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Tuesday, February 12, 2013

I don't know if it's because I am stuck in this pit. Or if it's 17 something years of being together. Or what. But seriously, I have no idea or shall I say desire to exhange valentines with my hubby.

Dont get me wrong. I love this man more than anything. I would do anything for him. But let's face it, it has been over 17 something years that we have been together. That magical spark of lust or whatever you call it has grown old. Older. I don't know.

Valentine's Day just doesn't make me go mushy like it does others. I figure if you need a day to tell someone you love them, then maybe you aren't truly in love. You should do it all the other days of the year.

Now that I am thinking this I am feeling guilty. I feel as though I am wrong and that I should be finding that perfect gift. But I have no clue what. He has no hobbies other than holding his lazy boy down. Dont think badly, he has medical issues and has already had 3 spinal surgeries so his abilities are limited.

To make a long story short I need y'alls help in some valentine ideas.


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CAMETHYSTE 2/15/2013 12:18PM

    My husband and I don't really do anything for Valentine's Day either. This year I had to work til 9pm and he bowls in a league on Thursday nights so he didn't get home until 9:30 either. I did give him a couple of small chocolate hearts even though he's not big on candy.

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COXBETH 2/14/2013 3:22PM

    We are not really big into valentine's day either. And I'm in night school and have class tonight, so we aren't doing anything. I think we'd rather be more attentive during the rest of the year than save it up for one night, so we're going out for a date night on Saturday and I guess that will "count" for a Vday date.

I think my hubs and I need to probably start paying more attention to our anniversary and making that the big celebration. Vday doesn't really have anything to do with us, but our anniversary is a reminder every year that we're still working hard at our marriage.

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GRANDMASHUNGRY 2/13/2013 11:20PM

    I always put a note on the counter in my husbands bathroom that says Happy Valentines Day and sign it, then he puts it on the kitchen counter with my name crossed out and signs his name.
He did surprise me with a dozen beautiful roses this evening.
He's still just going to get the note. He doesn't care.
We've been married 36 years. emoticon




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LISAN0415 2/13/2013 1:30AM

    I am a sucker for Valentine's Day and Birthdays and all holidays really,

I just feel any excuse to celebrate life, celebrate ones we love- is a great ooportunity!

I know with kids we never really go out by ourselves, or where we want to go- we see their movies, go where they will eat something and so on, it's nice to have a reminder to slow down and enjoy each other.

My only suggestion to you for a giftto give him fro Valentine's day since he has everything is maybe some sexy lingerie for you to wear that he can enjoy!

Have a great Valentine's day either way!

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LIVINGFREE19 2/12/2013 3:54PM

    We don't do much of anything for Valentine's Day. We have been married for 19 years and we never have done much over the years. he doesn't mind and i don't mind, so it works for us not to do anything.

Please don't feel guilty, it happens after many years of being together.


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KJELLYBEAN15 2/12/2013 2:03PM

    Alright, I think I actually have it all figured out. I'll let ya know how it goes.

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NILLAPEPSI 2/12/2013 1:44PM

    My hubby & I don't really do too much for Valentine's Day either, especially when it falls on a week night. We love to spend time together & we do that a lot. We do exchange cards & on the weekend before or after Valentine's Day, we might go out to lunch or dinner, but that's about it.

Maybe do something with him that he likes to do. I don't particularly care much about sports, but sometimes I'll sit & watch a game with my hubby & ask questions about what I don't understand. This makes him feel good.

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KJELLYBEAN15 2/12/2013 12:57PM

    Actually, he does like movies. Not much of a reader. At this point I really dont know what we have in common as I love love love to read.

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BIGPAWSUP 2/12/2013 12:53PM

    We don't really do the whole Valentine's Day thing either - so I don't think there is anything wrong with how you are feeling. I do little things for hubby every day, as he does for me.

Gift ideas? Does he like to read? Movies?

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