Tuesday, February 12, 2013


Why oh why oh why?

A few years ago I lost the weight I wanted to lose and got to my goal weight, but I wasn’t happy. WHY?

Looking back, I think I’m making sense of it. I am realising that the dissatisfaction and self criticism was still there, even though I had lost the weight.

Maybe I had expected to be a different person once I was slimmer and that all my problems would be solved? Mistake.

It’s true that I put just a little bit of weight back on and then maintained a fairly healthy weight for a good eighteen months. I was generally OK with my body, but not totally happy.

Is it possible to be totally happy and at peace with your body? I have moments of it but they don’t last.

I’ve been concentrating on making peace with myself emotionally. Healing, releasing pain, changing negative thought patterns etc. I really believe that unless I can love myself completely, I’ll never be happy, no matter what weight I am.

Why do we let ourselves be brainwashed by glamorous pictures and ideas of perfection? If I lose eighteen pounds I’m still not going to look like a model. So, why do we somehow expect it? It’s a bit daft.

Even if I did look like a model, that wouldn’t make me happy either. Happiness comes from somewhere else.

As Davina says, “I’ll never have Kylie’s bum but I can have a slimmer, more toned version of me”. It’s time to be realistic about this weight loss thing…

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    Here's to realism emoticon
    1862 days ago
    I think that the trick is not just to love ourselves, but to remember that really looks don't mean a thing. What one person considers ugly, another will find handsome. The one thing that is always a winner, is the ability to listen to others, and retain what they tell you so you appear interested. Not just champing at the bit to get your story in. And smile, a smile draws everybody in, a scowl is always ugly. If you can learn to live happily in your skin as a fat person, you'll be a more successful slim one.
    1865 days ago
    emoticon words so true. Now to truly believe them.

    Now to say to the mirror, "I love myself completely" emoticon
    1865 days ago
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