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I can only control my own choices. Deeeeep breath.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

This morning I was faced with a choice.

1) Get huffy, play the victim, and ruin my own day
2) Do what I know is right for me and feel good about my choices

Today is the day my husband and I picked to be the official start day of our healthy lifestyle change. Being a nutcase I had to start yesterday (Monday, I just cant start on a Tuesday!! lol)

Having been down this road before I am well aware of all the things I need to do to be successful. Adam on the other hand has been healthy active and fit most of his life. He has never had to be a mindful eater or plan workouts. However, after getting out of the NAVY, having two kids and simply getting older, he has put on some unwanted weight.

Now, I assumed that this new lifestyle was going to include him doing basically the same thing I will be doing.


Once again, deep breath. Time to face my control issues big time.

He is not a list maker.
I am!
He does not thrive on schedules
I do.

I need to respect the fact that his path will be different than mine.

This morning he asked for a small serving of bacon and an egg for breakfast. My first instinct was to guilt him into eating oatmeal with me.

I fought the urge. Made him his breakfast and enjoyed my oatmeal :)

We are two very different people and body types, not to mention sex lol. I am going to do what works for me and help him to find what works for him sans guilt.

Its not always going to be easy for me. I am the meal maker, time planner, and choice maker in so many aspects of out family life. I still need to keep in mind that I am not in charge of others choices.

No biggie right? hehehehehe

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ZENXB! 2/16/2013 10:39PM

    OMG! I totally hear you! My husband, kids and so on are skinny and I am NOTTTT!!! So, while they eat junk and stay skinny I am eat my "oatmeal". It used to make me feel... well... angry.

Then I would think, we are different and YAY me for being a better, healthier person. The longer you think that the more that thought IS your reality.

Fast forward ten years later my husband still eats the same way and despite that I am still obese (but running and eating better), I can run circles around him, my skin looks younger and I feel GREAT!!! Keep eating your "oatmeal". You understand the importance of good health. And while others may not, you will be rewarded for it.

Comment edited on: 2/16/2013 10:40:03 PM

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2HAMSDIET 2/13/2013 7:52AM

    emoticon emoticon

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GLC2009 2/13/2013 2:36AM

    you gotta be you. i would have the bacon and egg. just having oatmeal would make me feel ill and then starving in a couple hours. i like oatmeal, i just need protein in the morning.
so, everybody's gotta feed their body what it needs.
hope you guys enjoy your road to health.

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ACCEPTINGME73 2/13/2013 1:49AM

    Commendable. Applause. You are absolutely right. You are doing great.

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 2/12/2013 8:42PM

    Your attitude will take you a long way in your marriage. emoticon l

Any special Valentine's plans?

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JANEMARIE77 2/12/2013 4:42PM

    love the blog love the attitude good for you

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MPETERSON2311 2/12/2013 3:55PM

    great blog with some very, hits home, real issues lol

thanks for posting.

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WORTHEYMOM 2/12/2013 3:14PM

    I hear ya loud and clear! My hubby is fine with eating whatever I/we make - 90% healthy foods, BUT getting the coke out of the house has been my biggest struggle with him. ugh! I just remind myself that is his choice and make peace with it. It's so tempting sometimes I give in, but I try to be strong!

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TCMAKEUP 2/12/2013 2:20PM

  I hate that men don't have to work as hard as we do to get off the weight. Good luck

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