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Small goals adding up? Or killing it with hitting it hard?

Monday, February 11, 2013

Ok, so the weekend was pretty rough. I pretty much didn't meet any of the goals I had set out for myself. A kind friend mentioned that maybe I had set my goals to high...I probably did, but that leads me to a huge question and one I probably better figure out.

How high do I set my goals. I guess I don't know. I constantly struggle with KNOWING what I need to do but never seeming to be able to do it. I honestly feel that people sell themselves short, and that we are capable of FAR more than we think we are. When I set little goals it never feels like enough. That I could be doing more.

I worked out with a trainer for 4 years who pushed and pushed and pushed. Nothing I did was really ever good enough, so I think I "learned" that somewhere deep within and now that is what I believe. How do I fight that mindset? How do I set myself up for succes rather than setting myself up for failure? How do I make myself believe that if I set small goals and accomplish them that they will add up to a BIG success in the end? I'm not at all sure I believe that. :( Even as I type this, I think it's kind of kooky, and probably needs some work.

Advice???
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NELLIEC 2/11/2013 4:09PM

    I think it comes down to figuring out the small parts of a bigger goal and make the intermediate steps mini-goals in themselves.

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RX_2_RV 2/11/2013 1:50PM

    You are right, most people ARE capable of doing far more than they give themselves credit for. It's getting to that point that is the hard part. There are a whole bunch of articles on SP about goal setting you might want to check out. Make sure your goal setting technique is as they suggest, specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely (SMART.) I found that when I looked at my own goals, they had some of the elements, but not all.

I think it is important to set small goals because they help me break down a BIG problem, into a lot of little problems. It's not so overwhelming to deal with small problems. Yes, the small goals do add up. You don't always have to believe it...just try it. And don't forget to reward yourself with non-food rewards when you do attain a goal...small goals, small rewards.

I didn't think the 10 minute daily exercise challenge was really going to do anything...but the point was more to form a new healthy habit...not to become an athlete by working out 10 minutes a day. It worked for me. I went from being a slug to walking 45 - 120 minutes a day, every day, in the course of a month. I just trusted that there was wisdom in the process (even though it seemed sort of dumb) and it worked.

Based on what you are saying, it doesn't sound like you are feeling overwhelmed...more like what you do is not enough? Or maybe both? That sounds like perfectionism to me. I'm sure if you posted this blog entry as a question in the forums, you would get a lot of advice and support.

Good luck with your journey to health! I wish you much success!

Jane




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