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Who Is Your Biggest Critic?

Sunday, February 10, 2013

If you just looked in the mirror and got that 'sheepish' look .......... Bingo!! You guessed it! ............ I think it is fairly doubtful when any of us walk down the street, people passing by gawk and say: "Geez!! Is she/ he ever going to trim those thighs!!?" .......... Or ......... "My ... my! Did you get a load of that neck waddle?!!"

The context brings me to one of those life experiences ........ I don't know about you but I love to study behavior ................ So one time I did an experiment .......... I got all dolled up ............. I mean makeup on, hair just right , wore really nice clothing and carried an expensive handbag .................. Just what I thought ............... In record breaking time, a clerk waltzed up to me and schmoozed all over the place ......... 'Oh ....... Can I help you? ............ if there's anything you need ....... my name is blah blah" .................... emoticon

So then ............ I return to the same store weeks later ............ deliberately came in looking like "total FRUMP!" .............Not a drop of makeup & hair looked like it had been scrambled with an egg beater, had TOO SMALL grey crappy looking sweat pants on and a top with a stain! ......... (I know ....... it doesn't take much to amuse me!) ........... Well if you can remember "Pretty Woman" ......... when Julia Roberts lopped into that ritzy store on Rio Drive .......... the clerks were disgusted and made some rude comments ................. emoticon Baby! Same here .............. The snippy clerk came up to me, (but stood her distance) ...... and w/ lip curling into a perfect downward U sneered ............... "Maaaaay I help you?" ............
I go ....... "Nope ......... just lookin." .......... (spoken like a hick) .......... Her beady eyes followed me at every corner ...................

Sooooooooooo what is the message in all this? ............ Just this morning since it is Sunday, I slouched around frumpy looking .............. (Hey it's Sunday!) ........... But then it dawned on me ............
"You look like a hayseed!" .................. "What is with the rumpled devil may care 'tude?' .............. Sooooooooo I showered, put some cute workout clothes on .......... the best I could find ........... fixed my hair and put on a
smudge of makeup ..............
I strolled by my hubby, who said, 'Oh you look nice .......... are you goin somewhere?" .......... emoticon ...........

Moral of the story .......... As our worst critic (even if we don't admit it) .......... I know if I sluff around looking like a slob, I find that is how I will most likely act ......... But when I put on nice looking workout clothes and look into the mirror ....... emoticon the reflection says, "Wow!! ........ I am sure glad I joined Sparks .......... it is paying off ........... Now I will take that walk! emoticon
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  • LIVINGFREE19
    So true!

    Happy Valentine's Day, lady!
    1319 days ago
  • ALEXSGIRL1
    awesome and very true
    1320 days ago
  • OPTIMIST1948
    I may be my worst critic, but I'm also my biggest fan. Not sure that too much of either is good.
    1321 days ago
  • BLITZEN40
    Psych 101 (or was it 301?) anyway... people judge us by how we look. It's a fact. It's wrong. It happens every day, and will keep happening. It takes a split second to form a first opinion based on visual, and that's exactly what the human brain does. Studies show that even as young as 3 or 4 years old, kids determine who is "good" and who is "bad" based on whether they look pretty or ugly. Blame it on Cinderella, Snow White and all the other fairy tales I guess. You never see the villain or the wicked witch looking beautiful and Cinderella looking less than a 10, even in her work clothes. Interestingly enough, male heroes don't have to live by the same standard- think Hunchback of Notre Dame, the Beast in Beauty & the Beast, etc, apparently men are allowed to look not so hot and still be the good guy.

    I had to laugh when I saw your "her beady eyes followed me at every corner". Thanks for the giggle! Great blog.
    1322 days ago
  • BIGPAWSUP
    Awesome and oh so true!!!
    1322 days ago
  • HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE
    You said a mouthful sister, and every word is true!
    1323 days ago
  • DEBBYFROMMT
    Wow, you said what we all do. Thank you!
    1323 days ago
  • DUXGRL1
    A lot of truth in this!
    1323 days ago
  • -BENI-
    Interesting observation. Sad but true.

    Two cases - I remember when I was a young girl my family and I were at church, it was the hippie time. A guy came in looking frazzled, long messy hair, torn and shredded jeans, nervous and out of breath. My mother wondered if he came in off the street. Someone, I don't remember who asked him to leave. I remember wondering who would ask a person coming into church to leave regardless of how he was dressed. Even at a young age I was pretty disgusted with the hypocrites who sat listening week after week about loving one another no matter what and not seeing what they had done.

    Another case... A company I worked at brought in the dress down Friday policy. The company began to notice behavior too was "dressed down". Calls weren't being returned, more fraternizing was going on, work and behavior were sloppy - all to the point that they stopped it. Business attire was brought back and so was behavior.

    Tomorrow morning I am looking for that red lipstick. emoticon
    Hmmm.... maybe that's going a bit far?

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    1323 days ago
  • DISAPPEARING1
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  • DARLY55
    You are absolutely on target. We our definitely our own worst critics. But, think about this, if we weren't, we might never try to get fit in the first place!?!
    Spark on Spark Friend!
    1323 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    We are our own worst critic and our own worst enemy but we can always change and that is what we are doing every day! Very interesting experiment and sadly true no matter where we live! Why people can't be kind to one another regardless of what we look like is a good question but that unfortunately is human nature!
    I try not to judge others or myself to harshly as we all have faults!
    I have to say that I love cute workout clothes and they do make you feel good!
    Keep on pushin', you are doing awesome! emoticon
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    1323 days ago
  • CARRAND
    You are so right about us being our own worst critics. You are right, too, that we need to feel that we are worth getting dressed up for, even to go for a walk.

    You story of the two store visits reminded me of this:

    One time I was in a trendy young store with money to spend, thinking I might surprise my (thin) daughter with a new blouse. A skinny, trendy young clerk came up to me, looked me up and down, and announced, "We don't carry anything bigger than a size 16." Needless to say, I took my money and spent it somewhere else.
    1323 days ago
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    1323 days ago
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