It has been almost a year but I AM BACK! This past year has been difficult for my family. Mom has not been well, she was beginning to fall about once a week so it was only a matter of time before she fell and broke a body part... I just could not let that happen so everyday I would leave work around 2pm, go to her home, fix dinner, clean, do laundry, what ever needed doing for her. I have done this since last July and pretty much moved in there. I would stay until 10 or 11 every night making sure she got into bed safely and then return to my own home.
Caregiving is an extremely difficult job for anyone, the stress levels are very high and they tend to take a toll on the caregiver. I did myself a favor and went to a caregiver's conference and learn quite a lot about this. I learned that many caregivers, if they do not take heed to the level of stress they are under and do something about, they end up a statisic. In other words the stress takes it's toll on their body and often time end up with heart conditions, high blood pressure, or it could even be fatal. Needless to say, I was shocked.
I began to change a few things immediately because I am a health coach, and I saw all the signs in myself and tended to ignore them, that is not a good thing! Made some necessary changes, and then mom got sick. Sad to say but it was a blessing in disguise for all concerned. She could no longer live alone and doctors refused to let her return to her home. She had no choice but to move to assisted living. However, she got sick, was in the hospital from thanksgiving for a few weeks, moved to a rehab center and was released on Jan 5th. She was home for six days and then came down with the flu!!! OMG!!! BACK to the hospital, and then to rehab and she is still there!!!
I also received the opportunity to return to work full time and that is a mega blessing. I have been part time for three years and it was not fun. God blessed me with a great job, a promotion actually
I could not be happier about that, and that sealed the deal for mom, she could not even think about returning home to live alone. This whole scenario has been very difficult for her, giving up one's independance is not easy, but she has to make the transition and the adjustment. I love her, it is so hard to watch her deteriorate, but... it is a fact of life.
So I am back, enrolled in SparkCoach, joined a few groups and I am off and running. I lost 60 pounds last year, but with the stress of caregiving, gained nearly all of it back. my motto: never say die! I AM A FIGHTER!
and I am pressing on toward the goal!