Sunday, February 10, 2013
More or less "adopt" another 15 1/2 year old boy. Not really, he has a mom, but she has serious health issues that prevent her from doing things. Like going to his football games. This is my son's friend that I like that has been coming around more lately. He is a good kid.
We were talking today while my son was helping a neighbor with some work in her garage. His friend would like to play college football, but has learning issues. "I'll never make it, so I'm just hoping to be a mechanic."
Now, those of you who know me-already KNOW what happened, for those who don't, here's how it went.
Exactly WHY should you "settle" for less than your dream if you haven't even tried yet? I can't do it. (Yeah, kid, WRONG answer. Try again)
Explain to my why you "can't". My reading isn't up to grade level and I can't get anywhere without that. Neither is my vocabulary (he struggled a bit with that word, but now we were getting somewhere!)
Okay, I can think of some ways that might help with those things, but what do you like? What do you mean?
Do you like word puzzles, or board games like scrabble, game shows like wheel of fortune? I don't really like any of those, because they are too hard.
Okay, you don't really like reading because it is hard to do, but it is the best way to improve both your reading skill and vocabulary. What subjects interest you? (Blank look) History? Science fiction? Fantasy? Horror? Military/black ops fiction? What? I don't know it's mostly too hard to understand. Stuff that I can understand is for little kids and annoys me.
Okay, you need to do some thinking for me and find something that you would LIKE to start reading. We will start getting books or magazines or whatever for you to start reading more and between us, we can help you with math and other classes too. He asks my son if I am "for real" my son says "mom doesn't lie"
So we move on to talk about playing football. What do we need to do to help make this happen. He will need a reliable ride to school next school year (there are transportation issues). My son will be old enough for his license over the summer and I will be plenty healed before the school year starts. Problem 1-solved. This keeps him in the best football program in the district and a good academic school.
Next-shoes and clothing. He is still growing and is already well over 6' (I think 6'5")and size 17 shoes. Um, yeah. This is going to take some research! But a few texts to hubs, and he said "blind Side part 2? Sounds doable. Why should he settle for less than his dream if he's willing to work for it? You tell me what you need, and I will do what I can."
So, next school year, I will be going to football games, choir concerts, fundraising for both, outfitting boys for both, cheering for boys for both, and tutoring and nagging about homework for both.
They both have plans for summer jobs and to help me work the market, which I appreciate. And they plan to rebuild my husband's old pickup truck so my son has something to drive when he gets his license. Which I also appreciate.
WOW. This has the potential to be really cool, if the boys actually put the work into what they want for their careers.
If anyone has suggestions for affordable shoes as large as we are going to be needing-regular as well as sports, I would welcome the advice. I thought finding 14's for my husband was hard?!