Any suggestions?

Saturday, February 09, 2013

Good Morning Everyone, I have a problem. Since everyone is so helpful I hate to bother anyone for a small problem but it is a big broblem to me. The reason is because I have this all or nothing mentality. Plus the fact I am just getting back on track. Anyway my DH & I go out on Sundays. It is our time out & I do allow extra calories for the day by cutting back on breakfast or dinner. The problem is it's also my son-in-laws bday & they might feel disappointed if I don't have a piece of cake. I guess I can handle it if my calorie intake is way over for the day but can I handle the cake. Do I have the willpower to have that one little slice without going into a eating frenzy? Does anyone have any suggestions? emoticon
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    Ahh CAKE. My favorite. I have found that I cannot have cake, at all, yet. I don't believe there is anything that I won't be able to fit into my diet, eventually but cake is not on that list yet. Only you know what will happen, and inside you do know. Take a page from these other suggestions and have a tiny piece if you are able or say I might have a little later, I am full right now. You should be able to get out without having to have any. Good Luck and think about this.

    1853 days ago
    well, how did it go
    1856 days ago
  • LINZEE118
    emoticon Everyone for your help & input. It has given me a lot to think about!
    1868 days ago
    Remember your 'WHY' for being here!

    I am not a 'wet-blanket' when I go out. I will have a small piece of cake..and I determine that size..and celebrate the celebration with the celebrity!

    For me...I am studying foods and their nutritional value as well as caloric amounts so I can keep track..especially when I am out!
    1868 days ago
    I know what you mean Linda...we have our day out when we treat ourselves, but sometimes, we do get carried away with what we are eating. Trigger foods can cause this..sometimes when we eat out, I sometimes feel I need to have dessert! You asked where to find your maintenance calories-- it is at: (copy & paste)

    I just updated my blog with that link too, since I really don't think SP has that kind of information unless you are in maintenance.
    Once you find that limit out, just allow food up to that amount and maybe allow a little cake. But, if you don't want to eat it, just tell them your feelings, I bet they would understand. Or like ESILBO said, just a few bites or a very small piece and walk away!
    Have a good time! Stay strong! emoticon emoticon
    1868 days ago
    It is always a struggle to deal with "trigger foods". Is this a trigger food for you? If so maybe you could ask for an alternate treat?

    I think they will (and should) be proud of you for using your willpower and trying to live a healthy happy life-not disappointed. Just remind them you want to be around to spend many more birthdays with him and I'm sure that will help put them on the same track as you!
    1868 days ago
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  • SPARROW714
    I think a lot depends on how supportive your family is, will they be disappointed because you don't have cake or that they are eating it in front of you. If it's the latter, I'd take a special low calorie treat for myself to have while they are having cake. Check out the frozen food section for Smart Ones desserts they run between 130-150 calories. If the treat will trigger an eating frenzy, I say too bad if they are disappointed your health is more important and they need to grow up. Good luck!
    1869 days ago
    I recently celebrated my birthday and the plan was moderation. It works for me, but I think only you know whether or not that will work for you. Can you have a small piece and be satisfied? It takes practice. I do much better when I am enjoying these treats outside of my home and with a friend. If I have it in the house I have a tendency to eat too much. If it is a special occasion outside of my home with family and/or friends I seem to do really well. I am able to focus on the people and enjoy a taste. I wish you well on your journey. emoticon
    1869 days ago
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