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Changing Focus Changes Everything

Saturday, February 09, 2013

You know how when focusing on something far away, the things closer up are fuzzy and you don't really notice them, until something near you catches your attention and you focus on the thing close up to be able to see it? Then the things in the distance become fuzzy and you no longer notice them. It's very dramatic with a camera lens; the scene focused on the mountains in the distance beyond the garden, and the scene focused on the flowers with the mountains in the distance are two completely different scenes, even though the composition is identical, just the focus has changed.

It works the same with goals. They are in the distance, and we focus on them and walk forward. Until the Reeses catch a tiny portion of my eye and I laser my focus on that little orange package and the distant goal blurs. Then I lift my eyes and see the goal in the distance again. But do I lift my focus before or after I consume the Reeses? How long does the process take? We can't really focus on both at once, anymore than we can focus on the mountains and the flowers at the same time. Step outside and try to focus on both at once. You can't do it.

We all become far sighted as we age, and it would be great if that applied to reaching goals as well. But that takes practice. It's just a twist of the wrist to re-focus on the distance with a camera, but how do we do it with goals? I have reached many goals in my life, and have more goals to attain. I wish they were all as easy as a twist of the wrist, but they aren't. Twisting a mental wrist is harder than twisting a physical wrist, and who would have thought that?

But it can be done. As with any muscle, the more I work that mental muscle to yank my focus back to the goal, the easier it is.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SUSANNAH31 3/12/2013 12:23PM

    This is a very helpful blog -- helping us to visualize something that we deal with almost daily.
Thanks for the new perspective!


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    Thanks for such a great visual!!

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CELIAMINER 2/11/2013 9:50AM

    Ouch, my brain hurts from trying to see near and far at once!

Think I've been more nearsighted than farsighted lately, so I resonated with SANDIEGOJOHN's blog today about reaching a goal, then crashing. While I'm feeling a bit more of a soft landing, in a way that's more insidious, because I can argue with myself about being over on calories, just like a drunk with alcohol, convinced I can quit anytime.

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NASFKAB 2/11/2013 5:30AM

  thanks for sharing

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LESLIESENIOR 2/10/2013 5:02PM

    I love the picture you created in my mind. I was thinking that on my iPhone I use the "pinch" motion to change the focus on my camera. I think I will "pinch" myself when I need an improved focus.
Thank you for being inspiring to so many of us.

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KANOE10 2/10/2013 9:43AM

    Great blog. That was a good analogy. Yes the mental twist to sharpen the goal is so much harder than a physical twist.


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123ELAINE456 2/10/2013 1:29AM

  Awesome Blog. Great thoughts. God Blessings to Everyone. Have a Super Safe Enjoyable Day.Take Care.

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LYNNWANNABE 2/9/2013 11:28PM

    I love your ability to share like that and not leave us hanging, this line...

"As with any muscle, the more I work that mental muscle to yank my focus back to the goal, the easier it is."

really struck home!!!

I really want to mark off a lot more day's and months to get that mental groove in-bedded in my own mind. emoticon (This so ties in with my blog that you posted on... as, I know the longer I succeeded in doing program in the past the easier it became for me; that is, until I was sabotaged by family and friends and my stupid belief that I needed to please them.. or at least I couldn't offend them by insisting my diet was more important than their habits and wishes.) Guess I'm saying they brought the dainty morsels not only into focus, but they brought it into the picture.. my house! grr!

Hopefully, I've learned from my many mistakes and once I get this focus back on track, I hope I NEVER take my eye's off MY goals even if it means displeasing others and having to be less hospitable. emoticon

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GRANDMABABA 2/9/2013 8:43PM

    Great insight and blog. Thanks.

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SUZYMOBILE 2/9/2013 6:00PM

    So did you eat the Reese's or what?? emoticon emoticon

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AVANELL 2/9/2013 5:40PM

    I guess I've lost sight of the goal. The last couple of days have been zigzagging from left to right, from this dainty morsel to the next! Oh my! I must get my focus back on the goal! Thanks for making it clear to me!

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ZEEDRA 2/9/2013 5:14PM

    I'm a little out-of-focus. My zoom lense is stuck. Maybe if I clear up the litter in the foreground, I'll see better. Yah...that's what I'm going to do!
Thanks again, Nell.

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JEANNE229 2/9/2013 3:53PM

    Great metaphor for what we face daily.

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--KREN 2/9/2013 3:31PM

    More great thoughts, Nell!


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BROOKLYN_BORN 2/9/2013 1:22PM

    Nice analogy and interesting that you chose Reeses - one of my weak points.

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CARRAND 2/9/2013 12:38PM

    emoticon emoticon

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GABY1948 2/9/2013 12:26PM

    emoticon analogy...I think you just may have pulled my chain...I'm going to keep thinking on this...I need to change some things. Have a great weekend!

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PINKNFITCARLA 2/9/2013 12:22PM

    emoticon blog!

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ANGIEN9 2/9/2013 12:08PM

    I am thinking of my goals...maybe they need to be refocused! Thanks for the blog. Made me think!!

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