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Skinny friends...

Saturday, February 09, 2013

Sometimes, I hate to say it but I really hate my skinny friends. When they go on about how society treats obesity and how there is a cycle that overweight and obese people go through where they self sabotage and then give up over and over again really upsets me. What do they know about it? None of them have ever been overweight before so really what do they know? Especially the ones who can eat whatever they like and stay the same perfect size 5. They know nothing about how it feels to have people treat you differently because you are fat. They know nothing about what its like to only eat 1300 calories in attempts to lose weight and how frustrating it is when you haven't lost any in a month. They know nothing of the struggles overweight people go through everyday and how many of us already feel as terrible as others try to make us feel. They know nothing of the pressure to be thin and how its not easy for everyone to lose weight, our bodies just hold on to it. They may think a certain top makes them look fat or those pants aren't flattering but they don't know what its like not to be able to fit into size 16 pants and how ashamed it makes you feel. They dont realize how it can be embarassing to try to go out for a jog and how insensitive it is when they tell me, "just do it, nobody cares." Well, I care. I care a lot. I care alot about how being obese makes me look and how it makes me feel about myself and how all this extra weight hurts my body. My skinny friend will just never get it. No matter how many times I try to explain and how many times they try to emphasize. They just dont, no matter how many times I wish that they could.
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    I totally hear you Stonecot, when people tell me they imagine overweight people only eat junk and candy it makes me want to scream. My family does the same thing Gayle63, they've told me I need to "put down the fork" if I want to lose weight yet get chastised if I dont take a second helping.
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    I agree with you totally, Sweetdreams. The other part of that are the friends and family that preach at you about being fat, but then encourage you to eat! My extended family is extremely guilty of that. It's the holidays...a special occasion...etc. One piece won't hurt...YES, IT WILL DAMN IT. How do you think I became fat to being with???
    1709 days ago
    What I hate most is the medias portrayal of the stereotypical fat person living on fizzy drinks, junk food and chocolate bars. In my experience we don't. We just eat too much of everything. I'm tired of being preached to about exercise and healthy diet, and how 'small changes can make a big difference'! I've done all that! I exercise more and eat more healthily than people a fraction of my weight! Now I'm on a different path. I'm eating exactly as a thin person does, whatever and whenever I need to. Just making sure to eat slowly and mindfully, and stopping as soon as I am full. It's working too, and no calorie counting, bliss!
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    Comment edited on: 2/10/2013 7:03:41 AM
    Many people in today's society have no idea what it's like to be different. Hopefully they never will be in that position. If only we could have them in our shoes for just one day...
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    emoticon emoticon emoticon its the same here, but as they say just keep doing what you do - your doing great!
    1709 days ago
    Been there.
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    Thank you for the comments Mareannie and Desertmoth. I just needed to vent because I felt my friends were being insensitive about my weight struggle. Thanks for the positivity and understanding.
    1709 days ago
    If they don't get it, it is THEIR problem; don't make it yours. Keep your focus and don't let the comments and negativity get to you! emoticon
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    I am sure many people feel the same way you do. I used to be one of the skinny girls and even now I am not that big and I try to be sensitive of the issue you bring up. It does remind me though how Richard Gere said he was married to two of the most beautiful women and they did not see themselves that way. I think society is so screwed up in how women's bodies are portrayed. Look at how many women starve themselves and they think they are fat. It drives me nuts! I try to empathize but sometimes it is hard because how is it they can not see they are not just thin, they are too thin. Anyway, I read another great article this week by an obese woman and how she loves her body in spite of society telling her otherwise. She did say she has a hard time though watching tv etc because of the messages of how she is supposed to look. A healthy body should be what we strive for. The size should be irrelevant. Unfortunately our culture makes too much money selling us diet pills and fads. I am sure you are beautiful regardless of what the scale may say. I can see your Beauty in your writing alone.
    1710 days ago
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