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A diagnosis plus praise.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

As some of you know I was waiting for a diagnosis on my husband, we received it yesterday . Much as I expected he is in the early stages of dementia. He took it better than I thought he would. I can't say too much of it yet as we are still coming to terms with it and finding out more. We are both positive.
The doctor who told us this asked questions of our life style my husbands weight and so on. He commented that M was in the normal weight range and generally in good physical health. He praised my healthy eating plan which we both follow . He could only suggest we continue with our healthy eating, some exercise and to interact as much as possible with other people.
I do a lot of interacting ! I agree that's important . I was told I must take great care of myself now as the caring will be up to me generally .
I can only take one day at a time but will be continuing with healthy eating, exercise and interacting on sparks teams and with friends . I am continually learning from others on here.
I am doing this general blog now to bring team mates and friends up to date . Thank you for your support.
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MILLIE5522 3/28/2013 6:38AM

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BJPENNY70 2/18/2013 6:30PM

    Ree,

I am so sorry to hear about your beloved husband. I can't imagine the anxiety you both must be feeling. Both of you trust in the LORD to help you get through each and every day. I will be praying for you both.

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LITTLELOUIE71 2/18/2013 6:01PM

  emoticon emoticon I am sorry about your husband I will be praying for you Please take care of yourself while you are taking care of him You can not give if your tank is empty so fill it up by caring for yourself on a regular basis Lou

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YIDDLE 2/18/2013 2:13PM

    Ree
So overwhelmed by your DH's diagnosis. Losing our minds is such a great concern for all of us as we age. So glad you were encouraged by the doctor to know you are right on target with nutrition. Keep your health a primary concern so you will be able to continuing caring for him. Do look for community and church support groups to step in and help you. emoticon

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DELORESTHOMAS 2/17/2013 10:37PM

    I am so sorry to hear of your problem. You are wise to maintain things as they are for as long as possible. Please remember there is help out there. Don't forget to ask for help from friends, neighbors, church members and professionals. Doctors, nurses, and others can guide you to those who can help. Take one day at a time and I will pray for you and your family. Bless the both of you.

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GREYGRANNIE 2/17/2013 8:33PM

    Ree, this is so hard for you - but you finally have a diagnosis and can go from there. Taking care of yourself is not easy. I hope you will have some support as it becomes more necessary. So sorry. emoticon

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ANGELUS__QUINN 2/15/2013 7:18PM

    God bless you both. My prayers are with you.

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LYNNWILK2 2/15/2013 5:48PM

    Ree, I am sorry about your husbands diagnosis, you are dealing with it very well, and it sounds like your husband is also. Pull in the support of your friends in your community to up the interaction within the community. Keep active and get him out walking with you. You are so great! Best wished always!

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2BDYNAMIC 2/15/2013 4:24PM

    Bless you sweet lady! ....... I am sure you are giving the best TLC ever ........... emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 2/15/2013 3:52PM

    Ree: It is definitely a time of being tested. You're not alone! Definitely wise to care for yourself so you can care for your DH.

This is what I'm trying to instill in my Dad as he lis primary caretaker of my Mom who has Alzheimer's. It is a brutal disease to watch, but just have to take it a day-at-a-time as you are.

HUGS HUGS HUGS

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POPSY190 2/13/2013 9:58PM

    You are doing all the right things. I feel for you as we have just been dealing with my husband's TIA - I worry about his having a bigger episode. Like you, we were happy that the hospital approved of our lifestyle choices.

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CAT-IN-CJ 2/13/2013 12:33PM

    Bless your heart. It is important to take care of yourself.
I'm glad to know you have many SparkFriends to support you in your journey.

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LISABERGIN 2/13/2013 4:06AM

    I am sorry to hear about your husband Irene, my Nan had dementia towards the end of her life and it was very frustrating for everyone her included. I hope you get all the support that you and your husband need. You are in my thoughts, and sending big hugs xx

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MOM2GEO_JR 2/13/2013 1:02AM

    Ree, I am so sorry to here this, I know exactly what you are going through, and what you will go through, I lost my DH will be a year May 1st of Dementia, we had hospice near the end. It is sad, but you know he never forgot anyone, and knew me up to the night he passed. His dementia was losing control of his lower body, mind didn't tell feet to move, etc. It works differently on different people. He would start to tell someone something, and then at me to finish it. I kept a jigsaw puzzle sitting out all the time, and work on it, and he would work it some, and when he found a piece he would get so excited. Being a caregiver is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Hospice was great near the end, and he got to stay right here with me.

Yes, please get your rest. You and him will be in my daily prayers. God Bless.
We would have been married 62 years if he had lived until Sept. 7th.

Marsha
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ERIECANALGAL 2/13/2013 12:29AM

    Sorry to hear that Ree. But you are doing all the right things...eating healthy, exercising, etc.and that helps.
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SPARKFRAN514 2/13/2013 12:06AM

    Glad you have such a positive attitude that is a big thing in being a care giver. I agree Spark friends are a great source of support and words of wisdom as we spark along. agree enjoy your time together and keep things simple and do what you feel is working for you your husband each person needs and response is different. weight the advice given and take what works for you. be sure to tell us you need support even if you just have time to tell us in the huddle emoticon emoticon you have been such an inspiration to me on our team Everyday is a new start ....

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DRB13_1 2/12/2013 10:06PM

    As difficult as this phase of life may seem, information gives you power.
Suggestion: make sure your home is as organized as possible. When things have a place, the chance of "losing" items goes down and frustration about memory lapses are lessened.
Hugs to you both, wishing you well.
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DETERMINEDJANET 2/12/2013 10:03PM

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DIDMIS 2/12/2013 9:56PM

    I know just exactly how you feel. Just keep positive and be patient with him and love him lots and yes take care of yourself.
I didn't take care of myself when he was in the nursing home and gained lots of weight. I was taking care of him even then.
Irene

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GGMFAY 2/12/2013 9:34PM

    Buddy of Mine,

Your dh is probably in more advanced stages than mine but you and I can still share emoticon and words of encouragement from time to time. I wish you could get better sleep for yourself to keep you stronger.

Where we live, we could not get anywhere without a car. Dh requests eating out most lunchtimes. You seem to have better transportation available, but direct routes with a car can be easier. Wish we could pick you up to go out to lunch together sometimes. That would be great!!

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KARRENLYNN 2/12/2013 9:15PM

    I'm sorry about your husband's diagnosis. I can imagine how hard that must be. Your doctor is right, taking care of your self will be even more important.

I wish you all the best,

Karen

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BROOKLYN_BORN 2/12/2013 7:32PM

    I'm so sorry about the diagnosis. As you have been advised, be sure to take care of yourself too.

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MUSICFORLIFE2 2/12/2013 6:20PM

  i am very sorry. you are right about your strategies. time to think about your support system and build it up - you will need respite care. there might be a local chapter of families with people with a similar diagnosis. that can be a huge help. and yes, photos are priceless and helpful.

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DOOBRIE 2/12/2013 5:44PM

    Ree, I'm sorry about your DH's diagnosis. Dementia is very unpredictable and it could be that he only has it mild for the rest of his life. That's how it was with my mum anyway, so keep your positive attitude and know that you can always come to your Spark friends for support if you need it.

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DSJB9999 2/12/2013 4:03PM

    Oh Ree, guess you're not surprised really. Take care of yourself - that is really good advice and do what you think best at all times.

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JOYFULSONG45 2/12/2013 4:03PM

    Thanks for the update. You have a great positive attitude and good healthy habits and friends to support you. You will be in my prayers.

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MYMISSY 2/12/2013 4:02PM

    So sorry for what is happening to your family, your positive attitude will take you both far as well as your healthy lifestyle, as other's has said, please remember to ask for help from your family and friends and take that help I am sure you are going to need it in time. Best of luck for your future. emoticon

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GABY1948 2/12/2013 3:08PM

    I could almost quote Linda Kay ver batim. Nan, you have my prayers also and my dh. Your healthy eating is definitely a plus! God Bless you and dh and show you the Way! HUGS,
Gaye

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LKWQUILTER 2/12/2013 2:13PM

    (((HUGS))) and praying for both of you. New treatments are coming out almost daily so try to stay positive. ((HUGS)) Linda Kay

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HAWTGRANNY2014 2/12/2013 1:21PM

    I am sorry but I love your positive attitude. He will be helped by all your love. It takes patience and you seem to have a lot of it. It is a blessing that you are both healthy.
I really enjoy your posts and sometimes it helps to put what we feel in words on a page. It helps to share. I will pray that this doesn't progress or if it does...slowly.
You are such a special lady and I know that even if he doesn't say so that he feels
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8HABIT 2/12/2013 12:46PM

    I am so sorry to hear this, but I know your healthy habits and positive attitude will go far. I have also read that interactions with others, exercise, and reading really helps with dementia.

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CT-FL-SNOWBIRD 2/12/2013 12:26PM

    I'm so sorry for the diagnosis! I love your positive attitude. It will make your life a lot easier to make the best of your situation.
My best advice for you is to accept any help that's offered, IF it's truly helpful. And don't be afraid to ASK for help. That's all some friends and family need is to be asked. If he has any male friends, see if they'll drop by and engage him in "guy" conversations and reminiscing a couple of times a week.

Most important is to not forget to take time for yourSELF. emoticon

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CLWALDRO 2/12/2013 12:01PM

    emoticon for the update. I will pray for you and your family to work through these issues and can make forward on your healthy journey

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CELIAMINER 2/12/2013 11:19AM

    Hugs and blessings!

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SPARKARINO 2/12/2013 10:48AM

    So good that you have your healthy habits already in place and can go forward from there. As Sparkers we really know about taking things one step at a time, too! All the very best to you and your husband.
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HAVEFUN2LOSE 2/12/2013 10:42AM

    Just take one day at a time and make sure you make time for you. Dad is sole carer for mum and he has a sitter in twice a week for a few hours so he can go out and mostly do the shopping but also get a break. I also help with cleaning and my sons and I help with taking him shopping or arranging a home delivery as well. Plus in the nicer weather I go for the day so he can go out and completely relax. Mum is in the early to mid stage and is always asking what is for dinner, even if she just ate it, bless her.
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RAINBOWCHOC 2/12/2013 10:35AM

    enjoy time together, revisit some "special places" and take lots of photos.
best advice? Ignore advice!
sending big hugs, xx

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