soda to mix with regular soda, then eventually putting juice in your club soda. Don't remember the details, but the guinea pig who did it claimed it worked.
Of course you cannot stop all at once. If it were that easy, you would already have done so!
1682 days ago
Oh my gosh! I feel so much better! You guys are right!! I can't believe it! FOUR YEARS and no one has ever said anything less than supportive! And you're right- it probably was the "tough love" approach (which still hurt lol) but even well intended comments can hurt feelings. HAHA. You guys are gems!
I've heard of metromint! I've got to try it now. I'm really addicted to processed foods (canned/store bought/prepared/frozen, etc.) I LOVE lean cuisine! It's too easy (not so delicious though...) THOSE should be easier to cut out than my beloved daily coca-cola. I do like my frozen meals but they are super carby and NOT as dear to me as soda.
I'm in the process of swapping ALL the white carbs in my house (except my cokes) to whole grains. I brought brown rice, whole grain bread, whole grain pasta, etc. etc. I'm starting there. My fiance and I recently swore off fast food in an effort to save money, so I can add more natural foods here!
I'm feeling the sparklove again and I'll stop my whiney complaints now, back to happy sparking!
1682 days ago
Coming from a fellow soda junkie, I can't stand a drink without flavor in it. Have you checked out a drink called Metromint? It's really great, has just enough flavor to help keep you from going bonkers, and has absolutely no bad for you stuff in it. No sweeteners, no coloring, no preservatives. Just mint and water, and the odd trace of cherry, orange or other natural extract. And I really do mean just a trace.
Don't sweat the unhelpful criticism- there are still plenty of us here with a better grasp on the concept of 'helpful'. You CAN do this. It won't be easy, and it might take longer than you'd like, but you'll get there.
1682 days ago
Comment edited on: 2/12/2013 8:42:55 PM
Hi Sheena I'm so sorry this happened.
Sometimes we just want a hug and instead we get well intended advice we didn't ask for.
Nobody intended any insult I'm sure.The sparkies are wonderfully optimistic and caring people.
The reason these words stung so much is that in 4 years(4 YEARS)on sparkpeople no one has ever treated you this way. EVER.
I'm sure this will make you feel better.I have total belief in you.I am only on my second month on sparkpeople I have a long way to go to reach you.
God loves you honey always.Have an awesome week lesleyanne.
1682 days ago
Oh Girl! I'm sorry.
I suppose people thought they were doing the tough love approach. Now if your title was "Hey judge my food tracker and tell me if I'm doing something wrong" those replies might be in line.
I eat alot of carbs too but fat is the catagory I go over most.
Since Soda is a keeper right now.... what is a high carb food that you don't care as much about?
Work the soda into your plan and work around it..You know?
I love sweets, saying I will never have any again does not work. Even saying I won't have any for the DAY doesn't work. I don't care as much about chips so it's easy to pass on them so I can *keep* my sweets.
I think you CAN do this,and you CAN keep sodas. Sorry people were creeps
1682 days ago
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