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Focusing on the journey, not the destination

Sunday, February 10, 2013

The other day I was thinking about my almost 50 pound loss, shy of two-tenths of a pound and I found myself falling into a bit of a trap. I found myself thinking about how I will have to do this over, and over, and over again, to reach my goal and then some.

Itís hard when a person has so much weight to lose. The destination seems so far off.

But donít worry, Iím not discouraged, even if sometimes discouragement seeps in for just a moment.

Thatís because SparkPeople has given me one of the most beautiful gifts, and thatís the knowledge that I can do it, and anything else I set my mind to if I remain constant in my efforts and stay the course.

It had me thinking though, the other day when I found myself a little upset that I came up two-tenths of a pound short of my fantastic goal of my first 50 pounds lost.

It had me thinking about how I need to focus on the journey and not the destination, and in that way, I will be able to avoid compounding the frustration of all of these little bumps in the road that could go from being minor blips to giant roadblocks simply because my focus is all wrong.

Being two-tenths of a pound away from my 50-pound lost goal is nothing, and yet that day, I made it something. I blogged that day about catapulting my bathroom scale into outer space and other such nonsense that well, frankly, though joking, didnít exactly move me forward.

Joking is important sometimes to lift the mood and I think that day it was for me. But I canít stay there and I canít fling my bathroom scale into orbit.

What I can do is reframe my mind into recognizing that it isnít the numbers on the scale thatís important, even though a number on the scale may be a goal of mine, itís the journey I take to get to those numbers.

Itís the apple I eat every day, or the water I drink, and itís the food I pack for lunch instead of going through the drive-thru for convenience.

Itís the good food choices I make every day and all the exercises I do six days a week, alternating strength training and cardio.

Itís in everything I do to take care of myself, better than I have ever done before.

Itís in consistency and in patience. I have the consistency worked out pretty well so far, but I need to work on patience.

I suspect though that patience may come with the shift in focus because with that shift, I am not 182.4 pounds away from my goal, Iím living my goal every day in making the right choices and taking care of myself. And it is in living it, that those 182.4 pounds will go away.

I wonít have to will them away; theyíll just leave on their own.

Also, it should be said that in this shift of focus from destination to journey, that life can be better now than it has been because I donít have to wait for my goal weight to start enjoying myself.

A 150-pound life doesnít have to be any less satisfying than a 332-pound life.

The fun is in the journey and that will make the destination all that much more worth while!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
JLITT62 2/12/2013 8:01AM

    Very well said!

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DDOORN 2/11/2013 12:18PM

    Accepting ourselves as we are is such an important part of truly living our lives NO MATTER WHAT our weight is. Self acceptance and self compassion is a crucial part of growing and attaining contentment in our lives.

I know I'm not there yet as this is one of the biggest struggles for me. Bigger than locking in my workouts, even bigger than tracking my foods.


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VAPIDWENCH 2/10/2013 9:29PM

    Great blog with a profound message to take away about enjoying life whatever the situation. I'm as guilty as anyone of impatience, especially when it comes to certain problem areas (and I'm talking to you Stomach Fat), but it's a strange ol' business losing weight.

When I was putting on the pounds every single addition felt uncomfortable - as if it was serving to take me away from some ideal me. Ha! Those same numbers, suddenly don't seem so alien now that I'm on a downward trajectory.

We can all get trapped inside our own weight, especially because (at least for me) the gain has more to do with state of mind than "food tastes amazing". It does, but ... tch, not the point. I guess what I'm trying to say is: the process of re-discovery is a joy. Whether that's rediscovering confidence, different waist lines, or how to get a kick out of things without feeling uncomfortable. You're right, that adventure doesn't start at the goal weight. It's happening now!

... I sometimes take that for granted.

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MRSOLIVER455 2/10/2013 9:19PM

    Great blog!! I needed that today, I am normally very focused but sometimes you need a new outlook!

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EWL978 2/10/2013 9:15PM

    What a wonderful have every right to be proud of yourself!! I'm proud of you and I just read about you!! emoticon

Keep on keeping on....the rest will come.

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EWL978 2/10/2013 9:15PM

    Sorry for the duplicate...don't know how that happened!!

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THOMS1 2/10/2013 9:06PM

    Good blog. You are right we have to focus on living the journey. I wish you success.

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