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High Noon

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

DD Katie sent me a text message earlier today that read “Sally Smith, who works with Joan, was mean to mom. You need to unfriend her on Facebook.” A few minutes later I received another text message telling me to let everyone know that Sally Smith was mean to Joan and that they should unfriend her too. I’m not sure how I was supposed to do this, but anyways….

I went back to working on my new book “These Three Things….”when I received a text from DD Maggie. Was I aware that Sally Smith had been mean to mom? I was instructed to send a text message to Betty Barrett, my massage therapist, and tell her that if she didn’t stop being BFF’s with Sally Smith I would not only unfriend her, but I would find a new massage therapist. Betty, along with Joan is an original member of Team John.

I went back to working on my new book “These Three Things…” My phone started to ring. DD Katie wanted to know if I’d unfriended Sally yet. I told her I hadn’t. I was working and wouldn’t the county taxpayers be interested to know that she wasn’t. Shouldn’t she really get back to work? My phone went dead.

Joan called at noon to tell me she and Sally had a disagreement and she was pretty upset. Forty years of marriage had taught me this much: When your wife and a coworker are involved in a dispute you tell your wife how much you love her, you tell her you support her and then get out of the way. By four o’clock this afternoon, Joan and Sally will probably walk out the door; arm in arm and yours truly would have been the bad guy for saying anything about poor old Sally. DD’s on the other hand were still demanding blood. Their mothers honor was at stake as well as the fate of our nation. I was asked in a highly accusatory tone if I followed Sally Smith on Twitter and if so, why?

It was much easier in the old days. You got mad, stewed a bit, and got over it. Life went on and so did you. All the events of this morning reminded me some vintage western where two people stood in the middle of the street ready to duel. I’m not a huge fan of Facebook. I look at it as a necessary evil. I have family and friends flung all over the globe and it’s a good way to keep up with them. I have a cousin I hadn’t talked to since my wedding that I rekindled a relationship because of Facebook. It serves its purpose. I even have a Facebook friend in Idaho!!! I mean how many people can say that? I have some potty mouthed nephews who post their immature stuff from time to time.

Facebook, Twitter and the like just don’t seem enjoyable anymore; they seem like an obligation or at times a burden. I can’t tell you how often DD or DS will remind me I haven’t updated my Facebook status in a while. I should laugh at all this vitriol being hurled about cyber space but the sad thing is a lot of people took time out of their work day to get all riled up about something that will be forgotten about by tomorrow.

So……….. I’m going back to writing my new book “These Three Things” and hope the rest of the world will get back to work too.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SILLYHP1953 3/19/2013 2:17PM

    You're writing a new book? Does that mean you have an old book? Where have I been? I want to buy a copy. As for facebook, I got on it for the same reason as you and I refused to play any of those games and my kids would remind me every so often that I hadn't been on for awhile. I used to play video games A LOT 20 or so years ago so have to be very careful of what I allow myself to get into online...don't want any old addictions popping up their heads.

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CARTOONB 2/13/2013 11:55PM

    I happen to have lots of Idaho facebook friends! And,yeah, we can be a "rough bunch"! LOL!

Drama will happen...only the stage has changed.

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NEEDBU66 2/13/2013 4:59PM

    So many people off facebook! Wow!

You'll need to post an update if what you said would happen did. emoticon

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GEEMAWEST 2/13/2013 4:54PM

    Watch out for that friend in Idaho, I hear they're a pretty rough bunch.

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REGILIEH 2/13/2013 9:28AM

    WOW!!! You ALWAYS write such thought provoking blogs!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

The first thing I want to say is I want to buy your book! I'm putting my order in right now. When will it be ready?! Do you have any other books you have written that I can partake of?

My thoughts on any social sights (which I belong to many of them) is they are a huge waste of my time and therefore I am hardly on them.

The other drama you speak of with your DD's is it is so common and mostly with women (of which I am one) that drives me crazy! I want more for women than that. I could get on a soap box dealing with these issues but I will save you from that. Suffice it to say that I had my own company for over 25 years with other 500 employees and 80 plus % of them were women and hard working but their pettiness drove me crazy!
Pettiness is another waste of time.

Oh dear, I already said too much!

I appreciate you and your writings.

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SHERIO5 2/13/2013 8:05AM


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NASFKAB 2/13/2013 5:26AM

  put it in the right perspective

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CRYSTALJEM 2/12/2013 8:16PM

    True words of wisdom. Well put well said.

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ONEKIDSMOM 2/12/2013 8:10PM

    To getting back to work. Yes! FB allows me to keep up with the younger generation, but thank goodness none of them try to drag me into the drama, if any. One of the advantages of being "old"... not expected to play that game.

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BBECKER1955 2/12/2013 5:40PM

    I agree with you. Sometimes it seems we've created a cyber playground, complete with games, groups and bullies.

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HDHAWK 2/12/2013 5:23PM

    I was pretty much harassed by my kids to get a FB account. I have a friend who spends hours a day on FB. I'm not sure what you do on FB for hours. I wish people a happy birthday and that's about it.

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SLIMLEAF 2/12/2013 5:22PM

    Well, I'm looking forward to reading your book!

I don't use Facebook because I have enough trouble keeping up with emails.
Besides, I don't want to associate myself with anything that uses the invented verb 'to unfriend'!

You chose a wise course of action today. Well done, John.
(I seem to be saying this quite a lot lately!)

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VICKI-BISHOP56 2/12/2013 4:32PM

  About the only time I go on face book is if I need to reach my son right away but don't feel like talking on the phone. I know I can catch him there.
What's your book about? Will it be published? emoticon

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CC3833 2/12/2013 4:22PM

    That is hilarious and true. And exactly one of the reasons I deactivated my facebook. I gave everyone my email and number and poof was gone. My relationship with facebook lasted less than 8 months. If I want to see pictures I go on my sisters which is never. Keep writing your book and writing blogs that make me laugh!

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CHRISTINASP 2/12/2013 3:33PM

    Hmm. I see on your page that you have SIX kids... So I think you should be glad only TWO of them approached you about this! (grin).

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CHESSARIA 2/12/2013 3:10PM

    I spend quite a bit of time on Facebook. I also tend to stay away from drama like what you are describing. I love knowing what everyone is up to. And sometimes, if nothing else, it makes me feel better about what I'm doing in my life.

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PRESBESS 2/12/2013 3:06PM

    I sure like your style. I think you handled the situation perfectly!

People always ask me why aren't I on Facebook... I always tell them, I don't have time for it. SP is my FB, the reward here is so much greater.

Keep plugging away on your book "These Three Things"! Great title!

Comment edited on: 2/12/2013 3:09:23 PM

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ANATASHIKI 2/12/2013 3:04PM

    I absolutely hate facebook. I hated it before trying it and after trying it even more. I only used it to play for a few weeks and when after a while the 'friends"requests started to look like weeds , I quit. there's no way I'll put my real name on the internet or a photo on facebook. I know it's easy to find out but at least it's not me who made it that way. the only site where I'm socializing is here. I'm already running and hiding from the tons of people who want something from me, I don't need facebook to add more. there are other ways to keep in touch with people in other countries too. but of course , these are only my personal opinions , everybody is free to act as he likes

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BLUE42DOWN 2/12/2013 3:04PM

    *shifty eyes*
I should be working, but was enjoying your blog instead.

I never could get into Facebook or Twitter. While they might help keep people in touch, way back when letters took days to be delivered, we still managed to do so. The whole sense of immediacy, the idea that within minutes of receiving a text or status update or communication we are supposed to be falling over ourselves to answer or comply ... bleh.

May you get many words added to your book.

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MARITIMER3 2/12/2013 2:49PM

    I'm really glad I stay away from Facebook, Twitter, etc. And that I'm retired. you're probably right that your wife and her co-worker will make it up on their own and everyone else should stay out of it.

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