Psalm 127:3 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward.
As I began to awake this morning I realized that this scripture was running through my mind. Anytime the Lord begins to speak to me as I awaken I have learned to recognize that He is trying to get my attention to speak to me about something in particular. One of my children is going through a difficult time and I have been praying for a specific situation in that child's life that would bring a breakthrough and victory. My heart has always been tender towards my children to the point that when they hurt I hurt.
Heritage – Hebrew word nachalah which means something inherited, occupancy, or an heirloom; an estate, patrimony or portion; to inherit, inheritance, possession.
If you have children, they are a part of your inheritance from the Lord. Noah Webster's 1828 dictionary, which uses biblical definitions, says that one of the meanings of a “portion” is the part of an estate given to a child or heir, or descending to him by law, and distributed to him in the settlement of the estate. God's distribution to us as His heirs includes those children that He has given to us. Do we value them as our inheritance from the Lord? The scripture goes on to say that the children that come from our wombs, as mothers, is a reward. Within the covenant that Israel received from the Lord was the understanding that God's blessing of children was a special gift from Him. They were a reward!
For a woman to be barren and not able to bear children in the Israelite culture was felt to be a terrible curse from God. They remembered that when God created mankind one of the blessings He bestowed upon them was that they would be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth. When a woman was unable to bear children she was considered to be cursed by God. The reward of the womb was taken very seriously. Children are a continuation of our own lineage and are to be viewed as a blessing. The future of our nation rests upon the children that we raise up to be godly members of society. Today if you don't have children it is not viewed as a curse from God, but simply may not be in His plan for your life. His plan might be that you adopt and provide a home for one who does not have a place in their natural parent's lives. Or His plan might be for you to bear “spiritual children”, those who would come into the family of God through your witness. He has a special plan for your life regardless of whether there are natural born children in your life.
Do you have children? If so, how do you feel about them? Do you see them as your inheritance from the Lord? If they are having difficulty are you praying for them according to the scriptures that they would be your reward and live out the life that God has planned for them? God sees the potential in us instead of our problems. He views us as a special and unique creation made in His likeness and image. He doesn't view us according to our difficulties or weaknesses but views us as the finished product of His lovingly shaping us into the image of His Son. God sees us complete and whole in Him, not from a stance of children who are flawed from living in a fallen and sinful world. He always sees the best in each of His children.
When Esau met Jacob after being apart from him for such a long time he asked Jacob who the women and children were that came along with him. In Genesis 33:5 we hear Jacob's answer to Esau:
And he lifted his eyes and saw the women and children, and said, “Who are these with you?” So he said, “the children whom God has graciously given your servant.”
Jacob viewed his children as gifts the Lord had graciously given him. They were his reward and he had lots of them!
When God made a covenant with Israel to be His own special people, of which we as New Testament believers are, He promised to bless them and multiply them so they would be blessed above all peoples.
Deuteronomy 7:13, 14 “And He will love you and bless you and multiply you; He will also bless the fruit of your womb and the fruit of your land, your grain and your new wine and your oil, the increase of your cattle and the offspring of your flock, in the land of which He swore to your fathers to give you. “You shall be blessed above all peoples; there shall not be a male or female barren among you or among your livestock.
God intended for all the nations that they would come into contact with to see the goodness of God through them. They were to be representatives of the Most High God and people were to see that they were a blessed people so that they would want to know this God of theirs. God wanted all the nations of the earth to see His goodness through His people so they would be drawn to Him. Children were one of those ways the nations were to see that God was good to His people.
Do you see your children as a blessing from the Lord or do the problems that they have and are experiencing constantly weigh upon your heart bringing a feeling of unrest, failure and disappointment? There are some ways to pray for our children that will help them deal with the difficulties of life and bring success and victory into their situations. Ask the Lord to direct you to the scriptures that pertain to whatever difficulty your children may be facing. I like to take those scriptures and put them into what I call a “covenant prayer” format. I also will make scriptural declarations over my children such as this one based on Isaiah 54:13:
All your children shall be taught by the LORD, And great shall be the peace of your children.
My prayerful declaration for my children based on this scripture is:
Father, I thank You that all my children are taught of the Lord and great is their peace, their undisturbed composure. Nothing causes them to stumble.
Jesus said in reference to this scripture in Isaiah that “they shall all be taught of God [have Him in person for their Teacher]. (John 6:45 Amplified Bible)
If my children are constantly taught of the Lord then they will turn out to be the people that God designed and created them to be. I do not have to worry that they will go astray because He is teaching them the right way to walk through life. Even when it looks like they are not living according to godly principles I can be assured that God is working in their lives and will do what He has promised. I will continue to stand on His word until I see the fulfillment of the scriptures that I am praying and declaring over them.
How about this one? It's a familiar one to lots of us.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.
My prayerful declaration based on this scripture would be: Father, I thank You for my children whom I have raised according to Your principles. I declare that they will not depart from the teachings that I have instilled within them!
When my children were young adults I often prayed Psalm 91 over them for their protection. I find that even though my children are older adults now they still need their mother to pray for their protection and preservation. They are my heritage from the Lord and my reward from Him! I want to protect what He has given me through prayer and godly counsel when they ask. I may not always be able to direct them through what I say but I can always pray God's word over them to influence them in the way they should be going. A note of caution here: never pray anything for your children that you would not pray for yourself. A controlling prayer based on selfish desires to get them to act in a way that you want is not a godly prayer. Praying that God's will be done in their lives as it is in heaven is the way to pray. He has a perfect plan for their lives just like He has for yours. That is the outcome that we should desire to see in our children's lives.
Father, I thank You for the children that You have given as our inheritance from You. Thank You for placing them in our lives. Father, I pray that Your will might be done in each of their lives just as it is in heaven. I ask You to direct them in the way they should go. Show them the godly path they are to walk that will bring them into the good plan that You have for their lives. Father, I pray that all our children will be taught of the Lord and great shall be their peace, their undisturbed composure. I ask You to work in their lives as only You can do, calling them to Yourself and developing within them a hunger and a thirst for righteousness that they might be filled. I thank You for them and ask that You would direct each one of us in how we can pray for our children according to Your will and not the desires that we have for them that may be misdirected by our own unfulfilled dreams and aspirations. May we be willing to let You mold them into the people that You want them to be and not us taking that responsibility upon ourselves. Father, help us to release them into Your care and understand that You are the Potter and they are the clay and You can mold them and make them without our interference. May we offer them words of encouragement and not discouragement! May we be a part of the solution instead of the problem. Father, help us allow You the freedom to move in their lives as You desire. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.